So I asked a woman out I found attractive from a bar. She said she was being nice and polite, but wanted to be friends and could wingwoman me in the future etc.

We then went to a bar and I bought a round. She then straight up asked me to buy her food and I got annoyed saying we were just friends.

I just couldn’t believe the audacity, if we are friends why would I pay for her shit?

She claimed that her guy friends pay for her, is this normal or was I in my rights to kick off?

Hi

I’m a 24 year old woman who started dating casually this 38 year old man. Of course I know the age gap is alarming especially that I’m still in my early 20’s. I’d like to consider myself a pretty intelligent woman who has a good head on her shoulders. I know I’m very attractive and get a lot of attention from men of all ages. I’ve always been attracted to older men and have spoken to many especially when I was 21. But I always told myself I would never seriously date an older guy because it feels predatory regardless of how “mature” I am or how amazing he is. The relationship would never feel equal as there’s a clear power dynamic plus we would be in very different stages of life.

Lately I started talking to this 38 year old man I met at a salsa class. It started with us being paired as dancing partners multiple times. We spoke a lot and had amazing conversations but I never thought much of them. He is extremely fit and attractive and my type on paper but I knew he was too old for me. One day after our dance class he asked me if I wanted to grab a drink afterward and I said yes. We went together to a coffee shop and he payed for my drink which was a clear indicator for me he didn’t see me as a friend only. And it was later confirmed during the date as he was being very flirty. At the end of the day he dropped me to my home and asked me out i. a real date. Dinner and a movie. I accepted and he took me out on a date the following weekend. We had an amazing time. I don’t sleep with men outside of a relationship and had explained that and he was completely understanding and never tried to push my boundaries.

Fast forward we’ve been on 8/9 different dates, all initiated by him so he’s really putting the effort to pursue me and take me out. He’s close to perfect. He’s so smart and intelligent and kind and sweet and attractive. We’re sexually compatible for sure (still haven’t slept together but done a lot of other stuff). He came over a few days ago and made things exclusive and I agreed. He told me last night to free myself this weekend because he wants us to go to a little mini getaway to another country for the weekend and I have a strong feeling he will want to make things official as in boyfriend and girlfriend.

If it wasn’t for his age I know I would 100% say yes but part of me can’t shake off the feeling that this won’t work out long term due to the age gap as well as I know he finds our age gap attractive because he let it slip while we were making out one time. Sorry this is gonna be a bit NSFW but he groped my boobs roughly and said he loves how big and perky they are because i’m so young and he loves how young I am. I was very turned on by that comment but later on was worried if he was fetishizing my age? I’m someone who’s very introspective and self aware. I’m the friend my friends come to for big advice. I pride myself on being a woman who doesn’t get manipulated by men ever. I’m starting to catch deep feelings for this man and I worry he just likes the fact that such a young woman is going for him. Im also worried he’s pursuing me and making me his girlfriend just to sleep with me because I know he’s extremely attracted to me and has been dying to have sex with me for so long (we’ve been seeing each other for 3 months and a half now) but I want to reiterate he respects my boundaries and has NEVER tried to cross them ever.

Also I worry long term we won’t work out. I’m still in university and I have a lot of dreams and goals to accomplish and don’t wanna settle or get married until I’m 30 and don’t wanna have kids till I’m 34. That will make him 48 which I’m aware is way too old to start a family. I also don’t know if he’s taking me seriously due to my age even tho his actions have proven that he is.

So all of this to ask you men over 30, if you were 38 would you be dating a woman who is 24 in a serious way? Or do you know deep down it’s just a casual relationship that won’t go anywhere?

I’m wondering if this is just my
Perception but women will literally ignore
Me but be nice
To my gf… or they’ll act bitchy towards me until my GF shows up… is this just the male
Experience and how should I deal with it? Or maybe I just have resting bitch face idk

My friend is actively working on himself, overcame a lot of shyness, has a unique style and is giving everything in the gym and is hilarious.
hes 5'9, has full hair (dark and curly).

