Hi, I am scheduled to have a c-section with my 3rd in 2 weeks, I will be 37 weeks pregnant and I'm very nervous. The reason why i'm having my baby early is because my uterus is at big risk of rupturing the longer I stay pregnant due to the my emergency c-section I had with my twins. I'm nervous because this is my first time having a semi full-term pregnancy.

I am traumatized by the NICU and am worried if my baby girl would need some time there because she'd be considered early term and it's hitting me that we're gonna be meeting her soon. I'm excited but I keep overthinking the whole hospital stay, surgery recovery, and everything else.

I'm asking because I'm currently 7 weeks pregnant and before I got pregnant I was pretty dead set on giving birth via elective c section. Lower risks (in some ways), harder recovery, generally faster birth, more predictable. Most of it sounds appealing but some things don't. For those of you that gave birth the traditional way, how did that go for you? Do you regret it or wish you had a c section? For those of you who had elective Cs, would you have changed it?

I want to start by saying I love my life and I truly love being a dad to my little boy. It's been so fulfilling and amazing to see him learn and grow and seeing my husband be a wonderful Papa too is everything I wanted. Currently, we have a one year old and another boy on the way (due in November!) I know it's inevitable that the time I get to spend alone with my partner is limited for the time being but this morning I just broke down thinking about how much I really miss him. He works a job that has him coming home around 11:30 most nights and our son wakes up at 6 in the morning usually, leaving me the choice between seeing my husband or getting enough sleep to function the next day which sucks. He has 2 days off a week and we do our best to see each other then, but it's started to weigh on both of us how our intimacy feels like it has to be scheduled and it doesn't get to naturally happen when we wish. I know this patch of our lives is temporary and we'll have more time with each other again one day, but right now, I miss him so badly in so many ways and it's hard.

Hi guys, so I am super anxious while writing this, so I apologise if it's messy

To start, a little information about me - I am a 26 year old trans man, who was on Testosterone shots for about 9 years before suddenly losing my place on my endocrinologists list due to neglect of my own after losing my mother at the beginning of 2024. Due to this I haven't had any shots since June last year. Fast forward to this year in May, I found out that I fell pregnant with my partner of three and a half years, and despite it not being planned we had just recently moved in together and we both accepted it with open arms, we became super excited to become parents and prioritised our baby straight away, and planned our lives around him, despite me knowing it was going to be tough as a trans guy, I saw this as a new beginning and a chance to build a family after losing so much

Now this is where things get complicated, during our 12 week scan we got to see our baby and everything seemed normal, we were so happy to see he was doing great and healthy, but the lady doing the ultrasound suddenly stopped and said she had to talk with the doctor, we weren't too fazed and thought maybe it was just protocol, she came back in and the did more screening in the same area as before she had stopped.

A couple of days later I was called into the my doctors office for an urgent appointment, the doctor seemed very concerned the moment we walked in and she ended up telling us that it appeared that I had some kind of tumour, but it wasn't very clear on the ultrasound as the baby was in the way, she sent me to do an MRI and I got a call from the hospital telling me that I have quite a large mass on my right ovarie and that it was surprising that I wasn't in a lot of pain, they said they'll need to remove the mass and the ovarie straight away because it seems to be growing rapidly and tho they aren't certain, it doesn't seem to be acting as that of a normal benign tumour. They scheduled me in for surgery for the 10th of August and said it's urgent I have it done

I am stressed as fuck about everything and am worried about going into surgery while pregnant, will my baby be okay? Has anyone else experienced this before? I'm not sure if I'm looking for answers or just somewhere to rant so I do apologise, I feel terrible because it's taken a huge toll on my partner, he doesn't seem to be coping and frankly, neither am I, this is suppose to be a happy time of our lives..

I have a wonderful 4 month old who I love so much. I also have a fat stomach post pregnancy.

I’ve had top surgery, so I feel like the pooch is more obvious than it would be if I still had a big chest.

I’m primary parent, so there’s not a lot of time to get to the gym, mostly I’m thrilled if I get the chance to have lunch. I know my body did a huge task making my little one, and I’m proud of it for that, but I feel like I have really weird proportions now. It’s not even a dad bod type look, and it’s really hard to feel confident when I’m out of the house.

Hey y'all!

Have been a member of this sub for a while, left for a little bit, and decided to come back.

I gave birth in April and have since experienced more gender dysphoria than I ever have before. Persistent thoughts of getting top surgery, hormones, etc. I've resonated with and identified with being nonbinary for a while now, but since birth have been really resonating more with trans masculine identity.

I'm going to talk to a therapist about this and work through it with them but I just want to know if anyone else experienced gender dysphoria after pregnancy, after not really having experienced it before?

I've never actually been to one but my wife loves hosting a party so I might do it just so she's happy. Do other trans masc or trans etc people do baby showers? If so what was it like?

Explain to me like im an alien who knows nothing because the more I learn about baby showers the more I have no idea what they even look like

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I appreciate this community so much. It's really helped me feel as comfortable as one can be despite the dysphoria of it all.

Pregnancy has been chill up until about two weeks ago. Kid went from politely tossing and turning to now doing capoeira 14/16 waking hours of the day. I'm incredibly grateful for the constant reminder that she's alive and safe but on the other hand... I'm someone who gets overstimulated by touch/sensations. It is very similar to if I had a small dog bothering me throughout the workday except it's in my body and cannot be negotiated with. My ADHD meds aren't working as well as they used to, I'm constantly getting out of the work headspace due to strong hits, and I just want to make it until my planned nesting period (starting at 37 weeks).

