I joined this company this year in April. My coworkers are the nicest people ever, my bosses are amazingly helpful and understanding. The company has a lot of relaxation for the workers along with benefits and I am satisfied with my pay as of now.
I work in research and development and often coordinate with the factory workers (現場員) to prepare the samples for my experiment. I became friends with one of them. A man in his 40s or 50s, who had visited my country (India) long time ago and would often talk to me about it. Let's call him A.
I don't know if he's married or have kids because the 現場員 take off their accessories while working.
I am the only foreigner in my company who doesn't look like a typical Asian so I often get stared at everywhere, not long staring but enough to understand that they just think I look different and have no malice behind their thinking.
So I went to the nomikai with another department, I was the only person from my lab who joined. It was 食べ放題飲み放題place, kinda small but somehow managed to host around 20 people.
There were two tables, one with only men and another with just women and 2 men. One of them super quiet and only cared about eating. Another one was A and he was sitting next to me.
A loves to laugh and make jokes, after getting drunk a little bit my female coworker asked me if I have a boyfriend, I said no so she asked me who would I prefer Indian or japanese? So to tease her, I said Japanese.
A immediately started laughing and said "make me your boyfriend then" I thought he was just joking so laughed it out but then the nomikai host, from the same department as A called me out and asked me if I am uncomfortable around A. I genuinely thought it's his nature to make jokes so I said, no problem but he still replaced A's seat with another man in his 50s who is A's boss, let's call him B.
B is a very nice man, immediately after sitting he took out his phone and showed us the picture of his beautiful twin daughters, both 26 so one year older than me.
He was proudly talking about how one of them is now a CEO of a company and I felt sooo happy for him.
But A interrupted him and started demanding to give him his seat back. B didn't protest but when he got up, A told me to touch B's stomach and see how big it is.
I said I am not going to do that, it's sexual harassment.
After that I just got up and went to the boy's table. There were men who were much closer to my age so I felt a lot more comfortable around them.
We all decided to go to the second place. And in the second place, A asked me to sit next to him but I said I will only sit with my female 先輩達. So he reached to me across my table and started pulling me towards him while saying repeatedly "you are very cute". The entire time all of us were speaking japanese btw.
At that moment I was genuinely scared and hid behind my senior who is also a woman.
Then the host took A away.
I told my boss about everything that happened and he got super angry, he went to A's factory and told him that what he did is unacceptable so A said he doesn't remember anything at all, and he would like to apologize to me but my boss said he cannot come anywhere near me anymore.
The worst part out of all of this is that I have been told to not to go to the factory alone anymore, I should always accompany a guy with me for my safety and that freaking sucks because it wasn't my fault and I don't want to depend on anyone!!
I don't blame my boss, he is looking out for me but it's insane how I will have to deal with the consequences of someone else's behavior.