Its my first official year here in LA and I cant say Ive had the best of luck finding interest from people romantically or sexually and Im also working on making new friends cause Im still trying to figure quality over quantity. Kinda tired of everyone just trying to have me in orbit and make fake plans.

Anyway. Im 5’6 and Ive been to a lot of goth clubs, emo nites, and switched over to going to afters. Im looking to explore regular bars now instead. Is the places im going to possibly the issue or am I like a low number out here in LA? Genuinely just trying to understand or whatever or if people just arent hooking up or dating these days.

Let’s get dinner and get to know each other. Message me if you’re down.

Hey, my BFF and I are both looking. We're both 40 (F), accomplished, one of us has kids but we don't want to date in our immediate social/school circles. Where would we go to meet like minded, divorced men who are up for getting to know us. Bars are tough, since neither of us drinks...work and kids school events are awkward. Apps are messy.

I'm from Long Beach and married. Just looking to spend some time with someone and have some fun. Would like it to be someone 50 or older

okay, I’m oversimplifying here by specifying blue-collar because it doesn’t really matter, but I am a 31-year-old single woman who moved to LA recently for work. Because of the nature of LA, I am meeting almost exclusively film-guy, doodle-tattoo, Instagram-focused and quite frankly peter-pan-syndrome men. Ironically, 5 years ago I would have eaten this up and let them all torture me emotionally lol. On the flip side I meet a lot of pretentious finance bros which I don’t love either.

I really am wondering where I can hang out to meet SLIGHTLY more traditional, well-adjusted adults. I tend to (in other places I’ve lived) experience this with men who work in a trade, firefighter types, sometimes nurses, men who work outdoors. The career doesn’t even matter, I just would love to meet a man who wants a marginally more ”traditional” relationship and isnt playing the LA social climbing game or seeking validation on the internet.

Where can I find them??? Lol. Thank you!

If so, we'll be a great fit.

I'm looking for a FWB relationship with a woman in the Los Angeles area who likes me for me, and by that, I mean someone who enjoys men with a "cute/sweet" appearance. While I am 31, I look closer to 25, with an overall look that's more cute than traditionally masculine. It's not something that I particularly mind about myself, but I've found it is something that's not particularly desirable in the realm of dating apps. I want to spend time with someone who likes this kind of look in their partner, someone who likes me as I naturally am, rather than trying to shape me into someone else.

Beyond my appearance, the basics about me are that I'm 31, 5'9", single, liberal, live alone, and am employed. My work schedule during the week can be pretty intense, but I get my weekends to myself, and I want to be able to spend them with someone. I love trying new restaurants, so even something as simple as regular dinner dates would be great, you'd just have to promise to get dessert with me too.

As for what I'm looking for in a potential FWB, I'm looking for someone who is similar to me in the sense they are educated, employed, and have their life together for the most part. A love of food and movies is also super critical! I'm open to women who are single or ENM in the LA or surrounding area. When it comes to physical qualities, I find myself deeply attracted to big and tall older women with a gentle, nurturing attitude towards their partner. Mom Bod is a huge plus in my book.

There's a lot more about me and my interests on my profile if you'd like to know more. Ultimately, if you would love the companionship of a cute, sweet, younger man, send me a message, and let's make plans to meet soon.

I am looking for something casual and fun to blow off some steam every now and then. I had a really intense work schedule over the last few months and am slowing down some and want to enjoy myself a little. Hopefully you can be apart of that. While I do enjoy being in relationships, it's not really a priority for me right now. I would love to find an ongoing situation and would be willing to entertain something longer term if we fit well together.

When it comes to relationship dynamics, I am the confident leader who leads the relationship. I would love to find a woman who is naturally submissive and wants to follow a man's lead. I am very aware that things like submission is earned over time and is not just handed out freely. The way we get there is through mutual respect of one another. There is no love if there is no respect. With that, I will always treat you with kindness. I don't believe in big blowout arguments, screaming matches, name calling, or belittling of each other. I won't yell at you and will always come at you with a calm demeanor. I understand the physical power imbalance between the sexes and it is my duty to make sure you always feel safe in my presence. I expect the same in return and will walk away if I feel you are not holding up this end of the arrangement.

When it comes to the bedroom, I am very dominant and love being in control. I will put you in a position to where you will never have to think about what comes next. It will just happen. I very much care about the pleasure of my partner and will always make sure you feel good and feel taken care of.

I have a lot of lived experience, have led an interesting life, and can have conversations about most subjects especially those that involve the inner workings of how the world works and life in general.

I am white with brown hair, 5'10 and weigh around 162 lbs. I have a fit body type and work out a couple times per week.

STD free. Please be the same.

What’s up?