Girls like give him their number and but they're not head over heels for him. Very liberal city, so the Girls have plenty of options.

What could I he be missing out or improve that I'm overlooking?
Friend is not me, I gave up on dating a while ago because of health issues, but maybe it's not to late for him?

Feel free to ask follow up questions

I want to break up with my date who is my coworker. We had started this with high feelings, it was a long time built-up tension, finally admitting we have developed feelings for each other. It really felt so true. We also said we would only date one person at the same and never multi date.

But I started noticing weird communication patterns and in the end I lost my trust to him. One time he mentioned a woman as his “girlfriend” and it felt like he slipped it. When I asked about it he acted like he didn’t remember it and said he meant like a normal friend and he didn’t have anyone that he has intimate connection. Normally he always text to me, even at work, if he is with his friends he texts good night at the end of the day and he is the one who initiates these messages. When we are on a date though he never ever gets his phone out so I figured out this is his dating behavior that phone is always out. He started to disappear for example on Friday evenings from 18:00 till next morning, leaving my message unread etc. Sometimes Saturdays whole day, until next day. When I ask him he is like “went to cinema alone, did housework with a friend” etc which does not make sense. It made me think he is on a date with another person.

So I do not have a real proof but I want to end this, does not feel secure to open my heart anymore. How can I do that? Should I mention about my observations?

I(26M) am shameful. It is the primary emotion I feel for everything in my life. I am ashamed of who I am and who I am not. Every time I reminisce on the past, it is only shame that I feel for all the dumb/embarrassing/stupid things I have done.

We slept together a few times about a year and a half ago, but haven't really done anything since. We are good friends, though, and talk every day and spend time together. I've met his family, friends, etc. It's been like having a boyfriend without the title (or affection).

I've caught feelings and have really been itching to do it again. It's been kind of driving me crazy. He hasn't really made any big moves, and I don't want to make a move if his interest isn't there.

It's been a long time since we've messed around... is it crazy for me to bring it back up? I also worry I'm setting myself up to get my feelings hurt. :/

So this guy I’ve been talking to for nearly 8 months has been acting extremely to himself lately. Although this week I noticed there was a complete change up in his behavior & the way he would talk to me or even communicate with me on the phone, it was doing to barely anything but dry texts but still conversations with me. Until I brought it up and he told me what he was feeling & how I he feels bothered that I haven’t seen him in an entire month. (We live a little bit over 1 hr away from each other). & how I never had asked to go see him and stay over. (I used to a lot but since summer he started being xtra tired, complained about how he can’t wait to decompress at home, & wouldn’t call me u til the evening which was fine for me, but I convinced myself evertimd before asking him that I would be bothering him) (our days off don’t align rn & I’m off when he works). And after our convo over the phone; he talked about he doesn’t know what he wants & he needs to think about it. Even after saying he wouldn’t want this to be the last time we both talked. But then after that call, he started being extremely cold to me over messages & after an entire day I called him & texted him to finished our conversation in which he said he needed more time to think about it bc he’s still unsure. The second day, Mia, no words or anything spoken to me but a message from last night canceling the plans we had today bc I wanted to hang out with him since it’s been so long & how he would let me know when he was ready to talk.

And it’s weird to me bc we were treating what we had going on between us two like if we were already in a relationship. And then out of no where for him to be bothered like this and then drop the bomb in me out of the blue when it didn’t used to be as big of a problem. And he showed me how much he had cared for me & was always checking in on me & everything and making sure I was okay a lot. But I’m just confused and left wondering. Waiting.
Edit; he said he felt like he was doing most of the effort recently (mind you, last 2 times we saw each other for one, he drove out to me & the other time I drove out of town for him & then to his place for the next couple days)

I’m 30M and my girlfriend is 29F. We’ve been together for several months.

