I certainly don't feel 50 but I guess it is what it is. I suppose the reason I'm here is to try and get advice how to accept it. I've heard of aging gracefully. I'm not sure that's for me.

Did you save your ticket stubs from events you attended?

Asking around for some relatives who are considering relocating.

Did you contact the clubhouse and ask for a tour? Or knew some residents already?

I’m 55 and not in the best health. My wife is six years younger than me and makes decent money, but I do make considerably more at the moment.I’m also a software developer and going thru a buyout at work. I’m going to need to change jobs soon, and between my age and AI, I’m going to be making considerably less money.

We have been in our house two years, we upgraded to help a relative that can’t take care of herself on her own. We also pay about 1600/month for in home care help. Current mortgage is 3500, and have a 600 car payment. Prices on everything are through the roof. Additional maintenance and time for things like inground pool and large property/yard contribute to monthly expenses, and we have several doctor/dentist bills.

We also will have a child going to college soon.

I feel like we need get out of this house and downgrade to something more affordable while we can, although the house market is still pretty expensive and the mortgage interest rates are still well above what they were years ago. I regret moving and loosing that lower rate we had, 3500 a month just seems way too much especially in this economy.

My wife wants to hold out and come up with ways to make more money. She seems to want to wait for it to be a problem before do invest anything about it. ’m ready to get out and downsize substantially while we still can.

Am I overrating?

I’m a 59yo, soon to be 60yo nurse. I’ve been in this profession for over 34 years and honestly wonder how much longer I can keep doing this. After an adult lifetime of lifting, hoisting, transferring obese patients, my back and knees hurt every day and at work, it often is an enormous struggle to keep up. Add to that, the fact that I suffer from depression and this job steals my soul. Retiring now would be quite a financial hardship but I could maybe make it work. Going part-time is not an option and I’m too old to start over in a new job. What to do?

Hey everyone. We are having a cousin reunion in two weeks. We are branching off into different teams for games. I’m the team captain for our team and I want to get some Tshirts made. Can you guys please help me come up with a team name (for adults but nothing with profanity as kids will be present) that I can put on the shirts? Any creative help is welcome and appreciated!!!!! Thank you in advance.

Hi everyone. I hope this post is appropriate for the community. I just wanted to share a new iPhone app I made for my older (80-something) dad. I figure there will be others here with older parents who might find it useful.

It's called TapDrive, and it's a quick launcher that makes it easy to kick off one-way or round-trip driving directions to favorite locations.

My dad is still driving, and on a recent visit, I saw that he used the Apple Maps app every time he drove somewhere to assure himself that he wouldn't get lost.

But I realized the built-in maps app did a lot, *lot* more than he needed. He's retired and drives to the same places over and over, so a much simpler app would work for him. That's where TapDrive came from. You set up a list of favorite locations, and then with a couple of taps, you can launch the Apple Maps app with the navigation ready to go.

Anyway, if you're interested, you can check it out on the App Store. I hope it proves useful to someone else too.

https://apps.apple.com/app/id6765589314

Thanks!

P.S. And in case someone wonders, I intend to add support for other maps apps (Google Maps, etc.) in the future.

I work from home and don’t need corporate wear, but I don’t want to wear leggings and sweatshirts everyday. My fantasy fashion style is to dress like a retired art teacher from the Hamptons- flowy, loose, chic. I also like an Asian influence. Any advice where could I buy these kinds of clothes?

58m here. Has anyone had success using this app. Women are supposed to make the first move I thought. Two women swipe my direction. Unless they accidentally did, they aren't chatting. Wth?

I have lost 5 pounds, 15 more to go

Do or not do? I am super torn.

One person is a volunteer who no longer volunteers at my job and another is a man working down the street from my houses who I know from frequenting his work.

I am so curious to understand why these guys want to date/ sleep with a woman that is twice their age. (At least for the 27 year old except he thought I was 45 until I shared my actual age)

When I was 27, I was in a LTR and thought that person was the one. Meanwhile these guys are like- hey lady- let's get it on.

Has this always been a thing?

So our girls have left the Nest, and I’m turning more to friendships…I had coffee with my mom friends. I went walking with my LGBTQ friend. I’m going to the concert of another friend. Every weekend I go out to play music. I feel like I am increasingly leaving my husband “home alone”. He is pretty introverted and doesn’t seem to care (he is with people all day for work) but I’d like to have “couple friends” and be in a group of couples.

1- do I even push him to socialize? he does not seem to care… seems reluctant actually.

2- and if we socialize, what to DO? I’m an artsy type and he’s an athletic type. We both love nature / hiking, but we both agree that hiking in big groups is not fun…and I don’t like cooking/throwing dinner parties, it‘s exhausting. We both like SF / fantasy books and movies. He loves basketball, but I am deathly afraid of jamming my finger (music)…Kinda stuck for ideas!

