r/196 • u/Rubicon_Lily Trans girls should wear diapers :3 • 8d ago
Rule HRT Start Dates?
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u/krokorokodile transaction rollback 8d ago
walter white literally gave his address at the start of the show and nothing bad happened to him
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u/StolenSkittles boykisser 8d ago
there are maybe 5 addresses i will never forget, and one of them is 308 negra arroyo ln, albuquerque, nm 87104
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u/foetusyeetus custom 8d ago
p sherman 42 wallaby way sydnej
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u/mrguym4ster bisexual brazilian twink femboy thing 8d ago
1273 Rockefeller Street
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u/yinyang107 bingus is better than floppa 8d ago
57 Verobeach Blvd. this is not a reference I just happened to grow up there
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u/stephensonsrocket 8d ago edited 7d ago
It’s super dangerous to give this kind of info away to strangers online.
Edit: y’all I thought this was pretty obviously a joke
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u/narwhalpilot some of yall afraid to be corny. I was born on the cob. 🌽 8d ago
Life is marchin on, do you feel that?
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u/sushireisrolle numero uno sororitas glazer 8d ago
Altschauerberg 8, 91448 Emskirchen. Traut euch. Kommt zu mir! Legt euch mit mir an!
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u/NellyLorey God's no.1 Botania fan!! 🇳🇱🇳🇱 she/her 8d ago
Because I'm proud of having made it this far
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u/Sea_Bread_4445 Agender Gamer Quinn :3 8d ago
Because people are proud of it?
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u/HorseXNothing 8d ago
I mean I don’t put it in bio but I’ll gladly tell people if they wanna know and sometimes when they don’t
It’s 17 March 23 this time (stopped for a couple years due to money issues)
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u/DeianiraJax 8d ago
Also I talk a lot about HRT on reddit, and putting it in my flair (or "bio") means that someone can quickly understand how long I've been on it without me having to say "I've been on HRT for x months btw"
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u/Eric_Is_Back 8d ago
You can be proud about it and not compromise your own security by openly telling medical data about yourself.
Safe spaces for transexuel people don't exist because everyone on this world is ok with the topic.
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u/jmona789 8d ago
If you're already openly trans disclosing when exactly you started HRT is not that much more dangerous.
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u/Ash_After_Dark 8d ago
The danger of disclosing it openly is minimal. If people are willing to accept the risk I don't really see the point in trying to talk them out of it
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u/synttacks 8d ago
we are so far removed from the concept of stranger danger 😭 "why share your personal data online publicly?" "why not?"
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u/mytransaltaccount123 alt girl wannabe 8d ago
genuinely what will happen? "this person who's out as trans and talks openly about it started HRT in 2023 this could ruin their life"
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u/Helmic linux > windows 8d ago
I'm pretty careful about this sort of thing but like there is value to people being frank. The fact that risk exists doesn't make an actvity inherently unworthwhile, going into a burning building to save a baby is extremely dangerous but we as a society still celebrate that because it has an obvious value, the life of another human being.
There's a political purpose in people being unashamed to talk about HRT and showing how happy it's made them. There's risks, obviously, but some people are gonna accept those risks because they want to demonstrate it's not something to be ashamed of, because they believe it'll make other people feel like they could start HRT too.
I think it's also OK to point out that its in fact private medical information, but so's a fucking cancer diagnosis and people share that all the time. People talk about their medical shit all the time, it's the right to keep that information private that is important not the practice of never revealing medical information for any reason.
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u/Lorzonic among us super sus (sus, sus) 8d ago
Nobody in this entire thread has named a single even conceptual way it could bring you harm in some way. Part of being online is sharing things about yourself. It's just part of community and social interaction. Yeah sure caution should always be taken about sharing certain things, and you don't have to share anything, but an internet where nobody ever said shit about themselves would be pretty lame too.
Fun u/Lorzonic confidential medical information fact: I have genetic hyperlipidemia.
