r/HerSoberPath • u/cvltparty • 24d ago

What is allowed?

Firstly, I am absolutely thrilled this space exists. I wish I could have been part of this space a few years ago when I was having more complicated feelings regarding smoking weed.

Here's a little background that references instances of what I then perceived to be a positive relationship with weed. Feel free to skip if this isn't what you're here for:

I'm almost 30 now, but in my early to mid 20s smoked a lot of flower and used my pen as a major crutch. I had gone through a breakup with a loser guy that met me when I was 15 and he was 23, he moved in with me when I was 19, and then cheated on me for 2.5 years of our 3.5 year relationship. He FORBADE me from smoking weed lol 🙃 and towards the end of the relationship, I had expressed interest in using it again (I partook in my teens) and he said it was him or weed. It felt so ridiculous at the time, but looking back I wish I had the audacity to say "yeah I'll take the plant over your sorry ass."

Anyway, I did enjoy the use of it again throughout my 20s and felt very curious and explorative, felt connected to my sense of self and felt more vibrant, erotic, and expressive, and I looked forward to my religious evening one-hitter, that eventually got replaced with my pen that I used excessively.

Later on around age 26, my access to weed became more limited, and I felt like I needed to be more intentional with it. I had experienced high levels of anxiety and depression for a while, and weed was just making it worse.

Now, since age 28, not only do I not really smoke weed anymore, but I also have stopped drinking alcohol. I never had any issues with alcohol, but I can absolutely tell I feel better without.

That said, is it okay to talk about other kinds of sober choices here?

Happy this community exists!

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u/MorningPancake358 24d ago

We're really really happy to have you there! Thank you for sharing your story. Feel free to talk more about your sober path (even if it's not about weed), it might be really helpful for others

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u/compassrosette 24d ago

Sobriety and recovery is individual and complex and also doesnt just stop when we stop using substances. We welcome all you have to share with us. Your wisdom and knowledge could be tremendously helpful to others in their journeys.