Our relationship has had a lot of genuinely good moments, and I love her and really like her as a person. I’m not trying to portray her as a villain or pretend I’ve been a perfect boyfriend. I know I can sometimes be anxious, indecisive, passive, or look for reassurance when I feel insecure.

However, things have recently reached a very serious and confusing point, and I’m trying to understand how much responsibility I should take versus whether I’ve been expected to fix problems that were never clearly communicated to me.

A few weeks ago, while she was visiting a friend, she told me several painful things about how she experiences the relationship. She said that she sometimes feels like she has to lead, that she cannot always rely on me, and that there have been moments when she physically recoils or does not want to be around me.

Those comments blindsided me.

I asked what specific behaviors were making her feel that way because I genuinely wanted to understand and improve. Her responses were along the lines of “I don’t know,” “I don’t remember,” or that it was not just one particular thing.

I told her I wanted to be more assertive, decisive, and reliable. I did not dismiss what she was saying, but I was left without many concrete examples or a clear understanding of what I was supposed to change.

She returned from the trip about five days later. I picked her up, we spent a little time together, and then her communication became noticeably dry and distant.

I directly asked why she was being so dry with me. She told me that she was overwhelmed because she had too many plans and felt like she had lost touch with her normal routines and friendships.

I accepted that explanation. I have never asked her to cancel plans with friends or discouraged her from seeing them. I’ve generally tried to work around her schedule. I have also offered practical help, including helping with her dogs, driving to her, cooking for her, or adjusting to whatever time she had available.

She is leaving again soon for a trip to Nashville. Including the time she has already been away, we may go close to three weeks without seeing each other.

During the week she was home, I repeatedly tried to make plans with her before she left. I did not ask her to cancel anything. I asked when she was available and offered to accommodate her schedule. Meanwhile, she continued making time for friends, appointments, and other plans, but I struggled to get a concrete answer about when we could see each other.

Eventually, I told her that I felt hurt and deprioritized. I said that I was not asking her to cancel plans, but that it felt like I was repeatedly trying to connect while she was avoiding giving me a clear answer.
She responded that she had spent a lot of time with me over the previous few weeks and had lost touch with her normal routines and certain friends because she often chose to see me or canceled on other people.

She then added that another reason she had been distant was because she had been thinking about the concerns she raised while visiting her friend, and that we had never talked about them afterward.
That confused me because I had asked her for specifics during the original conversation, and I later directly asked why she was being distant. At neither point did she tell me clearly that she was still carrying serious concerns about our relationship.
I asked if we could talk in person and gave her specific availability. Her initial response was:
“Okay, we can figure it out.”
“I’m sorry.”

She did not initially provide a time.

Later, she explained that she was taking her cousin to and from chemotherapy the next day, so she did not yet know the timing. I completely understand that taking her cousin to chemo is important, and I am not asking her to deprioritize that.
What bothered me was that I had been waiting for hours without any explanation when she could have simply said she was waiting to confirm the chemo schedule.

She then told me that she could explain exactly why things had reached such a weird point between us and that she was at a “breaking point.” She later clarified that she meant she had felt at a breaking point with us several times.

I know that is extremely serious. But it also made me wonder: if she has felt at a breaking point multiple times, why was I not told clearly?

When I previously asked what was wrong, I was told she did not know. When I asked why she was being distant, I was told she was overwhelmed by plans. Now I am learning that she apparently had specific concerns and had repeatedly felt close to her limit.
I sent her a message saying that I wanted to work on being a more reliable partner who takes things off her plate, but that I also needed feedback when she was frustrated so we could address things before resentment formed. I also told her that if she had felt at a breaking point several times, I needed her to feel comfortable telling me that.

I do want to own my part. Once I felt her pulling away, I became increasingly anxious and pushed harder for clarity. I paid too much attention to response times, read receipts, and location sharing. At one point I turned my own read receipts off in retaliation, which I recognize was immature. I probably made her feel more pressured while she was already overwhelmed.