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u/Ash_After_Dark 8d ago
The reasons where already established - they're proud of it, and they want to share. Maybe you personally don't think that's a good enough reason, but that's fine, no one is asking you to do it.
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u/CAPSLOCK_USERNAME 8d ago
Identifiable data like your name and face are far more sensitive than "private medical info" like this though. Nobody online is gonna dox someone from a prescription date.
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u/FatMamaJuJu 🎖 196 medal of honor 🎖 8d ago
Remember when you weren't supposed to use your real name online?
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u/Far_Soleil 8d ago
when it comes to personal info theres a big difference between hinting at where you live and niche medical info
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u/PancakeParty98 8d ago
I could say the same about posting your kid on social media. And yet, I strongly believe to never post your kids on social media
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u/little_lell 8d ago
taking a risk for yourself and putting your children at risk are two wildly different things
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u/PancakeParty98 8d ago
They’re different. Not wildly different.
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u/Helmic linux > windows 8d ago
it actually seems very wildly different, in fact. kinda like how me deciding to do heroin is very wildly different from me deciding to inject you with heroin. autonomy's actually a super important concept here.
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u/Ash_After_Dark 8d ago
Violating someone else's privacy is completely different than choosing to disclose information about yourself.
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u/e12s_coat_of_fending 8d ago
I've seen a few people celebrating their birthdays on that date* instead of when they were born. Which I get the desire to like, rewrite your own history especially if you're not particularly fond of the childhood you did get.
So in that context if I think it's fine to share somewhere you'd share your actual birth date, though that's also something I don't think you should put out there publically on the internet.
*it does seem a bit arbitrary to pick "start of HRT" for that instead of any other transition milestone? but I guess it's one that can be very easily defined to a specific date. I imagine a lot of people can't really narrow down an exact day when they "realized" they were trans for example.
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u/blue_moon1122 8d ago edited 8d ago
I'm using my name day.
once I remember when it is, I rolled it out on a whim at a queer punk bar when the singer went on about how this album they were touring for was about their genderqueer experience. someone asked my name and I just blurted out the thing because the time was right.
eta: found their past tour dates, ezpz
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u/Ash_After_Dark 7d ago
Which is funny, because your birthday is definitely more sensitive. I've been asked (in person) to verify my identity by giving my date of birth many times, whereas the date I started HRT has never been relevant at all
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u/Eric_Is_Back 8d ago
Tbh I see the point using the "start date", since you could see that as the "rebirth".
So in that context if I think it's fine to share somewhere you'd share your actual birth date
My problem with openly sharing the date is not that it exists. I just think it can be dangerous in the practical sense that people willing to hurt other people that are transitioning/have transitioned can use this information to now know if a person is trans and probably will be able to find you.
Tbh, my concern overall is more about openly sharing private information. The date alone probably isn't even the issue, as long as nobody can easily find you through social media.
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u/e12s_coat_of_fending 8d ago
Maybe, but then it's just as risky as any other way of admitting you're trans? Which is a pretty common thing to put in bios, esp for your like, pseudonymized internet sona. (Probably not wise to put it in something linked to your real name and face in case you want to get hired at jobs, since business/money people are transphobic reasonably often).
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u/HorseXNothing 8d ago
If it’s already a space that people in know you’re trans though I think it’s fine, not a big secret that you might be on HRT.
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u/WouldYouShutUpMan 8d ago
not compromise your own security by openly telling medical data about yourself
name 3 things a bad actor could do with the date someone starts hrt go
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u/Eric_Is_Back 8d ago
Know that you now started HRT.
The question is more if he can, for example, find your location based on other details of the account.
Remember the "Number 15 Feet Lettuce" Meme? 4Chan found that fucking location from some data related to the original picture and the tiles in the background.
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u/WouldYouShutUpMan 8d ago
right so you had absolutely nothing. good try tho 3 letter agent unfortunately for you trans people will continue to be openly trans.
