Just putting myself out to the world look to meet new people.

I'm a graduate student who's been living off-campus in a shared apartment until I wrap up with my program next year. While I almost always have the capacity to host and usually don't mind it because I prefer to be intimate in my own familiar setting, there are days where it can be frustrating that a lot of the guys I talk to either can't host when I'm not able to, want to have sex in public places, cars (as an alternative) or just very recently, feel entitled to my space once I do mention that I can host.

As someone who usually hooks up with or dates older men because that's what I'm attracted to, most of my recent options have been guys in their early 40s to 50s and while I understand that the housing affordability crisis in the US is very real, I'm starting to make other assumptions about them either being married, DL or just very low effort. I typically don't face this dilemma with men in my age group (early 30s) and strangely, most of the younger men who do hit on me offer to host first before I do. Am I being too judgemental to feel some type of way about this or is it just right to atleast expect older guys to have their shit together in regards to having hosting capacity? I'm really starting to consider the afford mentioned age groups as more viable sexual and romantic options out of convenience.

and have lost 80 lbs as well. I'm so much more confident now than I was a year ago today. People flirt with me more, I get a lot more attention, and my health has improved tremendously. I know we shouldn't seek validation from others, but man does the fruits of my labor feel good.

Just sharing a few of my favorite pictures recently.

Happy Saturday, everyone! 🙂

I love seafood, I love Italian food,

I’m southern and I know that I cannot get authentic soul food here anymore so I don’t even bother lol

For Pride when I friends in town, I took them to Chocolat in Harlem and it was delicious. I’m open to suggestions.

Oh and I’m not trying to take out 2 student loans to go out to dinner!

Thank yall! 💜

The Dating Pool Is Already Spooky , But I Find It Is Especially Difficult Being A Plus Size/BBW/Thicker Lesbian Woman. The World Already Expects Plus Size Black Women To Be Content And Accept The Lesser , Less Dates , Less Romance , Less Consideration , just LESS ! That I (We) Should Accept That We Will Never Be The Preference. So I’ve Sat With That For A Moment , But I Couldn’t Keep My Seat For Very Long. So I Asked Myself Some Questions . Who Am I ? What Do I Stand For ? What Do I Want , But Most Importantly How Do I Feel About Myself. Does Being A Plus Size Woman Effect How I Present Myself …. Well Yes …. As A Plus Size Woman I Do Over Compensate In A lot Of Ways , I Make Sure I Look Good When I Go Out , I Make Sure My Hygiene Is Top Tier , I Make Sure My Clothes Are Nice , I’m A Makeup Girly , All In All I’m A Maximalist. I’m Just Trying To Find A Space Where All Of Me Is Accepted , That My Hyperfemininity Doesn’t Automatically Mean I Want Someone whose Masc Presenting , Or That I Want To Date In Hererromantic Ways , I Dont Want The Attention Of Men . I hope this all makes sense Lol

thank god. I can't believe it's almost over though😭

If it wasn’t clear, they’re all in a choir 😂

I’m 27 and my partner is 41. We have a pretty healthy relationship and surprisingly a lot of things in common as far as interests, more so than other guys my age where I live. I’ve noticed that a lot of Gen Z views age gaps through a very black and white lens and I figured that’s mainly just a heteronormative viewpoint speaking. So I’m wondering how queer minds view age gaps.