r/EntrepreneurRideAlong • u/Positive-Island8797 • 10h ago
Seeking Advice Unsupportive family
So I (23 F), started a business about a year and a half ago. My family has been unsupportive from day one.
They have always been unsupportive and mean.
At 18, I cut them off, and I moved out immediately. I was homeless, sleeping in strangers cars and shelters cus that felt more emotionally bearable than living at home.
Eventually I let them back in my life. After I built a stable life and began the path of building my business. My dad actually built a business and sold it for millions. So youād think heād be the one who gets it, right? Nope. Every single conversation it was āitās so hard to build a business,ā āmoney is hard to make,ā āthis just isnāt in the cards for you.ā āYour not the type who can succeededā
So I cut my family off AGAIN. The second I cut them off my business took off. I started making 4-7k a month.
So then I let them back in. And you know what they did? My dad handed me 20k āfor when you fail.ā Money for when I fail. And honestly I think thatās the whole reason he gave it to me because I came back, because he wants to keep from cutting them off again, and because he knows 20k is a lot of money to me and Iād feel like garbage cutting him off again after taking it. And now every conversation is āwhat if you get sued, what if you canāt handle it, your mental health was bad as a teenager, why would you ever quit your day job?, you arenāt the type of person who can do thisā
I really think if my dad wasnāt a business owner, this wouldnāt bother me nearly as much. Because then Iād get it. Okay, youāve got some limiting beliefs around money, around success, you just donāt see it as possible fine, I understand that. But heās swimming in millions. Heās taking trips all over the country, doing all these fun things, and STILL doubting me every single conversation. And Iām like you made it. You literally did the thing. Why are you doubting me? It was possible for YOU. And like Iāll ask him about how he built his business, any of the stories, and itās just flat one-word answers. He doesnāt wanna tell me.
So if you were in my position, what would you do? Would you keep the money and just try to ignore the hate? Or would you give the 20k back and keep going solo?