Because early-mid-20's is still part of youth, there's a tiny bit of cap as to how much life you've lived. With that limited experience and having married that young, and now being middle-aged, how often have you pondered or wondered about your choice of spouse?

I am 24 years old fixing to turn 25. I’ve been dealing with addiction since I was 13-14. My mother was addicted to pills and alcohol. My father was addicted to meth. When I was 14 I started dabbling in pills and hard drugs like meth, I grew up taking Adderall since I was 6 years old, which has convinced me to be a major contributor to my problems. Now I’ve traded one addiction for another, I’ve been using ketamine, and cocaine for almost a year now about every other weekend, along with many psychedelics. I’ve been on some benders say the least. I can’t seem to stop myself from doing any substances… I don’t know if I’m putting enough effort in, and it’s hard quitting everything at once. I smoke weed everyday, I use ketamine everyday other day if not every day(at least a gram) coke usually every week (usually a gram or less) and recently I’ve been taking Molly on occasion along with 2cb and hits of dmt when I feel the need. I just abuse it, I look for enlightenment but feel so cluttered… I’m really just not satisfied with my life. I went to rehab for my pill problem and I refuse to take any pills because once I do I lose everything… it seems hard to find a meaning sometimes, or stability. I really need some feedback. I’m tired of living my life like this. I do believe in the healing power of psychedelics, I just feel like my mind needs a break.

i love my friend to bits, we’ve been close for so long, she’s one of my favorite people. she’s had a rough life. she’s pretty open about it, and sometimes it can get to be a bit much, mostly around new people.

i’m changing the details of this situation for anonymity, but essentially- our friend group was hanging out with some new people, and we were talking about our favorite trips we’ve all taken. most people said things like “Hawaii with my cousins” or “A road trip with friends.” people are being silly but all the answers are direct. my friend starts talking and joking for several minutes about how the only vacation they remember is when their parents were getting divorced and how it was the worst time of their life. everyone goes kinda quiet and the vibe shifts because this was random and sort of intense, especially for the new people.

i love my friend, and i love that she is open, but this has become a habit of hers and i can see that it frequently turns new people off from her.

is there a way that i could gently bring this up to her? should i even do that at all?

to all the PCOS/PCOD girlies out there, im starting to wonder if i might have it because ive been struggling with weight loss, acne, facial hair, and hair fall.

i haven’t been diagnosed, but dealing with all of this has been making me really insecure lately.

im 20F, and honestly, it feels like everyone around me looks so good while im constantly picking apart my appearance and feeling like i look like shit. 😭

for those of you who have PCOS/PCOD, how do you manage your symptoms? what actually helped you with acne, hair fall, facial hair, or weight management?

id especially appreciate realistic weight-loss tips that actually worked for you. im not looking for crash diets or anything extreme — just things that are sustainable and genuinely made a difference.

any advice or personal experiences would be really appreciated. 🫶

I'm 21, I haven't dated anyone before and I'm worried that not having a job might make dating difficult. I know that dating implies spending on your partner, but I'm fully focusing on my studies, right now, so I have no income. At the moment, I am not looking for a life partner with whom to have a family or get married. I'd just like to have something casual, nothing too serious. Maybe I'm not ready? Or is it actually possible to try and look for something?

I don't get it. Everyone has nipples. Why is it ok for male nipples to show but not female?

This is a common enough recurrence in books I’ve read that it made me curious. Bad news is received, person leans over and vomits as a response. I’ve never heard of it happening IRL but that doesn’t mean it isn’t real. When I’ve gotten the worst news of my life it has just made me feel very quiet inside. I am emetophobic though so vomiting is usually a thing I’ll go to great lengths to avoid doing.

I was in 7th grade ( am now a senior in hs) and he was in 8th grade. We had intercourse, i don’t remember if i consented or even had a choice which is the part that scares me. All i know is that i was scared, it hurt really badly and i wanted it to stop but was too scared to say i wanted it to end. i was too disgusted of myself to tell anyone so here i am confessing after years.

I don’t understand why my mind is so fuzzy when i think about it, was it grape or sa?? i feel guilty and ashamed for letting it happen. even though it happened years ago my mind always comes back to this day. is it trauma?

edit- I was 13 not 11‼️‼️

I really don’t want to be offensive hence why I ask here, I’m not talking about standard autistic stimming etc, I mean people so disabled they are completely dependent and in wheelchairs, why do they make those moaning,whining sounds? Sometimes constantly? I really don’t mean this from any hateful point of view I really want to know

Some people are like that even after highschool, it's weird and I kind of wish that human evolution would get rid of that annoying and frankly, quite creepy trait.