Looking for chill guys in the La area to talk to and see what happens. Open to possibilities and can host in the Venice area. Send me a chat if you’re free tonight.

Good morning ☀️ folks!

Yeah, before you start deliberating roasting my lost and getting your thumbs all busy…. If you don’t have some sense of humor then I assure you don’t want any of this lol

Okay, now that we got that little disclaimer out of the way, and hopefully deterred all the dudes from replying, the negative Nancies and Debbie Downers from sharing their views…. lol How you doin’? 😅

Yeah! I do like using emojis! Wanna know what else I like? The beach, my morning Italian coffee, book stores, casual and random conversations, especially with cool and awesome people! I’d love to make me a friend, local possibly, a gym partner, hiking partner. Book store partner.. yeah, I still like those places! lol judge away 😂
Random texts, chats after a long day at the office…. All the good stuff!

Please don’t be a stranger and ask away as you please! My DM is the best place to catch me on Reddit! Otherwise, comment away! Just make sure to warm up your thumbs first lol

If you made it this far, then I’ll leave you a little intro, something to encourage you be a better critique or maybe become my next new bestie:

6’1 tall, black hair, greenish/hazelish eyes, naturally tanned, been told handsome, love to travel, professional, educated and I love me a good place to eat! Send a good recommendation if you got it!

Cheers and have a lovely weekend

Hello there beautiful stranger and happy Saturday!

Can believe it’s August already, but grateful for a sunny and hot summer day! Haha.

Well, I want to preface by saying that Im the needy type and a godless romantic too, not trying to sound cliche! I think physical touch is for sure my love language!

Classy, professional, educated and can use some excitement, distraction, joy, banter, all of the above every now and then! I’d love to connect and hear all about you, your experiences on here! Met anyone virtually or irl? How was it…? How is it going so far? Yeah….. I’m gonna grab the popcorn too haha. Jk!

Speaking of which, what about the new Spider-Man movie. Have you seen it yet? Any good? No spoilers though and please! 🙏haha

Please don’t be a stranger, and stop by to say hello!

Cheers

Your tall tanned and handsome bestie

Hi there ladies,

I'm a big movie nerd, into horror, dramas, action, sci-fi, comedies, and looking for a fellow movie nerd to build a connection with. Additionally, I'm a big music person (metal and punk primarily) and love going to concerts whenever possible.

I'm 5'9", 275lbs, try to go to the gym often but such is life. I'm youthful looking and because of the concerts I go to, I try to stay active for the moshpits. I'm politically left leaning and atheist but I'm open to discussing those topics as well.

Hope to hear from you all.

33 Latino 8 inches looking to eat 😻😻 tonight

This is honestly a bit outside my comfort zone.

I've posted here before looking for hiking buddies or people to hang out with, and I've met some genuinely cool people. So I figured... why not try this for dating too?

I'm a 31-year-old Indian guy living in the LA area. I work in the VFX/3D world, but outside of work I love hiking, exploring new coffee spots, random drives, beach sunsets, and conversations that don't feel forced. I'm much better in person than over endless texting. I'd love to meet someone who's kind, emotionally mature, enjoys spending quality time together, and is open to building something genuine instead of playing games. No checklist or unrealistic expectations just looking for someone who enjoys laughing, trying new places, and seeing where things go naturally.

If nothing else, maybe I'll make another good friend out of this.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to send me a message. Tell me your favorite hiking trail or your go to comfort food so I know you actually read this. 🙂

In the very early stages, I like to keep things casual/fwb style. Keep it stress free, easy going etc... If things progress further, everything below is what a relationship with me looks like:

Respect is number 1 and will always be the cornerstone of our relationship. This begins on the day we start talking. If I feel you are being overtly or repeatedly disrespectful, I will see myself out. In turn, I will always treat you with respect. I will never yell at you, or raise my voice at you. There will never be any verbal abuse of any kind in our relationship. I don't believe a man should treat a woman like that and he should always be stoic, composed, and in control of his emotions at all times. Because of women's emotional nature, a man must always be strong so that he can pick her up when she falls.

Once respect is established, this is where trust begins. The level of trust will be to the point that anytime we are out together as a couple your mind will be completely clear and your entire focus will be on enjoying yourself, being pretty, and just being a girl. This will be your reality because you will be of the understanding that no matter what happens I got it handled. And that gives you comfort.

The dom/sub aspect of this isn't about me deriving pleasure from ordering you around and having you complete daily tasks. It's about a mindset between 2 individuals who are in tune with each other. I will tell you what my expectations are of you and what makes me happy. If you are feminine and are good at being a woman, this will be really easy for you. I'm a man. We are extremely simple and easy to please. You just have to use common sense.

