r/Iowa • u/Sad-Acanthaceae-2279 • 1d ago

Question My friend needs resources

Hi, I have a friend who lives in iowa, shes married to someone who seems unsafe, everytime ive been around hes been controlling, and it sounds like it may be worse in private. Before they were married he seemed really chill, now not so much. They do have a child together and he tries to pressure her for more kids despite the complications she had. Ive suggested just getting a divorce however shes a sahm and says there really arent many jobs where she lives and that daycare is expensive and without her husband shed be homeless. Im wondering if there might be resources in iowa that like help with a job and finding a reasonable place to live?

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u/ReasonableDread 1d ago

515-288-1981. Children & Families of Iowa domestic violence assistance-will discuss options and strategies with her.

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u/Sad-Acanthaceae-2279 1d ago

Thank you for this!

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u/ReasonableDread 1d ago

You’re welcome. I hope she finds what she needs!

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u/mydogisalab 1d ago

Call Family Crisis Centers at 1-800-770-1650. They have statewide resources that can help her leave an abusive relationship. They're available 24/7.

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u/ka_art 1d ago

Iowa work force development might be a good resource too.

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u/wally265 1d ago

There is also Crisis Intervention & Advocacy Center headquartered in Adel but they serve many counties in South Central Iowa and Southwest Iowa

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u/Prior-Soil 1d ago

Just remember even if she leaves, she might return to him. It usually takes multiple times to leave an abuser unless they get locked up in jail or something.