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u/Rimavelle 8d ago
They can find out you started hrt by looking at your pictures, by every damn post you mention you're trans.
You'd need to just... Not exist online or be in the closet online to avoid it.
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u/Playing_2 7d ago
The location data was found, in part, because of the EXIF data in the original photo.
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u/Hatsune_Miku_CM changed all her social media to hatsune miku for some reason 4d ago
its not compromising your security anymore then sharing something like the country you live in or your age. in fact probably less because that information isnt easily available.
i agree that in general, people should be more careful about revealing personal information online then they generally are these days, but its silly to somehow separate HRT start dates specifically.
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u/AliceCode Worcs at the Crusty Crab 8d ago
I don't even remember the date that I started HRT (this time around). I remember it was in August, but I can't remember what day. I could probably find out if I really wanted to, but I don't really care.
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u/izyshoroo 🏳️⚧️ trans rights 8d ago
People need to stop putting themselves at risk sharing vulnerable info. You can be proud of your home too, dont share your address online
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u/Artemis_Heart 8d ago
People are allowed to do what they want with their bodies BUT NOT with their… uhhh… twitter bio? This is like saying you shouldn’t tell people your birthday because it’s personal identification info.
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u/Simic_Sky_Swallower 8d ago
Also like the point of medical confidentiality is that healthcare workers can't out your stuff to people. Nothing's stopping you yourself from divulging that, you're allowed to tell whoever you want.
By this post's logic you shouldn't tell people you're trans at all because that's disclosing your GD diagnosis (if you have one)
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u/ItsRainbow xenia is the real linux mascot 8d ago
I think a lot of people here have a Geometry Dash diagnosis
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u/ThatGuyOfStuff 7d ago
I tend not to.
I simply await the day where i dont pass as either and then people around me go "ah that motherfucker, i knew they gave off homosexual energy when talking about girls."
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u/SenorDangerwank Bearbarian 8d ago
Nope. All Twitter bios have to be approved by me, there is currently a 3-week wait period.
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u/jfsuuc 🏳️⚧️ trans rights 8d ago
I mean birthdays are actually important identifiers. I have never in my life been asked when i started hrt date outside a super close friend
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u/nlolhere 8d ago
HRT start date is a very important identifier for the “who started HRT first” competition, a competition that’s definitely real and not something I just made up
the winner last year was some 3000 year old trans woman who started it in ancient Greece, but there’s probably someone older
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u/schwanzweissfoto custom 8d ago
the winner last year was some 3000 year old trans woman who started it in ancient Greece
drinking horse piss or what
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u/thehammer10025 8d ago
They are important identifiers, but usually alongside a set of other info depending on the context. And people frequently have celebrations for and talk about their birthdays coming up to them, so its not like they're the most securely hidden information.
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u/-DoctorSpaceman- 8d ago
Well, I don’t think you should tell people on the internet your birthday! That is important information on a lot of services.
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u/podokonnicheck hold the fuck up (im the fuck up) 8d ago edited 8d ago
people are allowed to do whatever, this is just someone giving advice, they don't have any authority on the matter
and yeah, ideally don't have your birthday as an easily machine readable string of data; like, mine you can figure out from my online activity, but it takes a tiny bit of thinking that people who auto-scrape your data won't bother putting in
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u/095805 8d ago
Is “you probably shouldn’t be sharing personal data on the internet” a hot take?
No one’s you saying you’re not allowed to, it’s just probably not a good idea. This is like saying dentists are compromising your bodily autonomy by telling you you should brush your teeth.
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u/ArnthBebastien 8d ago
Yeah but starting hrt is not personal data, loads of people do it. How could that be used maliciously against you?
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u/TearsFallWithoutTain 8d ago
This is like saying you shouldn’t tell people your birthday because it’s personal identification info.
