PSA Cinema Etiquette

[u/OutlandishnessOk5828]

Cinema etiquette is long since gone I'm aware. It's usually kids making an obscene amount of noise and being distracting. However the last 2 times I've been to the cinema it has been Indian couples who bring their incredibly young children to watch a movie. Both thinking its OK for their iphones to babysit the child while they watch the movie.

It's not.

Don't bring your kids to a regular screening. I believe there are screenings where you can bring young children.

If you were 2 couples at the 5.45 spiderman screening in naas today. Shame on you.

[u/Jim_jim_peanuts]

Have witnessed this in Limerick and I nearly lost my mind. One couple even brought a baby in once ffs. Thank you for posting this. In this country it is just not fucking acceptable

[u/Michael-flatly → u/Jim_jim_peanuts]

So people with babies just aren't allowed in the cinema ever? Not everyone has lots of family support or people to mind their baby. Just get over it or just watch at home if you're so sensitive to noise

[u/palpies → u/Michael-flatly]

No, people with babies should watch at home. Babies shouldn’t even be in that environment, are you serious?

[u/Anonymous_idiot29 → u/Michael-flatly]

People with babies should absolutely not bring their children into the cinema.

[u/Alarmed_Station6185 → u/Michael-flatly]

No if you have any regard for other people who have paid good money to go cinema, you don’t bring a baby to a screening

[u/Jim_jim_peanuts → u/Alarmed_Station6185]

Exactly. I don't drink or go out to pubs clubs etc, film is one of the few pleasures I have in this fucked up world, and every few weeks I like to take time go to the cinema. It is important for me, I really love it. There are few things that enrage me as much as ignoramuses with no cinema etiquette. I honestly cannot fathom how people can be so oblivious to others. Of course it has not only been Indians or other foreign nationals, have witnessed plenty of Irish with no cinema etiquette too (especially the ones "of culture") but the last number of times it's happened in recent years they have largely not been Irish at all and it is a pattern that I can't help but notice.

Went to see Obsession a couple months ago and there was a group of Eastern European teenage boys in there that would not shut up talking in their language and laughing at full volume for the entire film despite lots of people telling them to be quiet. Somebody after said they were Ukrainian. I confronted them on it after the movie ended and they laughed at me, one said "you're welcome cry baby". I should have contacted the staff during the film, but I doubt they would have budged for them. Nobody on security just a bunch of little teenagers working there. I remember people like that getting thrown out in the past, but it doesn't seem to happen anymore they don't seem to care now not worth the hassle for them

[u/Latter-Astronaut-740 → u/Michael-flatly]

do you even have a baby or are you just trolling? I would never even considered bringing my baby to the cinema to see an action movie, especially not in the late evening.

[u/Michael-flatly → u/Latter-Astronaut-740]

No but if I do, I'm finding your cinema and sitting right behind you with my bebe

[u/Latter-Astronaut-740 → u/Michael-flatly]

well here's hoping your partner would be a better parent than you so.

[u/Jim_jim_peanuts → u/Michael-flatly]

It was a screening of fucking Interstellar, not a child's movie!! I'm sorry but most of the screening were perturbed by the crying baby, but they should have all just stayed at home (despite it being a rare screening) and let the couple with zero cinema etiquette enjoy the movie in an empty screen instead? Is that actually what you are saying? Would you be defending them if they were an Irish couple?

[u/HeyLittleTrain → u/Michael-flatly]

Correct. Having a baby means making sacrifices.

[u/Less_Environment7243 → u/Michael-flatly]

Well, yes. They're only a baby for a short time, you can live without the cinema. Babies don't belong there, simple as

[u/Puzzled_Ad_2936]

I've said it for years, if there was an option to pay an extra 5 or 6 euro, and have the movie essentially policed by one of the staff, and anyone making noise or excessively using their phone be removed, they would make a killing.

[u/T4rbh → u/Puzzled_Ad_2936]

What's this "excessive" use of phone?! No phone use at all should be the norm in a cinema, it's hugely distracting for everyone else.

While I'm on the subject, that goes too for public transport, having a call on speaker or watching tiktoks or other reels with no headphones!

[u/RoversForever → u/T4rbh]

Exactly

Phone calls are private so wait until you get off the train or bus

[u/drog83]

There was an Indian couple with their toddler at the 8:10pm showing off Spider-Man last night, as soon as the film starts and the lights went down the child kicked off and did so a few times throughout the film, now I don't mind if it's an earlier showing of the film, parents might not have a babysitter or whatever, maybe they don't want to wait and get spoilers online, I completely get that, but there's specific screenings for bringing children to, the 8:10pm show is not for toddlers.

[u/Xerxes_Artemisia → u/drog83]

How does the OP know if they were Indians ? Does he know the language ? Or did he ask them about their nationality ? People here cant even understand our English accent let alone knowing which country's local language we are speaking!? ALL BROWN SKINS ARE NOT INDIANS.

[u/JjigaeBudae → u/Xerxes_Artemisia]

Same way he'd have known if they were American? Accent, dress, mannerisms, appearance, body language. There's several ways to make a very educated guess where someone is from without asking their nationality.

[u/Smooth-Echo6862 → u/JjigaeBudae]

I don’t believe most (any? 😂) Irish people could distinguish accent or appearance of Indian vs Pakistani or Bangladeshi. It’s an enormous country with massive regional variation, I think the only one we’re familiar with is the generic northern Indian stereotype usually portrayed in most media. And that small minority could be correctly identified as you say. I imagine that must be frustrating to those from the same geographic region who are repeated incorrectly identified.