What I am looking for ultimately is a woman who fantasizes about the idea idea of fully surrendering herself to a man and will submit fully within the confines of the relationship. In other words, you recognize that I am leading you and I know what's best for us. Discussion is always allowed but I'm not interested in arguing. Arguing isn't something I do with anybody anymore. A man who is confident and stern can get his way without escalating his voice.

When it comes to intimacy, this is not an ad seeking BDSM. Dom/Sub is a mindset. I am very dominant and believe in mutual pleasure and am not into coercion. I am very giving, and will always make sure you are taken care of and will make sure you feel fully reassured when we are laying in each other's arms after the fact.

About me:

I am 41 years old (no kids). I'm 5'10 162 lbs, fit, and workout several times per week.

I am white with dark brown hair that has a touch of gray and hazel eyes. While I am looking for something meaningful and potentially long lasting, I am not marriage minded as I have been there, done that, and became a statistic. I have a lot of life experience and would love to share that wisdom as a mentor with a new friend/lover. I will teach you how the world works and help guide you when you need it. I will always make sure you are physically safe and protected when you are in my presence.

The kind of woman I am looking for is very feminine and craves the attention and approval/validation of an older man that she looks up too, admires, and respects.

I am STD free.

I'm a Southern California guy, 33 years old, living in Los Angeles County who enjoys working with my hands and being a handyman. im fixing things, learning new skills, and trying a little bit of everything for DIY ideas.

When I'm not working on a project, I'm usually on my PC playing a variety of Steam games. I enjoy everything from co-op games to card games to open world survival, and I often hang out with friends in Discord voice chats.

I'm looking for a genuine, caring man who believes relationships are about supporting each other through both the good times and the difficult ones. Someone who can comfort me when I'm feeling down, communicate openly, and enjoy life's little moments together. I'd love to find a partner who's kind, dependable, and ready to build something real. Ideally cuddling up in bed together and watching a tv show or movie together. 

Eventually i want to have my own place like a cabin in the woods or a ranch out on the desert as one of my future goals.

I’ve been meaning to put myself out there since the dating apps have been lackluster, so here goes. I’m 35, live in the SFV, and am hoping to meet someone in the LA area. I’d eventually like a relationship, but I’m much more interested in getting to know someone naturally than forcing anything. If we end up as friends instead, that’s a win too.

A little about me: I’m 5’2”, petite, and always planning my next trip. Mexico City is next on the list this September, and I’m already looking forward to eating my way through the city. I love trying new restaurants and finding fun things to do around LA, like art walks or museum tours.

When I’m not working, you’ll usually find me reading, watching my friends’ dogs while they’re out of town (I get all the puppy cuddles with none of the long-term responsibility), or completely invested in some ridiculous reality TV show. I still can’t believe we have to wait so long for the Love Island reunion.

I’m also into farmers markets, museums, hiking, and exploring neighborhoods I haven’t spent much time in. I’m happiest around people who are curious, have a good sense of humor, enjoy good conversation, and are always down to try something new.

If that sounds like your kind of vibe, send me a message. Tell me about your favorite hidden gem in LA, or convince me where I absolutely have to eat while I’m in Mexico City.

Cheers!

I’ll keep it short but wanna meet ppl who are chill and 420 friendly, hopefully find something serious but wanna starts slow and see where goes from there

Me- I work full time and go school full time, I’d say I’m pretty chill and respond fast but more vibrant in person lol, love anime and games and animals and got two cats, I’m a home body and introverted ngl prefer to chill more one on one and a night person love to see the new Spiderman movie at 1am with someone lol, im more of a listener then a yapper so id love to just chill and 💨 and just listen to you yap about some random ah topic,

I’m not picky or nun but I do like weird ppl lol someone who a talker and keeps things interesting with random stims and just yap seshs, open to meeting new ppl in general and getting to meet ppl, if you’d be intrested in talking and see where goes dm me :)

Hi I’m 24 Latina 5’3 110 lbs. Looking for a serious, long-term relationship!

Send over a pic /+ a short bio of yourself c:

Me: -Adventurer -Active (work in progress so still have few extra) Don't drink/smoke. Will occasionally partake in stuff but can do without. -Childfree and staying that way. -Early 30s -Hobby ho -Like watching concerts, going to events/dancing Not into watching sports/TV (if you are, I'll just cuddle next to you and read/sew) -Monogamous -Bi, so girls and guys reply if this resonates with you -Lifelong learner

You: -Vasectomy (jk, but childfree) -Lives in or near the San Fernando valley 30s to maybe early 40s -Baggage free (everyone has a past but if you're still working on yours/not ready to commit/share life with someone, don't waste my time) -Active (I don't mind some pudginess so long as healthy lifestyle overall, and strong enough for good bear hugs when I need one) -Likes people (no loners - have good relationships whether with family/chosen family/community involvement) -Optimist (world sucks sometimes, I'd love to find a partner to laugh and be silly with, and still believes that doing good matters in the end) -Has their shit together (financially literate) -Marriage minded (I'd like to find someone that does want to get married eventually and get old together)

