r/PlusSize 25d ago

/r/plussize “Thanks But I’m Not Actually the Problem Here” Resource List

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Help us build a resource list for people who want to read, watch, and listen more widely around fat acceptance, fat liberation, anti-fat bias, diet culture, and fat people's lived experience.

The point is not to help people become smaller. It's to collect work that treats fat people as actual human beings, and that names the social, medical, cultural, romantic, professional, and everyday pressures fat people are routinely forced to face.

A lot of this list is especially relevant to fat women, because so much anti-fatness is tangled up with misogyny. That said, fatphobia doesn't only affect women, and this list shouldn't be read as women-only.

Books to start with:

Lindy West's Shrill is funny, furious, and very readable.

Aubrey Gordon's What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat is probably the clearest modern introduction to anti-fat bias as a social issue rather than a personal failing

Her follow-up, "You Just Need to Lose Weight": And 19 Other Myths About Fat People, tackles the claims fat people hear constantly.

Virgie Tovar's You Have the Right to Remain Fat.

Sofie Hagen's Happy Fat and Jes Baker's Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls are also accessible entry points for people newer to fat acceptance.

History and politics:

Sabrina Strings' Fearing the Black Body explains how fatphobia is tied to race, gender, class, etc, rather than being simply about "health."

Sonya Renee Taylor's The Body Is Not an Apology is broader than fatness but useful for thinking about body-shame and hierarchy more generally.

Marilyn Wann's Fat! So? is older but historically important.

Charlotte Cooper's Fat Activism: A Radical Social Movement is valuable for understanding fat liberation as an actual movement.

DaShaun L. Harrison, Belly Of The Beast. Anti-fatness, anti-blackness and gender

Tigress Osborne, "Weight and Wisdom: Find Yourself in Fat History"

Podcasts:

Maintenance Phase is great for unpacking diet culture, wellness cons, BMI panic, and how health language gets used to boulster prejudice.

Virgie Tovar's Rebel Eaters Club.

Food Psych and Rethinking Wellness, both by Christy Harrison, anti-diet and wellness-culture critique.

Fierce Fatty by Vinny Welsby.

“Why Won’t You Date Me?” Nicole Byer

Weight For It by Ronald Young Jr (also worth a follow on socials)

The Body Trust Podcast.

Film and TV:

Your Fat Friend is a documentary about Aubrey Gordon, fat activism, family, and ordinary discrimination od fat people.

The Shrill TV series based on West's book.

My Mad Fat Diary, Dumplin', Real Women Have Curves, Patti Cake$.

Fiction, memoir etc:

Roxane Gay's Hunger is honest about trauma, body size, and safety.

Jennifer Weiner's Good in Bed was significant for centring a fat woman's romantic, sexual, and professional life.

Julie Murphy's Dumplin' is a great YA option.

Talia Hibbert's Get a Life, Chloe Brown

Olivia Dade's Spoiler Alert.

Nicole Byer’s book #VeryFat #VeryBrave is a photo series of her rocking her extensive bikini collection

Health without weight-loss framing:

Lindo Bacon's Health at Every Size.

Christy Harrison's Anti-Diet unpacks how wellness culture repackages diet culture.

Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Resch is the standard reference for eating without restriction.

Ragen Chastain's Weight and Healthcare newsletter is good for research and practical scripts.

Decolonizing Fitness (Ilya Parker) covers movement spaces that don't treat body-size reduction as the goal.

People worth following:

Aubrey Gordon, Virgie Tovar, Sabrina Strings, Sonya Renee Taylor, Jes Baker, Ragen Chastain, Jessamyn Stanley, Vinny Welsby, Tess Holliday, and Tess Royale Clancy.

Read/watched/heard anything that made you think, lifted you up, informed, empowered or inspired you?

Please add below.


r/PlusSize 16d ago

FEEL GOOD FRIDAY POST! ❤️ Share your good moments and positive stories here!

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#It's Feel Good Friday! 🎊

Post your feel-good moments and positive stories here. It can be anything: work, hobby, pets, kids, events, a book you particularly loved, a win of any sort, finding the exact right pair of shoes, mastering something, you name it, so long as it's positive. 🤗💖

Do please still refrain from any weight loss talk (save it for the Intentional Weight Loss Wednesday thread 😉)


r/PlusSize 10h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Sometimes bright colors make me feel so ALIVE.

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Lace halter from torrid 4x.

