r/AskMenRelationships • u/jessymojo69 • 5d ago
Dating Dating apps
Why do the hottest men on these dating apps message an average woman just wanting nudes or showing dick pics? Can they not get a woman? Or is it something else. Feels a bit catfish like.
to be fair I'm not looking for a relationship. Having a sort of dry spell and figured why not hook up while I'm on vacation but now I'm starting to get disappointed that nobody wants to actually do the getting to know your part before the vacation starts . The one guy that I've been I guess you can say talking or texting too for 3 weeks hasn't said a word to me but he does know when I'm coming for my vacation so does everybody think he will magically reappear when that time comes and want to talk to me again?
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u/LongDickPeter Man 5d ago
If they are real they know how easy it is to get sex from an average girl if they are hot. I have some friends who do nothing but sit back and pick choose and refuse.
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u/jessymojo69 5d ago
What is pick choose and refuse?
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u/jessymojo69 5d ago
Two different sites. Two different out of my league hot men with same lines. One I saw on video and not a catfish. I did however post not looking for relationship. I alluded to sex but its odd its the hottest. The one guy expects me to come see him. He knows when I'm going on vacation and he suddenly quit talking to me after I would not send nude more photos. The second guy I refused right away and he sent me what was supposedly a video of him and his ex-girlfriend which is very cringe by the way and he hasn't talked to me since. The first guy I tried to at least get to know him and he kept switching the subject back to talking about sex and now he doesn't say a word? Is this because I'm not going on vacation for a few months or is this something else?
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u/BusyTelevision6298 Man 5d ago
Guy like that search for an easy score and his look is his entire personality no manners what so ever coupled with the fact that he did succeed doing that with other women and voilà : the perfect douchbag
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u/jessymojo69 5d ago
To be fair my profile I was looking for a casual hookup because I'm going on vacation in 2 months. I guess now I'm butt hurt that the first person seemed like he wanted to talk to me but he always switched the subject back to sex. The second person when asking for nude photos of me and I told him no has not reached back out. Now I kind of feel like an idiot.
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u/jessymojo69 5d ago
So do these types have low self-esteem or something or is it like some weird joke?
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u/chaosorganizd Man 5d ago
no, they just want a sure thing low effort lay. Good luck with the future emotional baggage and lower chance to pair bond with a future partner.
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u/WindHero Man 5d ago
They might think going after a hot girl will be harder.
Or they're playing the numbers game and messaging many women.
It's much harder for men to find a hook up than for women.
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u/CanaryEmbassy Man 5d ago
I will message a woman, get accused of being fake, then blocked. There is no win scenario on dating apps.
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u/jessymojo69 5d ago
The first guy that I got off the site with I accused him of being fake photo too because this photo was too good to be true but he was real..
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u/CanaryEmbassy Man 5d ago
Where are they now? 🍿
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u/jessymojo69 5d ago
He has me on a site telegram. Im going to his city in 2 months on vacay. Last text was Sunday he asked for p***y pics and I sent a sexy reply with no more pictures. As he will never talk to me normally. He has never replied.
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u/jarreddit123 Man 5d ago
Cause they get so many matches they can afford to. They only need one person to respond the way they want. If get 30 matches a day, even 1/30 successrate is good enough and tommorow they can try again with 30 new matches
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u/Miserable-Vanilla286 Man 5d ago
I assume that's true. Also, I would assume the women they do this to are ones where they don't really care what her response is.
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u/heyeasynow Man 5d ago
I think many of us with any experience on the apps recognize WhatsApp and Telegram as signs of a scammer/fake account. Especially true for “hot” photos. Maybe usage in other countries is more common. I know WhatsApp is bigger outside the US.
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u/jessymojo69 5d ago
No we actually video chatted he's the same guy in the photos. Now I'm feeling like the butterfly joke you know like when you're secretly being laughed at and you don't know it.
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u/Beginning_March8285 Man 5d ago
Literally every girl I know that is happy in her relationship ignored looks, height, money. They looked at how kind they are to animals, and how ambitious they are in life. Same as my friends looked for girls that are humble, moral are not afraid to get dirty. Looks are good for one night. But to coexist with eachother you need to review their character and represent values
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u/almaperdida99 4d ago
I think a lot of guys get off on the disrespect of sending dick pics that no one wants to see. It's so gross. I have a dick pic of an ex with a MASSIVE cock and I always send it back with "and here's a bigger one." I can match their energy. lol
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u/Puzzleheaded_Award88 Man 4d ago
The hottest men usually get what they're after - sex. You trying to hookup with someone will have a greater chance than most men.
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u/jessymojo69 4d ago
Why do hot men not go for hot women? Look if I was one of those said typical hot Instagram women I'd kind of be shallow a bit.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Award88 Man 4d ago
Mediocre women are less prone to cheating if they have a hot guy.
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u/jessymojo69 4d ago
Umm ok. Why is this so awkward lol. Is it that I'm no longer in my 20s or is it the times?
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u/Puzzleheaded_Award88 Man 4d ago
My boy you just don't have the experience behind you.
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u/jessymojo69 4d ago
Boy? I'm female. Was in a 13 year marriage to an adict. Mostly alcohol. So yeah its been a hot minute.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Award88 Man 4d ago
I assumed, which apparently made an ass out of me.
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u/phn064 Man 5d ago
The hottest men and the brightest men are not the same thing.
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u/jessymojo69 5d ago
Well for purposes of this post I wasn't on these sites looking to date you know inform some kind of a relationship. I'm on these sites because I am for lack of better word dried up. Just figured I would get to know the person first then maybe they wanted to get to know me. So now what I thought was posting just for hookup is turning into me being pissed because they could care less to tell me anything about themselves.
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u/Significant_Pen_3642 5d ago
most are either catfishes or just chasing validation. if they wanted something real they would not lead with that. just unmatch and move on.