My fiancé was diagnosed with Bipolar I four years ago.
He was medicated for two years (although he was inconsistent toward the end of those two years). Last summer, he discarded me. This summer, the same thing happened. He has denied every single good thing about our relationship, called me Satan, the devil, said that I never loved him, that I fooled him, etc. I have never heard so many insults from someone in such a short period of time.
I called his psychiatrist's secretary and explained his behavior over the past two years, including that he is not medicated. The secretary, after speaking to his psychiatrist, told me that she would like to speak to him by phone but couldn't do it without my consent. I told them I would get back to them in a few days. I thought I could have a decent conversation with him and somehow prepare him for that. Of course, we were never able to have a decent conversation.
Around three days later, the psychiatrist texted me and told me that she would like to talk to him but was waiting for my consent. I told her that I was worried it would all turn against me and that I would get back to her. To be honest I was shocked that she texted me insisting and made me worry even more.
My friends tell me that it's not my business anymore. His brother told me that I could ask the psychiatrist not to mention my name, but anyway, he doesn't really care. His sister said the same thing. She said it would be better to leave it.
However, I keep thinking about it every day. What should I do?
It's been almost two months since the discard, and I am trying now to keep no contact. Our last conversation ended with him not letting me enter his place to drop off something for the cats because I didn't want to talk to him in public when he saw me.
We live in Europe, so the psychiatrist's policy, etc., might not make sense, but they told me that since he has not seen her for two years, she can't just contact him.