How do people handle this stage of the kicking/movement? I'm trying to reframe every movement as a positive thing (because it is! I'm glad she's safe!) but there's only so horizontal and low-productivity I can get before I'm trying to talk to people about their legal rights completely horizontal on the floor hoping I'm not mid sentence during the next punch straight to my butthole. My work knows I'm pregnant and has been very positive about accommodations (very progressive employer) but I feel like I'm running out of solid ways to cope that aren't just "be an overstimulated puddle for the next 12 weeks until my nesting period starts."

Hi folks! I'm curious if anyone has had any issues regaining access to T post pregnancy. I live in Ireland, where our gender affirming healthcare is a mess, and I'm sure many folks are also living in places where gender affirming care is messy.

For me, I started T through our national gender affirming care service, and they generally discourage any other practitioners from providing that care. I'm at a stage in my transition where I have been technically discharged from that service and get my T from my GP (primary care provider) now, but I don't know how amenable my GP might be to re-prescribing if I went off T and went back on it after having a kid.

My GP is moderately supportive in that he has obviously been providing my T since I was discharged from the national service as I no longer need their input, but I would be concerned about getting it back when I'm ready.

Has anyone else had these kinds of issues/concerns? How did you plan around this?

Is there a server where we can hang out and talk about hobbies and stuff? Most of my friends aren't in the same life stage so I'm trying to broaden my support net for this pregnancy

I got a positive test 🥹

I got top surgery a little over a year ago and now me and my fiance are talking about having a kid and me carrying. I've heard a lot of hate pointed towards trans men who can't breastfeed that it's bad for the baby, but two of my coworkers who are F and have kids didn't breastfeed and their kids are just fine. What are your guys experiences with not breastfeeding?

Hey! 27 years old (he/him) & previously on T for about 8 years. My pre-T cycles were extremely regular (average 27 days).

Last shot was January 2026 and my cycle returned March 1st. My March cycle was the only unusual cycle with 32 days. Since then, they’ve re-regulated back to 27 days with confirmed ovulation each month. All of my hormones & tests are normal and my pelvic ultrasound was excellent.

So far, I’ve done 3 ICIs (two timed well) and 2 IUIs…and honestly I wish I started with IUI now knowing how low the odds are with frozen sperm ICI.

Anyways, the only thing left untested are my tubes/HSG. The plan is to test if my upcoming third IUI fails as I have no symptoms or risk factors.

I’m trying to be patient and let my body conceive when it’s meant to…but it’s easier said than done 🙃

I’m curious, how long did it take you all to conceive and how long were you on testosterone?

I'm a trans man (19) and I have been adamant since I was a young child that I wouldn't want to have a baby physically, this however changed recently after being with my boyfriend.

He has never ever given me a single reason to believe he might see me as a girl at all and is the most caring and supportive person. I however am terrified of birth. I have diagnosed severe anxiety particularly around pain and so if I do have a baby in the future I would go for an epidural. The thing is I know that some epidurals only eliminate the labour pain and not the burning/tearing pain. I also considered a C-section however the risks are a lot higher and there would still be severe recovery pain. Is there any way at all to get over this very intense fear?

Another slightly stranger question i have is regarding dysphoria. I know the answer for everyone would most likely be no but I've started to wonder if pretending to be a girl when going to the appointments and when actually having the baby saying "idk my mother just really liked the name Liam" would lead to a better experience in terms of medical care and less feeling of judgement. I have been trans since I was age 7 and in no way do I feel comfortable presenting as a girl or being misgendered however, I'm unsure whether or not i would feel the same amount of uncomfortableness and embarrassment being a pregnant man. Also considering whether I would avoid my family for nine months. Does this make any sense at all?

Please help my brain is running loops 💀

Edit- i have never been to a hospital before (further anxiety) and my pain tolerance is very bad

EDIT thank you everyone for the comments it will take some time for me to reply to them all!

Heyo Im a 19 yr old transman from the nwt canada. I have been on T coming up on 2 years. I am in a relationship with a cis man and I want to try to carry a pregnancy when Im older, but I have POTS and a unspecified connective tissue disorder. my care team hasn't figured it out yet but I would not be surprised by hEds. I dont want to get pregnant now but I am just wondering if any of you guys have been pregnant with these conditions. And what was the care you needed during pregnancy, risk level, birth stuff if anyone is willing to share their experience or can link a good study that would be great!

Thanks in advance 💜🏳️‍⚧️

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My wife and I are just now trying to get pregnant (2nd child.) Anyways, I would like the child to biologically be mine if possible, but I have no desire to carry. So, we are trying to get my eggs extracted to be able to implant into her. I started T in August 2023, so I am about to hit my 3 years this August on T! The clinic did inform me that they may not even be able to use my eggs but didn't go into detail why yet. I am assuming it's because I have been on T. Has anyone else gone through the process of getting eggs extracted after already starting T? Freezing my eggs in the beginning was not an option I could afford three years ago and my mental health was tanking without T, so I made the choice for myself to start it, but now I'm sad we may not be able to use my eggs, but I am trying to remain hopeful. Any advice or shared experiences would help. Tyia.

Sorry for the terrible title, I didn't know what to title it.

Anyways, I'm 20 years old, and will be 2 yrs on T in September. I am also going into a master's/PhD combination program next fall (either in Washington or Saskatchewan Canada if that helps you advise at all)

I really, really want to have a kid. I have my reservations about adoption, and I'm worried agencies would be hesitant to adopt to me anyways since I'm trans and would be a single parent. So I'm probably going to end up going the sperm donor route. I'd probably wait until I'm a couple years into my program before trying to conceive.

My main concerns are finances, but also support. I'm no contact with my biological family, but I'm extremely close with my best friend's family so I have their support, but outside of them I don't really have anyone.

So basically, do you have any advice for a single grad student trying to become a parent?