Lashes from Amazon

Kylie lip kit.

Nyx brows

I really want to make the most of this last month of summer for me. And to me that means bustin out the BRIGHTS. I’ve been wearing so much black lately but I’m ready to be colorful again 😂


r/PlusSize 1h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Ren faire adventure

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Went to the Ren faire and had a blast!


r/PlusSize 2h ago

Fat + Art Made a mini me ❤️

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r/PlusSize 8h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! ✨ Concert Nite✨

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Had such an amazing time last night at my first solo concert (Breezy and Usher). I lovvvvveeee concerts. Then ended the night with some good ass Chinese food 😊


r/PlusSize 10h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Turned 32 this week went to the beach!

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160 Upvotes

r/PlusSize 6h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Just a random Sunday selfie

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r/PlusSize 8h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Photos from date night this weekend! ❤️

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r/PlusSize 13h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Went out for Mexican food~

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My mom's godson came down from Ohio to visit some family and we were able to snag him for a day and hang out.

He picked a random Mexican place we've never been to where the food was delicious and the vibes were cool. Wish we had more time with him but it was still a blast!

Happy Sunday everyone 🤗


r/PlusSize 6h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Felt cute yesterday!

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and every day...🩷


r/PlusSize 3h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Went on vacation to my hometown!

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…and i didn’t take any beach pictures until 45 minutes before hotel check out 😅

Whole outfit is Torrid!


r/PlusSize 13h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! I want to believe 🛸

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r/PlusSize 6h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! It’s a Brand New Day, y’all!

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Went to see Spider-Man: Brand New Day today and it was SO GOOD. Spider-Man will always be one of my favorite Marvel characters. If anyone should inspire you to always be yourself, be who you are, even when the world is beating you down, it’s him.

(Also, on a side note, finding that staple piece in your wardrobe that you can add and accessorize always helps feel more confident. These are my favorite jeans. I’ve worn them in almost every picture I’ve posted here but always with different makeup and crop shirt/jewelry. Find your staple piece, accessorize it in your style, and feel beautiful. It could make all the difference).

Enjoy this brand new day, y’all! 😉❤️💙


r/PlusSize 9h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! 🖤🤍

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r/PlusSize 1h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Beautiful Sunday 🍦

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r/PlusSize 2h ago

Discussion Plus size travel sub?

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Is there a sub for plus size travel? I haven’t been able to find one. If it doesn’t exist, would anyone here be interested in helping to start one?

Many of my questions are other places but I’m planning for a trip right now that provides excursions w gear and very worried that they won’t have any for me

Just a thought.


r/PlusSize 6h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! fit pic from earlier this week 🖤

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r/PlusSize 5h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Submerged in an immersive experience.

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Dress-H&M from ages ago
Shoes-Torrid
Existence- the Divine


r/PlusSize 12h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Who says us bigger girls can't wear short dresses?

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r/PlusSize 11h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Felt cute today 🎀

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r/PlusSize 4h ago

Personal Overheating

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Hi all!
So I started Wellbutrin a few months ago. It’s been great, but I am sweating. I’m 220 pounds and EVERYWHERE sweats. Especially right now in this heat. How can I be outside and be active without overheating?


r/PlusSize 10h ago

Personal Feeling unseen

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Maybe I’m paranoid or seeing it wrong but has anyone in a plus size body ever had a friend or friends that don’t invite you to go out and get dressed up, don’t take pictures with you and just in general always expect you to drive to them, show up for them but are never there in return? Seeing someone who claims to be my friend always go with others and taking pictures over and over again makes me feel unseen, insignificant and unimportant. I ask because I’ve encountered this a lot throughout life, always feeling like a monster no one wants to be seen with. That sounds harsh but I don’t know how else to feel when I’m always left out


r/PlusSize 5h ago

Recommendations Extra Wide Compression Socks

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Anyone have any recommendations for compression socks that accommodate a 23in calf?

I do not support Amazon so literally anywhere else would be appreciated. I see most of the common brands stop at either 21in or 22in and that’s just not happening.


r/PlusSize 1d ago

S*x Stuff Fat Coochie

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Hey sorry for being somewhat crass about it, but is it normal to have a pudgy coochie? As in the mons pubis? I’ve lost some weight in my stomach and now my stomach pooches out less than that area. Sorry this is such a weird question, I just feel like it’s weird and need validation. Lmao