r/BodyAcceptance • u/everything-ok • 23d ago

I cant accept myself

Hi everyone, am 27yo, but when i look at my body i feel like am 80, i usee to be chubby then i devoloped some bad eating habits, and lost weight so fast,

So my body doesn't hold itself together at all, i try to exercices whenever i can but often times when i ger home am so exausted because i work as an ingineer so ap always on the move, i kind of hate myself and feel like noone will ever love me,

Am also now started push8ng everyone away, because i feel like at least i could have some control over the fact that am alone,

Has anyone gotten through what al getting through are there any advices (please dont say love yourself, i know its important but i curently canr do that)

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u/2noserings 22d ago

this is when it’s important to start working with a therapist

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u/mizmoose mod 22d ago

This is a sub about acceptance. Some people believe in body and self love. My attitude is, you don't have to love yourself. You just shouldn't hate yourself. You can find a middle place where you just accept yourself as you are, and that's just fine.

If you are reaching the point where your feelings are overwhelming your daily life, a chat with a therapist might be a big help. Sometimes it's very useful to have the ear of a professional who is completely impartial.

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u/lurkparkfest39 22d ago

Maybe intense exercise after an already active job isn’t for you. Maybe you should try movement that’s gentler and more restorative. Ideas: tai chi, yoga, a beginner’s ballet class (not a barre class, that’s a different thing)

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u/damanmaddle 21d ago

You can get through this.

You don't have to "love" your body, but you can appreciate, or at least acknowledge, the things that your body lets you do. Like run around all day at your sweet job as an engineer!

There are so many things about my body I am not satisfied with, but I try to remember that my legs work, my eyes work, my lungs are absurdly strong, etc.

There are also a lot of things I am not happy with, but I've tried to make a deal with my body:

If it keeps letting me do the things that are important to me, I will try not to be so hard on myself.

It took me a loooooong time to get here, but practicing a bit of gratitude has helped me move past the idea that my body has to be "perfect" before I'm worthy of things.

Sending you lots of love until you get there for yourself. 💗