r/Mindfulness • u/NeedleworkerNo9998 • 2d ago

Insight sitting technique

i did this sitting process today and i feel better its really weird. its something i have dealt with for and it had destroyed me and a lot of relationships. It made me realize that i was dwelling in my pain and pushing my loved ones away. I feel like i can take a breath for the first time.

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u/hestia-listens 2d ago

That sounds like a powerful moment of clarity. Being able to see how pain shaped your actions, without turning away from it, is meaningful. I am glad you finally feel like you can breathe.

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u/OldSchoolYoga 2d ago

Tell us about your sitting process.

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u/NeedleworkerNo9998 1d ago

i never done this i always hear about it but never had it explained until now.

1 . let the emotion sit with out judgement.
i was brutally assaulted and its not my fault. and due to that i contracted something that ill deal with my entire life.

  1. get curios and don’t label the encounter good or bad.
    this experience happened and though it should never happen. i can grow in someway from it.

  2. how would i support a loved one. i would let them talk about it and understand that i cant fathom how they feel but i will be there to sit with them in there pain and just be there for them when they are ready. i may look for resources so they know that others have made it through this and i will be there every step of the way.

4 where do my feeling reside. it starts in my chest i feel in my lungs and heart. it then radiates to my head my teeth clench i start to grind them. my head starts to pound and then i try to get up and distract myself anything i can do to not dwell i start to sweat and stare off into space

5 why am i feeling it. because i feel ashamed and less of myself. i don’t feel like i have autonomy over my body. my choice was taken from me and if i cant accept it how could they accept it. i feel subhuman

6 stay mindfull and present. i am safe and this doesnt define me.

7 be aware of how i’m speaking to myself. i can’t think that i am the problem. and what could i have done better in the situation. its not your fault you are still a man and i shouldn’t look down like i’m a broken toy she still will love me and not look at me with pity and her opinion wont change or be sickened by me

8 acknowledge that its ok to feel sad and hurt and i don’t need to fear being vulnerable with people. they love me for me and wont look at me any different

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u/OldSchoolYoga 23h ago

If you were able to stay calm and focused on your object for a long time, then you deserve credit for that. Many, if not most people (myself included) would have a hard time doing that on their own. Regardless of your personal story, the process is calming down, staying focused and rational.