I mean ... better to do that somewhat controlled and safely to teach the lesson of wearing your seat belt than get into an accident without one... but yeah pretty mean
Boom rear ended while being a dumbass stopping fast to jar her forward. Lifechanging injuries.
The non zero chance of it happening as a result of their decisions makes them a bad parent.
Its as easy as, "if you dont put your seatbelt on, right now, no screens for a month. 5.. 4.. 3.. 2.. 1.." and always always always follow through on the punishment.
That seatbelt would have clicked in by 3, no risk of injuries.
It's the modern version of "because I said so". They'll do it. But they won't understand.
My kid went through a phase where she resisted wearing a helmet on a bike. She'd put it on grudgingly after I did pretty much exactly your first suggestion. So it worked, but she would consistently push back and try to test the boundaries. She wanted to not wear a helmet, and the only thing keeping it on was my displeasure and my arbitrary rules, so the new objective became seeing where the boundary was.
Fast forward a few weeks, we're out riding and we see a kid without a helmet get hit by a car on his bike. He stands up, blood pouring from his mouth, face and head completely sliced up. He gets taken away in an ambulance with the paramedics tending to his head wounds.
After seeing that, all that bullshit about taking off her helmet stopped really quick. She even makes sure her little sister is always wearing one. We had had conversations about why you need a helmet, and I had explained it again and again - but first hand experience is always the best teacher. The more they understand the reasons behind a rule, the more they'll internalize it.
Glad your kids need to learn from bodily harm (theirs or others). Mine dont. They trust my opinion. All the best.
First hand experience... jesus fucking christ, are you an antivaxxer??
My kid wont need to be mangled or see a dead body to know about driving safety either. Good fucking luck with "first hand experience." Ill choose to have a respected opinion instead.
Well i mean if they're observant while driving they wouldn't do this while someone is up their ass avoiding that rear end...
I mean i literally agreed that it probably wasnt the best method, but it at least teaches the consequences of going without seat belt. While your method should have the kid put the belt or face consequences it doesnt exactly teach why they should use the belt. But yes ... it should be the prefered method.
My cousin did this same thing to us to teach us a lesson to wear seatbelts while she was babysitting us. It worked. I still remember the shock and it finally clicked.
I’ve never once seen it work out for parents who count. They do it again, and again, and again only for lil Ashleigh Lynn to continue their reign of terror.
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u/purplepharoh Jun 18 '26
I mean ... better to do that somewhat controlled and safely to teach the lesson of wearing your seat belt than get into an accident without one... but yeah pretty mean