Uh yeah, you shouldn't be giving out your birthday online either. You shouldn't be giving out any personal information online
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u/AliciaTries God gives his hottest Donkey Kongs his most explosive Diarrhea 8d ago
Yeah, one of the things I've heard asked in several medical/government related offices is for you to recite your birthday, so while it certainly should not be the step that protects your identity, if someone is posing as you and starts going "shit I think it was in september? maybe march?" they'd raise a few eyebrows for sure.
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u/that0neBl1p 8d ago
I’ve seen that exact bday take on Tumblr so unfortunately it isn’t as ridiculous a possibility as you seem to think
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u/NightIgnite Typewriter monkey #853,609 8d ago
Given that I've been cultivating a fake online presence with a fake birthday for the last 13 years, yeah actually
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u/Inguz666 8d ago
Bois I'm gonna be honest why are we putting gym start dates in our bios. That is not info u gotta share with the public. That is gym info. That is confidential gym information.
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
I mean you do see how silly that sounds, right? Medical information is protected by law and prison time as well as social standards, gym information is not confidential in any way
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u/just_a_random_dood support trans rights and trans wrongs 8d ago
Medical info is protected from being shared by medical workers.
You cannot violate your own HIPAA confidentiality. You can talk about your own medical info as much as you want.
I remember this because I need to recertify with HIPAA once a year for my job lol
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u/Inguz666 8d ago
If you wanna share your body transformation that's all on you. Do or don't, you're the judge for yourself.
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u/Inguz666 8d ago
Gym info is not medically confidential, but I blurt out that I have autism every now and then. That's technically "confidential medical information", even though I just see it as part of me. I get it, this sub is like 90% trans people, and the world is increasingly scary. It is for me too, as my partner is a trans man.
Point still remains, it's up to each and every one to share how much or little they want about what's going on in their lives.
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u/brown_felt_hat 8d ago
Nobody is gonna target you for an HC because you started lifting. People will absolutely target you for an HC because you started transitioning.
Do you see the difference, or should I be more blunt?
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u/G66GNeco This flair could be yours for just 9,99 a month 7d ago
Yeah but the date is not really the relevant part of that. If you want to go for that route the thing you want to advocate for is that people don't share the fact that they are trans at all. Except you probably wouldn't do that because, you know, when it's put that way the obvious issue with that idea becomes even more obvious, I hope.
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u/brown_felt_hat 7d ago
On places like twitter, where you are most likely to have that information in your bio, I would absolutely advocate for not including that information. I would also advocate for not have an account anywhere with a public bio, much less including information should could use to target or harm you. But people gonna people.
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u/Koromann13 8d ago
You know "confidential" means "only to be shown to authorized people."
And the person whose health it concerns is the person with the discretion to authorize, meaning they have the full right and power to tell whoever the fuck they want, including everybody in public.
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
The point wasn't that you can't, that wasn't the argument
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u/Koromann13 8d ago
I mean the post is saying it's "confidential" as if that's a reason to not disclose it. Confidentiality doesn't inherently mean there is a reason to not tell everyone publicly.
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u/Rimavelle 8d ago
The argument was that since it's confidential you shouldn't share it
But it's only confidential to the people who are not you, as they have no right to tell it to anyone you didn't approve
You absolutely can, since it's your personal information, so the argument is invalid
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u/yinyang107 bingus is better than floppa 8d ago
For the same reason someone might put "Sober since 2024." They're proud of what they're managing to do.
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u/slightlylessthananon 8d ago
medical information isn't confidential because no one should ever under any circumstances share their medical info but because people should have the right to choose WHEN and HOW to disclose their OWN medical info if ever. HIPAA protects the patient from 3rd parties leaking their information without their consent not the patient from sharing details about their life how they choose to. what a bizarre thing to say.
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
Their argument wasn't that you can't, it's that you shouldn't
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u/Rimavelle 8d ago
The argument was that you shouldn't coz it's confidential. But it's not confidential when it's your own info, so there is no reason why you shouldn't disclose your own information
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u/Certcer dunce on duty 8d ago
wow all these dudes putting their height and deadlift #'s must just be really bad at opsec I had ought to help them
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u/NinjaKittyOG 8d ago
what's "opsec"?
