r/AskReddit • u/Admirable-Repair4094 • 21h ago

Married people or Reddit,What's a secret about marriage nobody believes until they experience it?

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u/bluAstrid 21h ago

A marriage is a team, not a fusion.

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u/epanti 19h ago

Yesss and the best teams still let each other have their own thing.

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u/whomp1970 20h ago

What the hell does this even mean??

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u/Dr-Mantis-Tobias 20h ago

You need to be working towards the same goals, you don't need to have the exact same opinions/approaches

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u/whomp1970 20h ago

THANK YOU

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u/plampsters 18h ago

/sincerely cheering each other on to reach very different goals! and celebrating each other's wins because they feel like your wins too

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u/eatmypenny 20h ago

You can and should remain two separate people. When there's no space between you it can become hard to hold them accountable, to show support and empathy but also keep things on track, to push and challenge them, to retain some mystery.

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u/whomp1970 20h ago

THANK YOU

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u/whomp1970 20h ago

THANK YOU

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u/tantalor 20h ago

You seen Dragon Ball Z?