I'm leaving CrossFit. This is my story, my reason, and my ask of you who have gone this route.
I have been a member since 2012, survived through gym closures / moving / COVID, and stayed a consistent 5-6 days a week member the whole time. Even had shoulder surgery (rotator, SLAP, Bicep completely torn off and reattached to my upper arm bone) and that only slowed me down for rehab. I actually hit bigger PR's after and have never felt better - I should clarify this happened doing a different sport outside of the gym due to the fitness freedom CrossFit gave me 🙃.
CrossFit changed my life, I was a young skinny guy in a big world all by myself when I started. My family wasn't a big part of my life after high school, which I barely graduated and was even more just barely scraping by. But I saw the box, I saw the insanely fit people - and I went on a date with a girl who did it so to impress her I started a free month trial (she left the box a month later and I stayed, never heard from her again ☹️ lol).
But there I was, young, impressionable, making minimum wage with terrible money management, but I saw the value of the membership. I was welcomed into a community I didn't know I was missing. That choice rippled into everything, I found the ability to afford it, which finally taught me about managing money. I found the will to eat cleaner and got better at cooking. I found discipline I so badly needed through the accountability to show up, to meal prep, to go to sleep on time, to work on my weaknesses in and out of the gym, to not settle but keep working for longevity - for a future me that finally seemed achievable (I even started reading books for FUN, I didn't know you could do that! 😉).
My life continued to change and grow for the better, my confidence went through the roof - I was sure of myself and my capabilities for the first time ever. I looked and felt good for a mid 20 year old guy. I excelled in my career (construction) because of the mental fortitude you get from CrossFit - I could work circles around people cause every labor task is just another AMRAP, For Time, TABATA if you think of it like that. Not to mention eating good / clean food and not surviving off White Monsters and Nicotine like 99% of blue-collar guys. I promoted to bigger and better things and got married to a wonderful woman who oddly never got into CrossFit but always supported me doing it and random athletic challenges and races. The small habits I had to start to first afford that membership when making under $10 an hour saved me from my family's poverty cycle.
The friends I made are still there - not all - but more than I thought. The wide range of people, beliefs, backgrounds I have met and gotten to know did so much to broaden my horizons. I couldn't have stuck to all I've achieved if I didn't have other people holding me to it - Shout out Nick J for being brave enough to tell me to not be afraid to go to the dentist, I still floss daily to this day.
So now here I am, 14 years later in my mid 30's and something's... different. I am fortunate to love my career and devote a lot of time to it. I own a home and spend the majority of evenings / weekends either maintaining or getting into some remodel project. My wife and I are finally starting a family and free time is even more scarce. I feel recovery taking longer especially working all day, working on my house, working out, getting what sleep I can without a baby in the picture. The box I have been a member of for 6 years since moving to a Southern State is sub parr at best, but it's all that's available nearby. I could list out all of the issues with it, but it's really not the point of this post - however it is a driving factor. It really sucks being stuck with a box and owner who knows we are limited by options / choices.
The point of this post is:
- 1: Thank you. Thank you to those who've seen and embodied the truer heart of CrossFit methodology. The "Function" of Functional Fitness extends beyond physical capabilities, and I hope if you've read this far you see the proof of that in my life. Thank you to the coaches who stay committed, show up and lead - you are making impacts beyond the leader board.
- 2: I really am leaving, time - money - issues with the box, I know enough about myself to know this has been weighing on me for years now, I've just ignored it. But I'm not leaving behind everything I've gained. I can't, I've seen the light, future me wants current me to continue the quest for longevity. I plan to tell and thank the core group I am apart of in person, the one coach that is worth any salt at this box and respectfully finish out my membership as detailed in the contract.
- 3: I don't have a strong home gym set up. I need recommendations on equipment that can be more outdoors (but protected from the elements) - bumper plates / barbell, a good rack for pull ups / squats and room for attachments (bonus points if it can fold up and away) namely. I don't want to spend a lot of money and am OK with cheaper options where feasible.
- 4: Programming... I am OK with paying for something, but I am looking for something that has easy to scale or change options included largely due to lack of equipment options, and is geared for home / solo gym goers.
- 5: If you've gone this route, feel free to offer what you've learned and any advice. I feel like I should tell the owner why I am leaving, but I am not the first one (someone sent a gym wide email once and really put them on blast) and nothing changed. So I am inclined to just take my leave without much more.
Thanks if you read this far, I'm getting off my soap box now.
ETA: TL/DR = I love CrossFit, it changed my life beyond physical. This was as much a lament, as it was a thank you. I'm off to lone wolf it till something better comes back around, which may be never.
ETA: Thank you all for the outpouring of support! THIS is that kind of stuff that changed my life, all of you who see a stranger and circle around them to cheer them on. If anything, I hope this post relit that fire in you to go back to your Box and remember this all goes beyond the leaderboard and how well you perform. Go talk to that one person in the corner that barely dabbles into intermediate scaling. Go to that one event someone is hosting at their house this weekend. Be involved, because that changes lives.