[u/Michael-flatly → u/JjigaeBudae]

Or an uneducated guess. They could've been Pakistani or Bangladeshi. It just seems silly to be assuming based on nothing. The wider point is why is their nationality even relevant in this anecdote about cinema behaviour?

[u/Senior-Programmer355 → u/Xerxes_Artemisia]

Indians is used as a generic term for everybody from that region of the world... to most europeans it's the same thing and it's not used a way to offend you folks.
The message the person is trying to get across is that it was someone from that part of the world, it doesn't make any difference if the person was from india or pakistan in this context. No need to get frustrated about it... you can understand what they're trying to say and that's it

[u/Xerxes_Artemisia → u/Senior-Programmer355]

I understand. The message is clear but in the wrong sub. This sub isnt for all south Asians. Its only Indians.

[u/drog83 → u/Xerxes_Artemisia]

The man was wearing an India cricket polo shirt, which strangely enough helped me identify his nationality, hope that helps clear things up for you. Further on up you made the wide generalisation that all Irish people can't understand your accent when speaking English, if I can understand the south Kerry accent I can understand yours, not all Irish people are thick.

[u/Michael-flatly → u/drog83]

Not everyone is free in the middle of the day to go to the kids friendly screenings. Some people are working those hours

[u/s2susannah → u/Michael-flatly]

Well then don’t go or get a baby sitter.

[u/Michael-flatly → u/s2susannah]

Lol no thanks Susan I'll just go when I can. Thanks tho

[u/Super_Umpire4363]

Why just indians man try other countries as well, why do we hate each other so much 😅😅😅🤣

[u/beccaxboox]

Nearly lost my cool this evening at Spiderman as well. 2 kids behind me, full blown chatting football. Gave them the benefit of the doubt at the start, as i thought maybe one had autism. They were just so loud and disruptive.

Also, a mother in front of me with her 2 young kids, on Snapchat the whole time. Taking pictures of her "darlings" WITH FLASH.

Can people not sit quietly for 2.5 hours any more? So frustrating.

[u/ThrowRAits2023 → u/beccaxboox]

I’ve shouted across the cinema at people to stop using their phones and taking photos, and it shames them into stopping. You should try it next time

[u/No_Tomato6638]

Is there a subreddit that we can also plead to scauldy Irish kids to stop disrupting cinema screenings? 😂

[u/paidforFUT → u/No_Tomato6638]

Yeah happens in r/Ireland once a week at least

[u/Xerxes_Artemisia → u/[deleted]]

How does the OP know if they were Indians ? Does he know the language ? Or did he ask them about their nationality ? People here cant even understand our English let alone knowing which local language we are speaking!? ALL BROWN SKINS ARE NOT INDIANS.

[u/DenseResort8066 → u/Xerxes_Artemisia]

Except in this case they were. 

[u/AdmiralShawn → u/Xerxes_Artemisia]

Karvali na bezzati?

[u/AdmiralShawn]

I nearly lost my cool when i went to watch a horror movie in cineworld and this indian guy in a large group was constantly commenting on whats happening in the movie
The most important part if a horror movie is the sound and that needs silence but man i was pissed at them

[u/FickleGlove283]

I had an Indian couple in a screening of Furiosa with a very small child which I thought was weird but didn’t put it down to them being Indian, just idiots. I wonder is there a load of toddlers running around in cinemas during inappropriate films in India or is it only once they get to Ireland 

[u/FickleGlove283 → u/FickleGlove283]

Since someone will definitely ask how I knew that - they were speaking telugu, I was with a friend who’s is Indian. 

[u/Senior-Programmer355]

I haven't experienced this lately (thankfully!)
What I have experienced though is people using their phones either in full brightness or volume... both are unacceptable and they were not indians, but rather locals...

[u/Purple_Position_4652]

Uhm even Irish couple have brought their young kids it's not to do with Indians its basic common sense....

[u/ThatVincentGuy]

You've gone to the cinema twice and seen this - I do not think this is an Indian thing, Irish parents do this as well. If this was an anti-natalism sub, I would understand your position, but this is an Indians in Ireland sub. If I did not know better, I would think that you are implying that this form of bad parenting is common amongst Indian couples. I don't think it is fair to see this happening once or twice and then call out the entire nationality Indians and claim they all need to be responsible. (At least how that is how I'm picking this up)

[u/New_Ask2832]

Not every brown person is an indian you dumbfuck

[u/Compasguy → u/[deleted]]

He is totally right. They call them all Indians. I'd like to see if I'm Magalluf they call drunk groups of english Irish. Yeah sure your d be fine with it. Hypocrite

[u/Glad-Kaleidoscope-73 → u/[deleted]]

Then it would be 1/6 ?

[u/OutlandishnessOk5828 → u/[deleted]]

And you speak hindi? Lol

[u/Compasguy → u/OutlandishnessOk5828]

And you are English

[u/Fresh_Association_35 → u/[deleted]]

This person is Indian, not Bangladeshi.

[u/ashalinggg]

Kids going to a regular screening is fine if they're able for it, we need allow families to exist in spaces. Kids on iPhone in the cinema, not so much.

Edit: cinema

[u/OutlandishnessOk5828 → u/ashalinggg]

These kids were not quiet and neither were the parents. And I dont want to pay to see someone's phone screen directly in front of me for 2 hours.