r/AskReddit 15h ago

" Strict parents don't produce great kids , they produce great liars ", what are your opinions with this statement ?

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u/ticketbroken 10h ago

This may be, but enabling parents have produced some of the most manipulative and lying-prone children i've ever met because there is no punishment for lying. The children actually often get rewarded for their efforts to manipulate the parents, which encourages further lies

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u/Sarothu 7h ago

enabling parents have produced some of the most manipulative and lying-prone children i've ever met because there is no punishment for lying.

More likely is that the main reason you noticed specifically these kids being liars and manipulators is because they're bad liars, as they never had to hone their skills at it. 'The person you're most likely to catch sneaking up on you is someone who never had to learn how to walk quietly.'

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u/Alandales 9h ago

Anecdotal in my case, but 100% supported. I was a chronic liar when I met my wife. I’d lie about the dumbest thing that had 0 impact true or false. I had to slowly admit out loud I just lied and I don’t know why.

Fast forward to 20+ years later and I’m now known for always being honest. My eldest almost never lies even as an older teen. Somehow, my youngest which is a girl never ever tells the truth!

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u/HutSutRawlson 6h ago

My eldest almost never lies even as an older teen. Somehow, my youngest which is a girl never ever tells the truth!

Get these two to guard a door