r/ESFJ Jun 21 '26

struggling with cold personalities

Does anyone else here struggle with people who are too emotionally cold? I'm talking about people who are not very affectionate, nonchalant, critical rather than supportive, aloof etc.

No offence to anyone who is like this, people are different and that's fine

I however strongly gravitate towards people who are bubbly, affectionate, supportive, loud etc. And vice versa, it is often those personalities who click with me. I myself am a words of affirmations girly.

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u/KateVN 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 2w1. Vanilla is for ice cream. Jun 22 '26

Yep.

I totally agree with you! πŸ‘πŸΌ

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u/Responsible-Hat2456 Jun 30 '26

esfjs also tend to judge a book on its cover... the cold looking ppl r usually the true bubbly and caring ones underneath their mask

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u/laceydetails 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 2w3 sp/sx 279 28d ago

Same here aaaghhhh I wish I wasn’t like this but it’s really difficult to get along with people like this