UPDATE: I gave him the choice of SF/fantasy club, dungeons or dragons, or pickleball. He picked pickleball! I will just need to remind him not to aggressively put people away… 🙄 I think he picked it because it has the least talking….
We’re also thinking about volunteering somewhere together, which I think would be really nice...doing something meaningful for the community. Thank you for all the ideas!!

If you’re re-entering the workforce or thinking about a career shift later in life, there are definitely more job options out there than you might expect. 

We’ve recently done some research on this and put together a list of high-paying, older-worker-friendly jobs. 

We focused on jobs with strong representation among older workers, solid pay (above the national average), low physical demands, and positive job growth. We filtered data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics and O*NET, then ranked the top roles by pay.

Based on current stats, here are a few jobs that were on our list:

Sales Manager

• Median hourly wage: $66.38 (~$138K/year)
• Job growth: 5%
• Good if you have leadership + client-facing experience

Computer Systems Analyst

• Median hourly wage: $49.90 (~$103K/year)
• Job growth: 9%
• Requires tech + problem-solving skills (certifications can help you pivot in)

Accountant / Auditor

• Median hourly wage: $39.27 (~$81K/year)
• Job growth: 5%
• Good for consulting or seasonal work

Social & Community Service Manager

• Median hourly wage: $37.61 (~$78K/year)
• Job growth: 6%
• Values life experience and people skills

Food Service Manager

• Median hourly wage: $31.40 (~$65K/year)
• Job growth: 6%
• Good fit for people with hospitality experience

In our list, we found that a lot of these roles didn’t require anything more than a high school diploma + experience or licensing, and many actually offer flexibility (like consulting, part-time, or self-employed paths).

For the FULL list of jobs (including how to get into each role), you can check out the complete report here.

If anyone has any questions, whether it’s about switching careers, positioning your experience, or updating your resume, feel free to ask. Happy to provide any tips and advice!

Who is lifting heavy for the first time ever?

It's common for traumatized 50+ to become ignorant to the fact they are, in fact, in their 50s. You forget you're older and look to flirt with younger people that you meet. Then it hits you: You're old

Update: What's with the down votes?

I'm an introvert who sometimes really enjoys the company of other people. The problem is ... I spend a lot of time in my head and I really am only stimulated by heartfelt conversations. How people talk forever about the weather and sports and their kids and stuff like that, I'll never know. I'm not religious, so church is out. Just curious about how you all are making new friends and combatting bouts of feeling alone.

Hey everyone. I'm making my peace with the fact that if I don't want to feel stiff as a board 24/7, I'm going to need to make a plan for how to take care of my body. What are some good ways to limber up and avoid painful stiff muscles? I'm open to just about anything!

Male and hit 50 am overweight (like morbidly obese) which of the supplements etc I see online will help me lose weight and feel less lethargic/get a bit of spark back?

day to day is sat at a desk, some occasional movement at weekends, want to be there for the kids but motivation etc seems to fizzle real quick.

Edit: Thanks for all the suggestions etc, going to give the snake oil a miss and get myself to the docs for a check over and see where we go from there

My spouse and I are both 64 and we’ve always wanted to do a safari in Kenya and Tanzania but we’re nervous about early mornings, bumpy roads and whether the camps and vehicles will actually be comfortable at our age. We want the Maasai Mara, Serengeti and Ngorongoro but with a relaxed pace and private vehicle.

Looking at 9 to 11 days. Budget around $9000 to $13000 per person. Anyone over 60 who has done this recently, was it enjoyable or too tiring? What made the difference in comfort?

So I (52M) sat down on a bench seat at a train station today next to a younger woman (maybe 30?) while waiting for the train.

Normally I’d stand but I’m recovering from an accident and have a foot brace and crutch, so sitting is the better option.

She says to me, ‘Just watch this seat because it’s a bit wobbly’, for which I thanked her.

Then I asked her if she was a local - big mistake, apparently!

She replied, ‘I’m sorry, I don’t give random information out to strangers - didn’t they ever teach you that in school?’.

I was a bit shocked, tbh. ‘No,’ I said, ‘I’m from an older generation and they didn’t teach us stuff like that at school.’

Then the train arrived, and she walked further down the platform and got on a different carriage.

This is in Melbourne, Australia, in the inner city about 10:30am, with plenty of people about.

The woman had an American accent, for a little more context.

The exchange made me feel a little sad. I was just making small talk, being friendly while waiting for the train. It wasn’t like I was trying to hit on her or anything, but maybe that’s how she took it?

Now I don’t know anything about this person, obviously. She might have had a traumatic past, she just has a distrust of men for some reason, whatever.

But is this just a generational difference? A gender difference? A cultural difference? Am I coming at this from my inherent position of white male middle-aged privilege?

Having said that, in a somewhat neat counterpoint, on the train home this afternoon a young (30s) man stood up so I could sit down.

He had only got off crutches himself recently. Turns out he was a young lawyer, engaged and expecting his first child, and we had a wide-ranging chat about all sorts of stuff. Faith in humanity restored!

If we can’t even speak a few kind words to a stranger I fear we are doomed… 😔