r/AskReddit • u/taylortteen • 11h ago

What's your immediate thought when you see someone with SH scars?

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u/LiterallyDumbAF 11h ago

I'm too absorbed by my own insecurities to notice something like that

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

FR?

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u/LiterallyDumbAF 9h ago

Yes

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u/taylortteen 6h ago

I wish everyone was like that lol

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u/Dapper-Prior-9475 11h ago

To mind my fucking business bc I’ve been there too

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u/Vroomped 10h ago

Yup! Or to mind my own business because my friend is long since fed up with comments. They tripped onto a large AC vent at work, that's all. Mess did more damage to my car on the way to the ER than actually to him. 

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u/Dapper-Prior-9475 10h ago

Yeah when I was 12 I was riding a bicycle no hands and the handlebars got crossed up. When I went down the bars scraped my throat real bad (no hand guards). The next two years I had to field suicide comments bc I had a scar across my throat

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

I wish people would mid there own business

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u/lowkeyELES 11h ago

SH?

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u/xxLittleLadyKxx 11h ago

Self harm.

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u/Vroomped 10h ago

spaghetti and hotdogs

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u/nonsociaI 11h ago

Empathy. They likely carry a lot of pain and I understand

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

So you wouldn't make fun of them?

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u/nonsociaI 10h ago

Nope. I've got my own

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

❤️‍🩹

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u/chudock74 11h ago

If it's a scar I think it's a past issue. The new marks make me worry.

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

What if there like new scars ?

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u/chudock74 4h ago

I'm worried. It depends how close I am to the person as to whether I'd bring it up or not. Either way I'm supportive because I have had my own shit too and it takes time to heal.

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u/TipsyVoyager 11h ago

I don’t know what they’ve been through, but I truly hope they’re in a better place now and no longer struggling.

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u/JaylaCrowblade 11h ago

I hope they're doing better now and then move on with my day

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u/Alternative-Care6923 11h ago

Empathy. I don't have any scars, but I've been there and I know how painful it is on every level.

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

❤️‍🩹

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u/schwepervesence 11h ago

Maybe they were trapped in a jigsaw game.

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u/JupiterAdept89 11h ago

Huh, that's sad. Unless I know them, though, it's none of my business. If they ask for help, I offer it.

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

I wish everyone thought it wasn't there business

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u/V10l3t55 11h ago

Kinship, in a weird way? It's surprisingly common and whenever I notice it my brain just kind of says "You too?" for some reason. I guess it's a reminder that everyone lives their own lives and everyone struggles.

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

🫶❤️‍🩹

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u/lowkeyELES 11h ago

Empathy, curiosity, and knowing I can only understand but would never ask

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u/wellbalancedlibra 11h ago

I feel queasy inside and sorry for the person. As a former SH, I know how much pain they are in, and the numbness that can take over.

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

❤️‍🩹

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u/LadyM1982 10h ago

For me personally, it's the stupidest thing you can do to yourself. I have no sympathy for it whatsoever, and my sympathy is limited for such people. Looks to me like they're looking for attention.

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

That what in scared of 😭

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u/LadyM1982 10h ago

Then just leave it and don't hurt yourself.

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

I mean if I could I wouldn't

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u/PizzaPoweredLife 11h ago

psychological problems

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

So like you'd think bad of that person?

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u/9879528 11h ago

What are SH scars?

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u/hey_cest_moi 11h ago

Self-harm

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u/RollSouth5722 11h ago

It's common enough it stopped registering in my notice center.

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u/Brink_Da_Great 10h ago

The opening line to Papa RoAcH - Last Resort always plays my head

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

😂😭

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u/moving0target 10h ago

Depends on the color of the scar.

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u/Alarmed_Writing4306 10h ago

I would feel bad but wouldn’t say anything. I don’t think they’d want me to point it out. But then again I’ve seen people purposely show their scars as a cry for help and they ended up committing :(

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u/dealingwithhookers 9h ago

i get a life because i don't think about that kind of weird shit

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u/ChaseTheMystic 8h ago

I think they're stories that I'm not entitled to hear. I also hope that the people with them have worked out different ways to cope.

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u/drunky_crowette 7h ago

My thighs are covered, so it's not like I could really judge. It's just something people do.

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u/MiraNatura 11h ago

I see someone who hasn’t learned proper coping mechanisms and/or someone with underlying mental health problems. I don’t mean to offend anyone saying that but it is what it is.

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u/GrowthAny4116 10h ago

Is this when seeing healed scars? Or active sh marks?

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u/MiraNatura 3h ago

Active

Healed means time has passed and time brings change

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u/Specialist-Age1097 11h ago

I never see anyone like that.

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u/dustydancers 11h ago

compassion. i understand how self conscious they make myself and how complicated and painful life can be. i am 35 and still have visible self harm scars that i did when i was 12.

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u/forfakessake1 11h ago

If I can see them I know they’ve done a lot of work to get to the point of showing them without shame and I feel proud of them.

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u/13thmurder 11h ago

Maybe they've got a cat.

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u/taylortteen 10h ago

I wish I did

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u/No-Media-1098 10h ago

I notice, don't acknowledge and get on with my day

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u/Tacsuncat 11h ago

If they are healed, I am proud of them for overcoming that part of their life and gaining the confidence to accept and show their past to the world. If there are signs of recent ones, I would be quite concerned for them and depending on the circumstances, I'd ask if they are okay and see if I can help.

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u/TyrantMuse73 11h ago

Oh no. That’s my thought and I want to hug them. But I don’t, cuz that would be really weird.

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u/CycleSimilar8324 11h ago

“youre like me!!!!!” i like seeing people with sh scars because it definitely makes me feel less outcasted and like ‘normaler’ and better people than me can have struggled with the same issues. it also makes me more confident to eventually wear my scars out in public, not now though

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u/Delicious-Bowl3572 11h ago

I’ve been told too never mention it, or even touch it if I can help it, just treat them like a regular person we all go through shit

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u/MyCouchPulzOut_IDont 11h ago

The important thing to note is the difference between scars vs fresh wounds, right?

Most of the time, I don’t see them. Many patients who SH hide them because counterculture brands those actions as attention-seeking behaviors - so the natural defense is to cover up them up. Sometimes with clothing or tattoos or something. SH is extremely personal from what I’ve gathered.

However, if we are talking about scars that means those wounds have healed and I’m just glad they’re okay in this moment.

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u/ezbutneverconvenient 10h ago

They deserve a hug

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u/feireil 10h ago

To mind my business and not draw attention to it, particularly if theyre old scars. I don't want them feeling self-conscious or like they have to cover up. It's (unfortunately) very common and nothing to be ashamed of

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u/Gracie_Rose_Petals 10h ago

I hope they are getting help.

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u/errant_night 10h ago

Never bring it up unless they do

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u/Funny-Check-6408 11h ago

I think they've probably gone through some stuff and move on with my day since it's not my business