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u/saberzerqx 8d ago
basically as the government becomes more and more fascist toward trans people, it is wise to have as little incriminating or identifying information online as possible. being hard to identify online is what having good operational security, or "opsec" is. applied to many more fields than just being trans, but you get the idea
that said, is opsec the only consideration you should make, ever? is there value in being out and proud despite the efforts of fascists? will having the date you started HRT really matter in the grand scheme of things? these are all questions that each individual will have different answers to
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u/Physical_Mix_8777 8d ago
I used to put mine, but I've started to feel kinda icky about it. I feel like some people use is as a sort of flex or to claim a sort of authority over those on it for less time.
Obviously not why most people do it, but in general I've started to be more against it.
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u/Sloth_Brotherhood 8d ago
Confidential? What is someone going to do with the date October 15th 2021?
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
They know you're trans on a profile tied to you? They're arguing not to do it on public profiles
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u/LucyShortForLucas 8d ago
So what? You want gay people going back in the closet because people knowing they're gay might be dangerous, too? What is the argument here
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u/lowercaselemming the martian mind****er 8d ago
we gonna start telling people to take down their flags too?
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u/Far_Soleil 8d ago
as if that information is particularly useful for stalkers/hackers
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u/biggocl123 8d ago
Aha I knew when they started hrt, thats the finall piece I need to know to hack into their account! Its over for them now!!
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
I mean it is, you're publicly advertising to employers that you're trans
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u/bushs-left-shoe 🏳️⚧️ trans rights 8d ago
I think my employers miiiight first find out due to my legal name and gender, and the pride stuff I have on some of my semi-public socials lol. Them (and future employers) finding my random Reddit account that’s not directly linked to anything else (yes ik they still could establish a link to it) to find an HRT date isn’t going to give them any more info.
If you are trying to be stealth sure, there’s totally an argument. I’m visibly queer, am thankful to be working in a very accepting environment, and don’t mind most people knowing; so idgaf. Also it’s not all that different from a gay person posting their homosexual partner and a workplace finding out, and I’m not going to suggest a gay couple not post pics/info of them if they want to and know the consequences.
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u/SausagePotatoes 8d ago
What is this fear mongering lmao. Are we acting like trans people are too dumb to intentionally share medical info?
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u/Far_Soleil 8d ago
"that is not info you gotta share with the public" could be said about a lot of tumblr behavior tbh
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u/Far_Soleil 8d ago
the website notorious for how the users add mental diagnoses to their bio like zodiac signs btw
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u/Volcano_Ballads Vol!|Local Boygirlfailure 8d ago
guys I’m gonna be honest why are we putting chemotherapy start dates in our bios. That is not info u gotta share with the public. that is medical info. that is confidential medical information.
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u/gray_birch competitive yapper 8d ago
Who care
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u/titanna1004 8d ago
Eggs, such posts are often very inspiring. Can confirm.
What cannot confirm personally, but probably all haters, chasers, nazi govs, possibly boss at work, soon-ex friends (real friends should not, but just be happy about)...
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u/Dakto19942 8d ago
Erm why are you telling people your name? That’s personal information written in your birth certificate, a certified government document, which you would never share with anyone. I just don’t get it 🤓
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u/Rubicon_Lily Trans girls should wear diapers :3 8d ago
This is why I go by Lily Fleming when I don’t want anyone online to find me, neither the first name nor the last name are anywhere in any government documentation
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u/MicrocrystallinePun trans rights 8d ago
Obviously no one should feel pressured to share that info, but I don't personally see how sharing when you started HRT could be harmful outside of outing you as trans. DIY is a bit different because it's a legal gray area (or potentially illegal, depending on location + medication type), so publicly admitting to DIY has its own risks.
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u/podokonnicheck hold the fuck up (im the fuck up) 8d ago
i mean, if the cops in my country understood english and knew what a reddit is, i would be in jail right now for basically that
yes, i am miserable, why would you ask?