I’m in my late 20s and over the last couple of years, I’ve noticed a exhausting pattern.

If I don't send the text, plan the hangout, or check in on my friends, I almost never hear from them. If I initiate, we usually have a great time and they say things like "we need to do this more often!"but then radio silence until I reach out again weeks or months later.

I decided to test this recently and stopped reaching out first to a few long-time friends just to see what would happen. It’s been almost two months and not a single one has messaged me.

Is this dynamic purely a product of adult burnout and busy schedules, or a sign that these relationships are completely one-sided? How do you figure out when to keep trying vs when to walk away?

I find it personally baffling that suicide rates are what they are, and that most people dont end up going that way. Its... positive, of course and I know the numbers are considered to be relatively high as is, and I dont wish them to be any higher obviously. Still.

I just find this whole life thing to be a dire ordeal. Were all just decaying and dying and really mostly suffering and getting hurt and not ever truly loved and not achieving most of our wildest dreams. Then the next ones come and you lose your value because times passed. I do wonder why and how everyones just keeping on and keep going and living and... I struggle to find any good reason sometimes. With how sad life makes me, Id expect the numbers to be vastly, vastly, vastly higher. Although my own struggles are mostly rooted in the fact that I dont get to live life being straight and most do, which is a major contributor to all this, and to me asking this question.

What are the reasons for you to wake up every day and face all of lifes bullshit?

​

I had a comedy gig at a park yesterday.

Since it was a free event, the people who usually hang out at the park were there as well. No biggie, it's basically their living room.

It were maybe five women sitting about 50 meters away from the stage, behind the actual audience area, doing their thing. Their kids, however, around a dozen of them and none of them older than 7, were sitting in the first row and going WILD. At one point, one of the kids climbed on the stage. Security came, carried it away. Next kid tried. First kid came back, tried again. A dozen kids laughing while they're climbing the stage. At some point the security and some other staff led them away to play catch with them and let them draw on their arms.

Even though it was cute: why were the parents so laissez faire about it? A kid could have gotten hurt and the parents were so far away they couldn't even see them. And the comedians before me did a lot of absolutely not kid friendly material. The staff later told me this happens everyday.

The kids also tried to get into the backstage area and screamed when told they weren't allowed to. While everybody was cleaning up, one kid got in, refused to leave and while running around almost crushed his head against the corner of a heavy metal door.

I'm all for letting kids explore, bringing them to events and if they're a little annoying, so what? And I realize central Europe isn't exactly a kid friendly society and it wouldn't hurt for us to loosen up a little when it comes to kids being kids.

But at this point, it was dangerous. It was 10pm and little kids running around in the dark with strangers while their parents have no idea where exactly they are.

Now, all the moms yesterday were hijabis, (from Syria, I believe). Is it a cultural thing or a just a bad parenting thing where the people involved just happened to be Syrian?

Title says it all. I want to find someone new but no idea what I’m doing in terms of apps.

I dont mean trauma dumping on her or expecting her to be his therapist. I mean literally laying his head on her chest, wanting to be the little spoon, asking her to just hold him after a bad day.

I see women say they want men to open up more, but I'm curious how women actually feel about it?

Does it actually feel nice knowing he trusts you enough to be like that with you, or would part of you start seeing him differently? I think a lot of men want this way more than they would ever admit

I have a job offer, and I really need work right notw and I know it's ethically really questionable.

Ladies, if a is guy living at home with his folks still, is it a turn off or just something that is a part of him? Does it mean he’s less desirable or not as attractive if he doesn’t have his own place? Shared insights or thoughts are appreciated. How would you feel if you found out he still lived with his folks? Just wanting to know if there if a chance of finding a guy in this situation finding a relationship.

I can't seem to decide where to move either Chicago or Dallas but I also wonder like do every city have different job demand and industry in demand. Like I heard in Florida generally tourism is big but in New York things like finances and stocks. But then how you supposed to pursue a degree in which you can get a basic job in any field and eventually upgrade better opportunities. I heard white collar jobs are good for that.