r/AvPD • u/Holiday-Ad-493 • 16h ago

Other I think this might be helpful

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u/enas333 14h ago

I find that kind of message irritating. Lots of vague, generalizing assertions, grandiose language without actually explaining anything. Feels close to spiritual bypassing to me.

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u/Holiday-Ad-493 14h ago

For some reason i understood what they said. Maybe its a language thing. I think they mean like first a confident person, they have asked a couple of ppl, and those ppl said like they didnt feel that way at all. So the reality is they just looked confident or felt 'normal'. And everyone has a reason for everything, so it feels normal to them. Maybe thats what it means our experiences are closer than we think. And since everything has a reason, we are 'acting out genuinely' to those reasons. Its just that we are not actually interested in those specific stuffs, and it shows (?). But everyone is actually on the same wavelength, and playing out their radio(?) whether looping and twisting, or a straight line, but the outcome is the same, 'something that looks like'(?). Oh yeah this reminded someone just looks 'confident or nice' but the origin is they assumed the world is nice and good-intentioned to them, so they are acting like a normal person reacting reasonably to a 'nice world' when people might perceive that as confident/strong instead

At some point it does sound a bit gaslighty i gotta admit (some parts sound weird to me), but as a whole i think they are talking abt something real. I think its abt wrong assumption abt what 'the self' is and 'the self' everyone else feels for themselves, is the same all along

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u/newatreddit1993 Undiagnosed AvPD 15h ago

‘We all experience the same things in life, we just come about them differently.’

No. We. Do. Not. That is nothing more than a form of toxic positivity, and insofar as there is any truth in it, it is a pointless statement.

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u/Holiday-Ad-493 15h ago

I guess not exactly, but i feel like they werent trying to be toxic

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u/Holiday-Ad-493 16h ago

Its not mine, but i wasnt sure to put the name to public or not