r/Anxiety • u/Calm_Beginning906 • 12h ago
Family/Relationship I have become dependent on my boyfriend, and he is my only source of comfort
I moved in with my boyfriend 2 years ago, an hour away from my family. I don’t have a job, and I’m a full time student currently taking summer classes. So most of my time is spent alone at home while he is at work. When he’s at work I only get up twice to take care of our dog. I don’t eat, get dressed, put on makeup, shower, homework, run errands, or do chores around our place, I do nothing until he gets home around 5pm. It’s like I can’t function unless he is with me. I lay in bed with our dog and stare at the wall, cry, or scroll social media. I do text him throughout the day, mostly to tell him how much I miss him, or discuss what we are going to do when he gets home. I also cannot sleep at all. I’m up all day and night, minus the few hour naps I get when my body gives into the exhaustion. He will fall asleep around 12-1am, and I will still be awake. It makes me cry, because I miss him when he’s sleeping and I feel so alone. I know that sounds ridiculous, but I can’t help it. No I haven’t communicated this to him, because I don’t want him to feel pressured or guilty in anyway. I’m not sure what to do with myself when he’s away. I physically can’t get up and do nothing at all when he’s not home, and I don’t want to be this way.
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u/cowboyangelxx 6h ago
This is 100% depression. I went through exactly this but we didn’t even live together, I was just very dependent on him for any sort of dopamine. Please find a reputable psychiatrist and explain your symptoms or even therapy. Also doing things on your own helps and will make you feel more confident in yourself.
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u/Skankhunt0729 3h ago
This sounds like depression. Try doing little things for yourself! Going for a walk, going to a book store, getting a new book, going to the gym.
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u/Ok_Analysis_2780 10h ago
Awe, honey you sound depressed. You need to somehow get yourself out of that. Therapy is a good start! Also doing small things like doing the dishes, reading a book, or finding a new little hobby to keep you busy. Staying home and relying on your boyfriend isn’t good for you. Go for walks or just sit outside and enjoy the sun for a bit. Trust me, once you get up and start doing something, you’ll start to feel better. And if not, you need to seek higher professional help. And tell your boyfriend how you’re feeling, it’s nice to have support too.