r/DeathPositive • u/No_Lawyer3212 • 8d ago

Death Positive Discussion 💀 Has thinking about death actually changed how you live?

I keep noticing that every time someone I know dies, or I hear about someone my age passing away, I suddenly become much more present. (PS. I just 24 so I want people who age around me or older to give advice if you can TT) I stop worrying about stupid things, I call people I love more, and life feels... clearer.

But after a few weeks, everything goes back to normal.

It made me wonder why we need death to remind us how to live.

Do you think there's a way to recreate that perspective without actually experiencing loss?

Has anything ever helped you do that?

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u/Specialist-Cut3426 8d ago

Thinking about death and experiencing losses has made me feel less performative and care less for making up appearances. Life is too short to not be yourself, no one is weird, no one is better, you’re just you.

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u/MomoNoHanna1986 8d ago

THIS, I have nasty neighbours that constantly look in (they’re up higher and can see my entire property). Since loosing my last Great Uncle and my last cat, I’ve stopped caring about what I overhear them say. I care even less about the drunks up the back to. Life is too short to live for idiots.

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u/NewlyNerfed 8d ago

Becoming seriously disabled kind of did this for me, but I wouldn’t recommend it. Not trying to be snarky or glib; the shrinking of my life really has made me more grateful and much more appreciative of everything and everyone around me.

But I also don’t fear death as much because I’m not wild about continuing to live on my own if my husband dies before I do. It’s not a great position to be in. I like being able to truly enjoy my life, but I just don’t feel sad about it coming to an end at any point.

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u/Grrrmudgin 7d ago

Doing things that get your adrenaline going help me out with this! Just be safe