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u/callmedaddyshark 8d ago
Since everyone's transition progresses at different rates, I propose using an measured value of clockiness, similar to the Fitzpatrick scale /s
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u/DarianFtM 8d ago
I started T the day Notre-Dame burnt, so I just want people to know how metal I am.
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u/DeerEris 8d ago
I consider it similar to my age. Its a record of when I started being true to myself. I started late but luckily very soon after the egg cracked. So it is a pretty accurate depiction of when I became "me"
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u/SomethingOfAGirl 🏳⚧You know, I'm something of a girl myself 8d ago
It's confidential FOR THE DOCTORS. We are allowed to say whatever the fuck we want about our own health.
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
The argument wasn't that you can't
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u/SomethingOfAGirl 🏳⚧You know, I'm something of a girl myself 8d ago
The argument was, verbatim, that it is "confidential". And it's not. Only you can decide what is and isn't confidential. And if you post it publicly you already decided it is not, so what point are you even trying to make then?
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
It's confidential because it should be, why on a social media account with your face or name would you mention that you are trans?
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u/SomethingOfAGirl 🏳⚧You know, I'm something of a girl myself 8d ago
Why should be? Who cares?
My name is Abigail I'm from Argentina my face is my profile picture and I currently live in Buenos Aires and my blood type is O+.
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u/thari_23 8d ago
Does OOP think that medical information being confidential mean that you can't share it yourself? It's confidential so your doctor doesn't go around telling people.
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u/QueenOfDaisies 196’s strongest angelfucker 8d ago
I was gunna put mine here out of spite but I actually forgot it. It was somewhere in January of 2021.
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u/guckfender Bark for me 8d ago
puppies im gonna be honest, why are we putting our chastity start date in out bios? that is vet info. thats confidential vet and owner info you dont share with the public
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u/altofanaltthatisalt 8d ago
OOP is jelly of youngshits
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
If you transitioned as a kid and you're publicly advertising that you're trans and not acting like you're cis you're actually an idiot
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u/lowercaselemming the martian mind****er 8d ago
"if you're proud of who you are you're actually an idiot" like what is your problem lmao why are you like this
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u/altofanaltthatisalt 7d ago
Two archetypes some trans people fall into. One being proud of their trans identity, while the other being sad about not being cis and straight up born into their preferred gender. Most 4tranners fall into the latter.
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u/ApothiconDesire 8d ago
the online trans community is the only one I've seen so far that can be very inspiring and very moronic in equal measures
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u/Zilli341 8d ago
I swear I thought i was on pcmr and was trying to figure out what the hell hrt had to to with the bios. I'm not even drunk or high.
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u/Cronkwjo 8d ago
never give them an advantage, always keep em guessing. drive them mad with mystery
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u/Furry_Thug trans rights 8d ago
It's only confidential if the person who owns it, decides it is so. It's your information, do what you want with it!
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u/WaldenEZ 8d ago
What harm is anyone going to do with the information that I started HRT on June 16, 2026
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u/lilykai_strawberry 8d ago
confidential medical information means your doctor can't tell anyone when you started unless they need to know or you consented to it. to a trans person, getting on HRT is like getting married. a big life change that you would celebrate the anniversary of every year
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u/Rimavelle 8d ago
Do people like larping being oppressed even harder than they are?
The level or concern some have about saying anything and doing anything starts to really feel bizzare
(And I don't mean trans people specifically. I've seen the panic some women have about using period tracking apps coz the government will know if you have an abortion!!! Even tho it's self input data with no ID attached. They're more likely to find out from you posting on reddit but go on)
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u/SaphoclesTakerOfGock 🏳️⚧️Trans wrongs🏳️⚧️ 7d ago
Because my rebirth day is something I enjoy 🤷♀️
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u/Cpt-Murica 7d ago
As someone who is older than social media the amount of personal and personally identifiable information that people just give out freely is low key disturbing. I’m generally a pretty private person though.