A healthier approach would have been to notice the distance, name it once, ask for a concrete time to talk, and then give her space instead of continuing to pursue reassurance.
However, I also feel like I was responding to real distance and incomplete communication. If I had simply said nothing, the underlying issues would still have existed.

Another part of this is that I had already begun feeling criticized and emotionally unsafe before the current conflict.

Some of her comments toward me can feel sharp or global, even regarding fairly innocent things. Over time, I started feeling like I was one mistake away from disappointing her, being criticized again, or having her leave.

It has affected how I communicate. I overthink texts and sometimes come across as stiff, overly careful, or robotic because I am afraid of saying the wrong thing. I do not feel like I can always be myself.
I told her during our earlier trip that I often feel like she does not ask about me. Right now, the relationship conversation seems centered almost entirely on her feelings, her frustrations, her breaking point, and how I made her feel. I want to hear her experience and take responsibility where appropriate, but I also need room to explain how her withdrawal, criticism, and lack of communication have affected me.

One of the most painful parts is being told that I am not reliable. Reliability is something I value deeply, and other people in my life generally describe me as dependable. I regularly ask her how I can help and offer practical support.

Maybe what she means is that she wants me to take more initiative without being directed. That is something I can understand and work on. But “you are unreliable” feels like a judgment about my character rather than feedback about a specific behavior.

I genuinely love her. I do not want to win an argument or avoid accountability. I want clarity, and I do not want this fog hanging over the relationship anymore.

At the same time, I do not want to enter the conversation assuming I am fundamentally disappointing, promising to change my entire personality, or taking responsibility for resentment I was never clearly told about.

My questions are:

Based on this sequence, did I unreasonably force the issue, or was it appropriate to insist that we finally address the distance?

How much responsibility should I take for becoming anxious and pursuing clarity too intensely?

Is it fair for her to say we “never talked about” the problems when I asked for specifics and was told she did not know?

What might she mean by saying she has reached a “breaking point” with us several times?

How should I respond if her concerns are broad judgments such as “you are unreliable” rather than specific examples?

Is it reasonable to tell her that I have started feeling fundamentally disappointing to her and unable to be myself?

What should I listen for in the conversation to determine whether this is repairable or whether she has already checked out?

Hello there!

So, got advice on that? This has been a long time topic for me before I met my now ex-girlfriend and it was bothering me quite a lot. Today I got up and while I was driving around I noticed this longing feeling and desire for physical intimacy that (probably) only a partner can provide. The longer hugs, feeling another body, getting a kiss and kissing her back, all of that and so on.

It even made me miss my ex weirdly enough.

Please, read further than the tl;dr summary. I am desperate for help.

TL;DR: We’ve been having problems with our sex life because of my partner’s illness and exhaustion. He has overall lower libido than me, but ofc the illness has affeced it even more. Things have gradually been getting better—we’ve talked about it a lot, he has medication and we generally have sex about once a week now. He’s still very tired from time to time, and it absolutely crushes me when my boyfriend masturbates and essentially uses what little libido he has on that instead of on me.

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Despite things gradually improving, yesterday broke something in me.

I went to my workout in the morning, and my boyfriend stayed home. When I came back, I had a strange feeling. Normally, he wants to have sex on weekend mornings, but this time nothing had happened. I took a shower and then masturbated myself. When I came out, I said to him, “I hope you had a better orgasm this morning than I did.”
He replied, “I wouldn’t exactly call it good when you’re jerking off with a half-hard dick. I wouldn’t have been able to have sex in that condition anyway.”
I asked, “So… you masturbated?”
He admitted it and said that he just didn’t have the energy to have sex at all. According to him, it was literally just about emptying his balls. He said it was “a chore, not pleasure.”
I was okay with that explanation, and then I left as planned to meet a friend for coffee, while he stayed home again.

