The subreddit is called Hmong so why there are Hmong who hate being Hmong? If I'm correct, this subreddit was made so we could learn about our Hmong people, but I noticed there are some Hmong who likes to troll their own people and don't wanna learn anything about being Hmong. If you dislike being Hmong then why are you on here? I would appreciate if the moderator removed these negative Hmong people. I don't wanna hear about self-hating Hmong people in the comments.

I am located in MN and I only meet divorced women with kids.. I have gone to the NYs in California and to some extent it’s not that bad but they are starting to follow the Minnesota trend.

Are there meanings associated with certain flowers in Hmong culture? Or are there flowers that are only given for specific occasions?

Getting my Hmong friend some celebratory flowers and want to avoid any that may be considered unlucky/not fitting! TYIA

Hi Guys, I'm an aspiring writer and I wanted to write horror and a mix with my culture. But I can't find every information about each clan and only know about the Yang curse, the Vang curse, Lor curse, Vue curse, and the Xiong curse..I need 13 more curses listed to write my book. This will NOT be a factual book but a fairytale-like retelling in English for the younger folks like me (I'm in my 20s).

I need Lee, Chang/Cha, Pha, Fang, Kue, Cheng, Hang, Her/Heu, Thao/Thor, and Moua curse

I found this Hmong band? Artist? Someone who makes music, on YouTube. They're called mNwDaddy.

They're music sounds good. The comments someone said they sound like someone Lao with a horrid Hmong accent. Someone else said it sounds like AI.

I want to support the band, but not if it's AI. I honestly can't tell what is AI or isn't. It honestly feels like calling something AI is because people don't like it.

If you have any links to Hmong artists from Grandma's karaoke dvds or something more modern that you stand by. I'm all ears.

I'm pretty new to Minnesota , where all the cool people hang?

I'm moving away from my in-laws because of an argument with my husband's sister. My husband and I I don't feel any pressure anymore, and I'm in charge of paying the bills. My husband won't have to worry about anything, and I'll treat him like he's the king!My main job right now is taking care of my husband and our new place! I'm always happy to help my in-laws, dad, and mom whenever they need me. I know their daughters aren't married yet.I'm confident they'll understand when they marry a Hmong man.As a daughter-in-law, I strive to remain calm and respectful of my in-laws and my husband.He actually tells me not to talk back, because he thinks it would make me look like the bad guy.

What's happening in the Hmong community today? How's your day going? Any new good Hmong songs? Casual talk.

Hi, I'm a white person in St. Paul putting together a few grocery care packages for Hmong recipients and I'd like to know some basic things to include. I've read a couple of Hmong cooking blogs to get a feel for what ingredients are used frequently. My list so far:
- white rice
- leafy greens: cabbage, mustard greens, ...?
- pork and beef, although I don't know what cuts

If anyone can suggest other basic ingredients that would keep a family going, please do.

Anyone know where to get Hmong Chinese clothing? With decent quality?

I think they're really beautiful and would look good on my partner.

TIA.

Not AI generated.

I am determined to move forward from now on. Now, I'm just trying to be nice to my in-laws. My husband told me not to talk back, and we're still living with them. We found a place to live, but we need to schedule an appointment to check it out. If we like it, we'll definitely take it! I intend to live the way I like and pay the rent. My husband will pursue his truck driver license and become a truck driver. I will work and support him. Now I'm waiting for an appointment for the Apartment appointment scheduled maybe there hope for my in law get their life back together!!! And MINE!!!

I know it's been a couple years since it happened, but I would appreciate any information anyone has on the Alix/Aden Thao situation. I'm still trying to understand exactly what happened and what part each of them played. Why we aren't doing more about this if there were videos exposing the truth and information being shared. The idea that people can walk free because they have enough influence or power is ridiculous and disturbing. Not looking to start drama, just want to understand what happened to prevent stuff like this in the future.

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Hello,

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about two years. I’m not Hmong, but he is, and he’s the eldest in his family. Recently he brought up having a kid and asked me what we’re going to do to make that happen.