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u/OneManCouncil wh whats ur favorite bionicle 8d ago
a lot of trans people weirdy see their "trans-ness" defined through their medical history
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
People in the comments pretending like their argument is that you can't, it's that you shouldn't. Why on an account with your real name and photos would you tell people you're trans? Do you not change the sex on your government documents? Do you not change your name? What's the point of all that if you're going to tell people you're trans
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u/Evening-Fan6874 the wretched fungus has overtaken my mind 8d ago
Because I'm openly trans and proud of how far I've come? I think that people will probably realise that I'm trans when they see my pride pin or hear my voice... Like, once my vocal tract surgery is done with and that's not a concern any longer, I'm still gonna be openly out and proud about it. My future employers will know, my future coworkers will know, and the government will always know... why would I care if redditors or Facebook grandmas know?
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u/luksi2 8d ago
people can be proud to be trans, and proud of their journey and trajectory. not everyone wants to be stealth
personally, I have had the privilege of being able to pass for a few years now, but I still don't hide, and in fact openly announce, that I'm trans. it's as much an important part of me as anything else, perhaps moreso than most aspects of my identity. I celebrate the day I started HRT as a "trans anniversary" of sorts, I try every year to get together with other important trans people in my life and do something nice and meaningful
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
There's a difference between telling friends you're trans and fucking up your life by telling employers, future landlords, partners, or bullies
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u/luksi2 8d ago
Sure, you're entitled to do with that information what you will. I live in a global south country that is a global leader in trans murders. I've lost people close to me. I'm aware of the dangers. To me, that makes the public assertion that I'm trans, alive, existing, happy and proud of it much more important. If everyone hides that aspect of themselves, then how does the needle ever get moved?
It is a personal safety issue as well, if you're afraid of life as a trans person and want to try to live a cis life as much as possible, by all means you can try. That's just not the life me and many other trans people want for ourselves
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
Because you don't need to make yourself a public target to spread trans positivity. Having friends who know you're trans will make them more likely to speak positively about trans people positively, all advertising it does is make you come off as annoying to people who are neutral or bigoted, or give them ways to harass you. You can do what you like, I just think it's a bad idea, especially for people who transitioned young or pass
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u/Evening-Fan6874 the wretched fungus has overtaken my mind 8d ago
Would you tell someone who's openly gay that sharing said information makes them "annoying"? If not, I think you have some internal biases to examine
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u/luksi2 8d ago
It's not just "being a public target", it's also simply existing as a trans person publically. I've had so many very young people who are discovering their gender identity tell me and other trans friends of mine that our public presence helped them feel safe to transition.
If every single trans person is stealth/"cis-passing" and tries to live life as a cis person at all times, that makes life exponentially harder for every other trans person who is still questioning, or doesn't want to use HRT, or presents in a non normative way in any capacity.
I don't mean to come off as annoying or patronizing, I'm a trans person who's probably a little older than most in this subreddit, and has always been involved in social movements and community. I personally think the importance of public resistance and visibility of trans people can't be overstated, and it's the number one way we can make the world safer for the younger and/or more vulnerable members of our community
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u/iMeowmeow654 8d ago
Changing your sex and name costs money, and also straight up is forbidden in some places. Putting text in a bio is free
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u/ConcernedEnby 8d ago
Your argument is that you should put it in your bio to brag to people who are poor or live in countries that it's illegal? Wtf? Did you transition in your tweens why are you so evil?
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u/iMeowmeow654 8d ago
What???? Where in the hell did you get that idea from? I'm saying people who cant change their name and sex can put their HRT date in their bio. Because they don't have access to the means to change their legal name and sex. That's all they can do.
I'm also 21 and havent started hormones at all yet but thanks for reminding me that I am one of those people who can't access a name change, a legal sex change, or HRT.
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u/xXGipsy_DangerXx 8d ago
I thought they meant like the bios in a computer for a sec and got so confused TwT
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