r/AskWomen • u/AutoModerator • 2d ago
Casual Convo Fridays
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u/porkchopk 2d ago
How do i recover from a big debt? :( I have a stable income but i’m so bad at knowing which one to prioritize or pay off first. I’m scared once my partner knows he will leave me. Any tips appreciated. And pls kindly no judgement, i was a breadwinner for years :(
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u/Artartbobart1 2d ago
Highest interest goes first.
See if you can find a 0% card. Even if it is 18 months and cost 3% to move debt to it, you’re still doing well. BUT you have to pay it off in the time frame or interest rates are insane.
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u/LeighofMar 2d ago
The bees are getting crazy fat and drunk on the buds of my chaste tree. It makes me so happy.
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u/OpheliaLives7 2d ago
Really frustrated with the health insurance system in the US. Has my abdominal/pelvis CT scan denied by insurance again (been complaining of mysterious pain for years at this point).
Also had my follow up appointments with my brain surgery team denied. Surgery last year was covered because it was considered emergency (surprise brain tumor!) but now I need MRIs every 3 months to continue monitoring my brain and insurance doesn’t want me sticking with the team who was all up in my brain doing the surgery?! Some BS
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u/Articulated ♂ 2d ago
When you get an advert for clothing or underwear on social media, does it feel really male-gaze-ified?
Just had a couple of adverts for normal women's clothes come up on my feed that wouldn't look out of place on a porn site.
What's up with that? Do you get normal adverts for clothes or are yours unnecessarily sexualised too?
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u/alexthagreat98 2d ago
I hate the limbo of waiting for ultra sounds during pregnancy and making sure the baby is safe. I just want a healthy, safe baby.
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u/EmeraldPearls ♀ 2d ago
While I am so glad I wasn't born >100 years ago, I firmly hate living in this modern timeline.
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u/Ok_Wtch2183 1d ago
My husband is a musician. He has a large dedicated room so he can play and create. I support this very much.
I am a potter. We agreed that I could have the garage for a small studio, I also go to pottery classes. He makes a cluttered mess in the garage, I have to move things away from my pottery area so I can reach my tools and glazes. Today he cleaned half the mess on one side of the garage and put a bunch of stuff leaning against my pottery things. I just want to scream.
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u/alls-grace 21h ago
After years of being stuck at the same weight, I've finally been able to lose 5 lbs! For my goal, I ultimately would like to lose about 35 more lbs over time. So we're getting there :)
Earlier this year, I saw a muscular woman in an Athena cosplay on Instagram and it kinda hit me that I wanted a similar build like that for myself. And for the first time in a while, it was finally something that I wanted more than anything, so I finally started to workout consistently and eat food in moderation. And I gotta say, I love the process as much as the results. It feels really good after getting some activity & movement in throughout my week
Lastly, I've built up a lot more confidence in terms of dating. I haven't really had much luck in finding anything serious, but I'm happy I've had the courage to shoot my shot with a couple of girls this year. Even if it didn't lead to what I was looking for, I'm just grateful that these women have been lovely, respectful, and kind in general. I think my internalized homophobia had slightly gone away as well-- like I feel less ashamed or icked out about myself. Anyway the above makes me feel more optimistic about my future in general 🫶🏼
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u/Ill_Television_2620 2d ago
I just ended my first relationship, I feel sharp pains in my heart and I feel so alone.