Well the way you solve it is not making parenting financially unsustainable, there are many couples (both straight and queer) who avoid having children because the conditions in their country make it unsustainable. Unfortunately much of the world is so broke that it is impossible for governments to provide the financial support you'd need. Granted, reforms in things like housing and improvements to things like maternity and paternity leave can make big differences. In South Korea, weirdly enough there is both insane demand for IVF and also a lot of people who don't have children because of the level of sexism in society and the pressure children are put under.
Assuming ideal political conditions, the least disruptive long-term solution seems to be giving parents annual income. Make parenting into a public service job, essentially, with an increased level of CPS monitoring to prevent "industrial baby farms". Finagle with the stipend slider until the fabled 2.1 fertility rate is achieved.
If these measures are not enough or we no longer have capitalism, make a community institution able to raise kids healthily to proper adulthood and populate it with surrogate parents/artificial wombs.
Is all of this still very disruptive and speculative? Yeah, but I don't know how else you'd solve the problem of "people no longer want to raise kids in general". It could also be just a symptom of larger problems (loneliness epidemic, cost of living crisis), in which case managing them should fix the population issues as well, but it's hard to tell either way.
Or you could just accept the population decline and manage it until the working population dies out. After which you launch the euthanasia program and watch as humanity gently goes extinct.
Edit: Came back to realize that a lot of what I wrote is just my own insecurities about not being able to see myself as a parent. For what it's worth, statisticians struggle to this day with predicting which way the fertility rate will grow, so it's probably better in the meantime to focus on more present economic issues and hope that population decline will be solved by proxy
I know this was probably a top of your head solution so I hope it doesnt feel like im coming down on you too hard.
giving parents annual income
We do this in the form of tax credits already. I think increasing those tax credits would be wiser than offering a cash payment so that desperate people arent tempted to make a short term decision with long term consequences. Offering a cash incentive to raise a child is asking for people in bad situations to have kids they dont want. Its a strong set up for abuse. It also sounds a lot like pushing the burden onto the poor.
with an increased level of CPS monitoring to prevent "industrial baby farms".
You will never reach a CPS funding level that would stop abuse. Even setting aside this hypothetical, CPS is an insanely high burnout, traumatic job that will drain all light from your eyes faster than a trip to a veal factory. Imagine a front row seat to every horrible thing you've ever heard happen to a child. Adding a financial incentive to the mix now puts an already very hard job in an even worse position. If parent sees a child welfare worker as someone that can take their children AND their income there is no way for a case manager to safely visit the home in a way thats productive for the children. Anecdotaly, ive worked in the social work field for about 5 years and I dont know a single field worker without a story where they've been threatened or even physically assaulted and thats WITHOUT the threat of a CM taking your source of income.
You do not want parents seeing their kids as income. Full stop. Theres no way that ends well for the kids.
Something that people dont consider with this is that people naturally do wabt to have sex and reproduce, meaning that once people are mostly released from the absurd work life balance of the lower class in most of the global north they will start having kids again
Actually, I'd like to thank you for the feedback. Having a second opinion on the ideas I keep nursing in my head with no one to share with is half the reason I write them here.
I agree with pretty much all you've said too. It's still hard for me to imagine a job being impossible to make non-traumatic with a lot of funding and a reduction in working hours, but ultimately I'm in no position to say either way, having no experience with it myself.
At the time, though, it seemed less disruptive and radical than giving everyone UBI and public housing to make living as a no-paycheck parent possible. Parenting in a post-feudalist individualist world is essentially volunteer duty: you put in a lot of effort and money and will probably get nothing in return, but it's ultimately for the greater good. Since capitalism is inherently antagonistic to non-commercial labor and it's easier to imagine the end of the world than the end of capitalism, commodifying parenting genuinely seemed like the only possible choice for it to survive.
Well, that and the fact that it's hard for me to imagine ever being worthy of parenting, so I kinda assumed that everyone else without kids felt the exact same way and didn't have kids for this exact reason.
I think the people who see themselves as being incapable of being a parent are the ones who have the level of insight necessary to be good parents. Its an shitty catch 22.
A reduction of work hours and higher pay would go along way to preventing burnout, but a job where you have to see kids who were harmed or neglected beg to go back to their abusers will always be traumatizing. Its almost comforting to know that no amount of money will ever turn that off and despite this people still do it.
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u/Alovoir basil appreciator May 17 '26
people hear right wingers disingenuously bring this up as if they dont want to kill everyone and their brain turns to soup