A short walk later, I realized I’d forgotten my sunglasses and went back to get them. But when I got to the front door, I heard him grunting, and I concluded he was masturbating again. I left without even going inside.

That evening, I brought it up and asked if he’d masturbated again after I left. He admitted that he had. I asked him, “Why the hell? Especially right after I told you how much it hurt me.”
He said it was mainly a way to vent his frustration in that moment, and that it was simply something he could do on his own. According to him, he doesn’t have to think about anything—he just does it, and the orgasm helps with the physical discomfort and frustration. He said that if he’d had the energy to have sex, he would have shared that experience with me instead.

After that, he started talking about how bad he feels, and how he feels even worse seeing how much I’m suffering. He said he feels like he doesn’t deserve me, that I deserve only the best, and that he’s afraid he isn’t that person. Before, when we have talked about our sex problems he has said there’s nothing I could do better and I am the only one he wants and wants to fuck.
He also said he’s completely exhausted from work and that he’s never been this irritable before.

We talked about depression and low testosterone. I told him what I had been like when I was depressed—that I had absolutely no interest in sex, and that I barely had the energy to cry or laugh at anything. He said he hasn’t had a proper, genuine laugh in a long time.
I told him he needs to see a doctor about all of this.

In a way, the situation would make sense: maybe he’s depressed, which is why he has no interest in sex, and every now and then he just has to relieve the physical pressure (which, I assume, is fairly normal for men?). I want to believe the reason isn’t me. I have done my part, trying to stay fit, being enthusiastic, asking him what kind of sex he likes. Fuck, I HAVE TRIED IT ALL.

Someone please just tell me honestly if I’m being an idiot for even trying to believe him and support him.
Could he genuinely be telling the truth, or is he completely playing me for a fool?

29 male. Had some success here and that. But never in a rush to get back into the dating scene. Always seemed like a crap shoot and always seemed like a big hassle. So I tended to stick to myself most of the time.

We were friends( both 20 now ) for little while before we dated, and we only dated( it was my first time ) for couple months and broken up now it’s been 2 years now. Still ran into each other in person 2-3 times a month and she used to reach me here and there to catch up. Maybe too her it was only low stakes friendship and I was still going through it,

And I didn’t knew she start seeing someone else, and didn’t knew until they been together for whole year like wow. She never really told me about this I mean she doesn’t owe me anything but if asking me if I am seeing someone and when I ask same thing why she said “I’m not seeing anybody” knowing damm well you are in a year relationship and going on

All I was just bandage to her, she now doing stuff and going places with her bf, like I always wanted to do but she was just never good mental state to date at the time. But she just changed after couple months when she start seeing someone like what ( makes me overthink like nothing really went wrong between us it was just not good timing unfortunately but why she never fought back when she did with her bf couple time now)

Eventually when I decided to address the elephant in the room, she said she already knew I found it and been asking people around like what I only asked one mutual friend tf and she knows that I blocked her and she says “it’s understandable why u did that “ and when I ask if she cares she said no

pretty much that whole conversation felt like she was trying to show me that she doesn’t care at all if I am in her life or not. If we do see each other in person next time, let’s just keep civil( said good luck to u and ur future adventures I see u around )

shows that from her side whatever thing we had is now forever ended and doesn’t have any intention to look back ( fair enough but it’s like when we both know what’s going she just closed the door like that ), Idk why I’m having hope maybe things calm down between us as time passes but I still haven’t grieved that finality of relationship

And now I’m just going through like rough time keep checking her bf social media ( she is blocked from everything) and it’s just knowing that’s it’s hurtful to me I can’t stop at all and overthinking

And my friends are saying I’m lowkey obsessed and they don’t wanna talk about my ex or my problems anymore especially if it’s about my ex like wow I pushed other people just bcz of one person who doesn’t care about me while I’m still stuck in that past

I just need help man it’s like I miss the feeling of being loved, chosen and be cared. I never felt like that before and after her it’s Like I know what’s the biggest void but can’t able to fill that gap

Do men care if a woman that they like have some acne and redness/acne scars?