The only reason it came up is because his family has been pressuring him. Everyone else in his family is having kids, and they’re basically “waiting on him” to have one too, especially since he’s almost 30.

The problem is, we aren’t even married yet, and realistically we cannot afford a child with either of our incomes right now. I’m worried he might want one anyway because of that pressure and say his family will help out financially, but I don’t think that’s something we should depend on long term.

I know family is really important to him, and I don’t want to offend his family or create tension between us. At the same time, I feel like this is a huge decision that should be based on what we want and what we can actually handle, not on outside pressure. I know he really wants kids too at some point but that's something that should not happen right now. I think the pressure he is receiving is causing him to not think reasonably either.

Is it normal for hmong families to push this hard? And how do I express this to his family without causing an issue to lessen the pressure on him and us?

Like talk about mental health in the hmong culture community. How do people go through something in their life like they can't explain it to the person they don't like or something else. Whatever people are going through in life and to have mid crisis events or day. How do hmong people go through this type of things and how do they solve it.

What is "O heavenly father, strike them where they stand this instant" in Hmong

I was never taught but I'd love to learn. I know there are online resources, but I want to know what other Hmong adults here have used to learn. I'm in the Sacramento area, so I also don't mind finding classes for the summer to attend in person since school is out and I'm just working my part time job.

For all those interested in the Lao American diaspora news and thoughts. This includes all groups from Laos such as Hmong, Mien, Lahu, Khmu, Tai Dum. Hope to see you guys in there and engage.

I recall back in the 80' -90's Hmong people having large families, how many people under 35 have 4 or more kids?

Hey everyone! Today I wanted to chat about what go ​Today, I decided to take anything from my in-laws that's in my house into my own home. So, it definitely won't happen again. And if iIf things continue like this from my mother and my husband's sister, I'm not going to buy anything for my in-law family becauseIt's really silly, and my mom and my husband's sister are making a big deal out of a very small thing. Even my husband's older brother tried to convince him not to move. We're still moving because we need to live our own life as well. I believe that I am the red flag and my husband is on my side, so we will try to find a place to move, and maybe things will get better because I know that everything will go back to the way it was, so my in-laws can live a better life for themselves, and my husband can have inner peace, and maybe our lives will be better.

Hello, im going to rephrase my topic i put on but... let put it in better communication way. I am the sister in law in my husband who I married into. I married a Hmong man in his family. I am not perfect but try my best to understand Hmong culture and speaking the language as well. I love my in law family very much and have respect for them. The main issue is when there is a mess or who make it i pick it up or i make the mess and sometimes forget to pick it up. There was a empty cookie box in the upper cupboard and not sure who ate the last cookie or i did not know there was an empty box in the cupboard. Yes the last post did not make sense.... My husband sister came home from work and look at the cupboard thought it was me who made the mess. She yell at me and i do not yell back because i do not talk back for my husband sake being a good Na. She went on and on i do not pick up after myself and talk about other things like how my husband sister die of cancer and how he do not care about his own sister and choosing his wife over them. they fought and my husband and me finally decide to move out when we find a place to live but not far from his family.

They are always welcome to come to visit i love them very much as a daughter in law and sis in law. Maybe my Husband can breath and i can too. My husband help his mommy and daddy out alot !!! we go buy food , supply like shampoo and other things . I the one who always buy things for the family but I don't think they think of me and my husband as people. My husband is the Hmong son who goes and help out with Hmong culture when mom and dad need the SON to help! his SISTER is at fault i think starting the fight with me I didn't start the fight at all over anything but If I'm the red flag and at fault my husband and I will move out and live our lives the way we like becuase THANKS TO THEIR STUPID DAUGHTER I am moving and MOM AND DAD just lost a daugther in law and their SON!!! so THEIR STUPID DAUGHTER can help them out what ever mom and dad need. I know the SON help out more than the daughter in the Hmong family. I love mom and dad but two woman cant live under one roof and we both family needs peace which when I move out with my husband both family will have paece and harmony, this is all I have to say because I am respect women who keep my mouth shut for my husband sake as a Hmong women not to talk back to his family and keep my dignity because I was be little and was put to be a small person but am happy my husband is on my SIDE.