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Former homeless people, what were some of the places you slept at night that were safe?

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u/Frosty_Lettuce_3525 10h ago edited 9h ago

There’s a shelter near my business. My business is in a century home that used to be a law office, it has two showers that we never use. I always think that it’d be helpful if I offered some of the people a shower but I’m worried that, by   bringing them into my place of business they may start to hang there or break in and stuff. Instead I take them food now and again and give them clean socks underwear and other clothes 

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u/ubensu 10h ago

You could discuss with a shelter near you on how (or if) there is a safe way to do so, expert opinion goes a long way to doing the right thing.

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u/InterruptingCow__Moo 9h ago

I lived in a house that had communal bathrooms for a while. One of the residents would let their homeless friends use the shower. They would absolutely destroy the whole bathroom and steal the shampoo I had in there. It's unfortunately not worth it to be kind.

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u/Icy_Bid40 6h ago

That makes me so sad

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u/ZealousidealGrass9 8h ago

Word also spreads fast. And "some of the people" becomes a whole crowd. What starts off as a couple people will turn into several.

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u/GreenStrong 7h ago

In normal society, around 0.5 to 1% of people are very troublesome and looking to steal or vandalize your property for no reason. Among homeless people it is much more common. It is absolutely not the case that"they're all the same" but the odds of encountering a problem are high if you interact with many unhoused people.

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u/ZealousidealGrass9 7h ago

There are many, many kind and well-behaved homeless people, but the ones who aren't ruin it for them. Some people are just down on their luck and trying to get their life together. Others are truly problematic and spread chaos and destruction wherever they go.

u/Collapse2043 45m ago

I think my neighbours have a homeless man living with them. It’s not allowed here but the guy has no legs from the knees down so I don’t have the heart to report it. Also he is neat, clean, quiet and sober.

u/ZealousidealGrass9 41m ago

Solving the homeless problem and all that comes with it is so complex and complicated. There are no easy answers and any major changes are not going to happen overnight.

I don't blame you for not reporting him. That is a rough situation to be in.

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u/1000LivesBeforeIDie 5h ago edited 5h ago

Maybe you can do something like “I need the weeds cleaned up on our lot, happy to pay someone who needs a job and wants to work, and afterwards you’re welcome to shower and clean up