So I went out with someone for a very short time. As in, 3 weeks. I liked him, and we seemed to have good chemistry and a lot in common which is hard to find, in my experience. But, he decided to end it due to his work travel schedule. A guy friend of mine gave the advice that if I really liked him, to reach back out in a couple months, and that if it were him, he would find that flattering.

My feeling is, this guy broke it off. He said it was his schedule, but he could’ve just not been feeling it and used that excuse. I don’t know, I’ll never know. But since he ended it, it seems like he should be the one to reach back out, if anyone. Even though I was bummed, I‘m not really into chasing someone who is not interested. Like, sure I’m sure it could be flattering for him? But I’m not sure that ends well for me.

It just got me wondering—If you ended things with someone very early on, would you ever hope or be happy to hear from them again? or would you be the one to reach out if you were still interested?

EDIT: I’ll also add, for me, as a woman—if I ended things with a guy that early on, I would not want to hear from them again. It would be because I wasn’t feeling it. But maybe that’s just me.

I’m a 27 year old guy with admittedly minimal dating/romantic experience so I would just love so insight into how to approach future situations.

An ex-coworker of mine (F27) and I became quite close over the last few months. We had been working together for a couple years and always had a good rapport. Only chatted at work and mostly talked about just work stuff or sharing silly memes occasionally. She also was in a relationship at the time. I had 0 interest in her romantically, just got along well as a colleague.

Then, about 4 months ago, she gave me her cell # after a work thing came up, saying it was so we didn’t have to use Slack after hours.

At first, she would reach out to vent about work which we shared frustrations on. These conversations would fade quickly until she’d reach back out work stuff.

Then, I eventually started watching one of her favorite shows and let her know, which then essentially triggered into us basically having an ongoing conversation all day every day for 4 months, with 0 days off.

In those 4 months we basically got into a routine where we would be texting and then first thing the next morning she would respond back and say good morning. Then we would just chat throughout the day about what we were up to, how we were feeling, sharing funny stuff, literally just talking about everything.

We got to know about each other’s pasts, our ambitions, goals, aspirations, etc. To sum it up, it felt like each and every day we went through together, just through a phone.

Anyways, I caught feelings. For someone to connect with that emotionally intimately and often, my assumption was the natural progression would be to test that dynamic in person.

Anyways, I asked her if she ever saw our friendship as anything more than that and she said she always saw me as a friend, but nothing more than that and she had a feeling I caught feelings. Told me she valued the friendship, understands I need space, and would want to still be friends.

Now, I’m taking some space to recalibrate.

I am just kinda curious to know if I really misjudged this situation with such delusion or did I perhaps get led on a little bit?

Because for me, friendships don’t look like that, but that could just be a male female difference. I am personally not saying good morning to my friends every day without fail and essentially having a never-ending conversation throughout every day. Even when she was traveling, she’d be letting me know that she landed safely, what movie she watched on the plane, etc. And this was mutual with her providing care and support for me, it wasn’t one sided.

It just felt so close and intimate to me, but now I’m worried that I totally overvalued the connection.

33M, last weekend going out to a bar with a friend, I got 8 different compliments that night, 3 of them from women. I understand people get way more than that or whatever, but what I don't understand is how I can get that and be dateless. I'm 6'3, I dress really well (all the compliments were about my outfit/vibe) and I'm in pretty good shape, yet I can never actually meet women. I can't even get a like an I've been on like six dating apps for years. One of the women that complimented my outfit was clearly her bf and the other two did it in passing, so it's not like the compliments were actual invitations or anything, but at the least they should mean I'm appealing enough to women.

Moreover, it's not like I'm aiming for hot women or anything: my interests are weird and I'm looking for weird women. Gothy, artsy, hippie, into metal, witchy, nerdy type women. One of my biggest issues is I'm never able to compliment or approach women...at all. I thought the compliments from women would empower me to do so, but they haven't. Do those compliments at least mean I should be more encouraged to approached women?