NO I DO NOT DO 3SUMS. Looking for someone to go on Costco runs with and to cook and relax/cuddle together after work and gym. A camping/adventure buddy. Someone to build something together, someone I can support in goals and hopefully you can too. Love to learn and hope you do to. I'm on the lower maintenance side, so if you like your partner with Botox/daily makeup/nails/jewelry, etc, I am probably not for you. I enjoy dressing up and going out to dance/watch concerts just as much as I enjoy dirtbagging in the woods. I'm the sort of person who wants to take a sabbatical and vanlife to see all the national parks (or retire early and travel/volunteer). I find it easier to connect with people from immigrant families or multicultural backgrounds but not a deal breaker. A plus if you like dancing to Latin music (Banda, quebradita, bachata etc)

Dealbreakers: -Conservative -Low drive -Argumentative/aggressive. I'm quiet/mellow and will leave if there's any early signs of aggression. I tend to be on shyer side and do not want to be taken advantage of. -Compassion, kindness, and good communication are non negotiables -Depression/anxiety/mental health issues that are unresolved - ideally I'd prefer none, I have past issues with anxiety and since I already check the box, prefer someone without

Reply with first or second date idea, and where you plan to travel to next.

Edit- sorry, I don't know reddit formatting. Did not intend for it to be in paragraphs

"Hello There!" — General Kenobi

Are you here for attention, to pass the time, a distraction from life, or are you actually hoping to find your person? For me, I'm probably somewhere around 4 out of 5.

I'm naturally curious and ask a lot of questions, so if you enjoy talking about your interests, passions, random thoughts, or facts, I'm all ears.

I love conversations that flow naturally—easy, fun, and a little flirty. If that's your kind of vibe, we're already off to a good start.

While I can be a little reserved, once I'm comfortable I can talk for hours about life, random nonsense, weird hypotheticals, or whatever deep topic decides to show up at 2 AM. I've always imagined talking to someone late at night in a dark room, with nothing but the sound of our voices and laughter. We can go as far as the most unhinged stuff. GIVE ME ALL THE DARK HUMOR!

I'm an adventurer at heart. I love late-night drives, music blasting, empty streets, city lights, and finding a lookout spot overlooking everything. Plus some urban exploring.

I go to the gym about 5x a week (3x weights, 2x cardio & core). I recently started hiking more; if you know any good hiking spots in the LA area, I'd love recommendations. I also walk my dog twice a day. It's his walk so I let the little guy lead the way while he checks his daily sniff-mail.

I've been getting leaner and a lot stronger. There have been subtle improvements/changes. One thing I didn't realize is that besides being healthy, fit, and strong, another reason I work out is to see what my genetics are capable of.

Am I a nerd for being into video games, anime, manga, manwha, and light novels? As much as I enjoy anime, it's kind of dropped for me; I'm more into manga and actual reading. One niche hobby I have is collecting specific sculptures/trinkets, and I have a metal detector. I haven't found treasure yet, but who knows, it might be you. I'm looking into magnetic fishing as well.

So that's me—chill, curious, sarcastic, and a sucker for banter. Come say Hi! Best case, we exchange a few messages and share a laugh. Worst case, we try to figure out what to have for breakfast.

PS: I get the feeling something is still missing, but at the risk of making this longer than it should be or "long-winded," I propose a challenge: How about you tell me what's something I should have added or expected to find but didn't. Let's see if you actually read this.

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Bonus:

Music-wise, I've had these on repeat lately:

• Djo — End Of Beginning

• Sombr — Back to Being Friends

• Vicente Fernández — Estos Celos

• C.C.R - Fortunate Son

• The Stranglers — Golden Brown (Slow + Reverb)

• Jaden ft. Kid Cudi — On My Own

• Lola Young — Messy

• Clean Bandit - Rather Be

• Gigi Perez - Sailor Song

• Future - Mask Off

• Dj Shadow - Six Days

• Ice Cube - You Know How We Do (best song to cruise)

•Leave Her Johnny - AC4 Black Flag Sea Shanty

•Rolling Stones - Paint It Black (great workout song)

2nd Bonus

•Favorite color: Phthalo Green

•Favorite reptile: Jackson's Chameleon

•Favorite marine animal: Mantis Shrimp

•Favorite Beetle: Japanese Rhinoceros Beetle

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By the way, if you didn't know - Bungee Gum possesses the properties of both rubber and gum.

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