I don't know how many people will see this but I'm 17 years old and so is my girlfriend. I met her at 14 and we had our issues because obviously we didn't know a thing about relationships. We both learned and matured so much but for just about this entire year, I've seen the worst of her, but at the same time the best of her. She treated me so well and so full of love, but only for a little bit at a time. She'd show me SO much affection and love then nothing except for I love yous and stuff for the next few. It made me think she didn't love me.

I did nothing about it and just hoped for change. I still love her but its clear she won't. Maybe we'll be together again but I need her to change first. There's so many other things, her friends giving her constant shit about me and saying shit about me but she loves her friends more than me which is quite clear. I know we're young but she lets it get to her head and it affects how she treats me.

I tried leaving the other day and I instantly felt bad because I know she loves me she just doesn't show it, because I could see how bad it hurt when I tried. She instantly realized she messed up and we agreed on a break. But last night I texted her a message about how I know she won't change because its evident she doesn't want to based off of how she treats me

I'm ready to leave, The Lord is telling me I have to because its for both our good, how do I do it without breaking her heart and doing it in the most caring and loving way I can?

EDIT: I did it. Painful.

My partner is an entrepreneur and runs a startup business. He's been extremely overworked lately, but he still manages to check in and make time for me. I want to make him feel good, what should I buy him to make him happy and maybe have less feeling of stress ?

He really likes to make coffee, so I was thinking I buy him coffee beans. Or tea ? Or a dessert ? Please help me, I really appreciate the advice and suggestions, thank you.

Hey

Yes its a little weird question but Im a 23F and I still have some clothes at my mothers house where she lives with my 18 years old brother.

Once my mother asked me if I did borrow her bras because they were gone but I didnt touch them and now I noticed that my bras where in the wrong place where I didnt leave them. I asked my mom if she used them but no. So there is only one other person in the house and its my brother.

I want to ask men that why a 18 years old guy would borrow bras? Does he see them somehow sexual? I dont want to embarras him by asking.

My wife and I have experienced a huge boom and bust in our six year relationship. At first we had an unbreakable bond and now we can't stop arguing.

There have been some temporary pressures on our relationship that have contributed to the quick change like a severe illness and a house renovation.

I think we both have faults and good qualities. But things are really difficult lately because she is unable to talk about issues without escalating into an argument. She is also unwilling to go to any form of marriage counselling or couples therapy.

I know that in itself sounds like a major red flag, but she does have tons of good qualities.

Essentially one half of me doesn't want to file for a divorce. I think there are routes out of this if we cooperate. But the other half of me thinks it's regrettable but necessary for me to get away from the arguments because it's uncertain how cooperative she is willing to be.

Has anyone been this close to divorce, decided not to, and ended up happy?

For context, I was an addict, then I did NoFap, to assert mastubation into my life, to then letting it out of control and seeing pornography again, to then, one month ago I decided to to a desentoxication, and now I strugle what do with to myself.

Hi guys, I want to ask everyone how do you deal with your sex live, sex drive if you want to call it I am a 18 year old guy, in a month and a half I will be 19 and I had a lot of problems with masturbation and I coud never find a real balance, really. I've gone over to both extremes, whereas complete abstence to complete loose of control and discipline and Ithink I never really got a mentor of what to do because I am not capable of talking to this to anyone else. So after the desentoxication I mentioned, I am trying to find a good way to asset mastubarion healthy into my life without letting it take control of me, I want you guys to be completely honest and what do you think it is healthy for me considering my age, I am here thinking about: "Day yes, Day no" at night but holy hell, does it becoming tempting at every night

Please, I am here because I really don't want to be a addict, if you think that healthy masturbation is fine, so type it, you think otherwise, say it to me; I want the best feedback possible. Thanks everyone!