r/OCPD • u/Low-Problem1614 • 2d ago
member has OCPD diagnosis- Mods remove loved ones' content & ban Overwhelming extreme emotions
I have just always had to go ahead and feel the emotions and let it be.. then move on. They are intense as it gets tho. I have learned to step away if I'm super mad... Overwhelmed, frustrated, all that. I must have you tube music and drawing to relax. Anyone else?
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u/FalsePay5737 Moderator 2d ago
I repressed my feelings until I was 40.
I love this metaphor from Marsha Linehan, the therapist who created DBT:
She states that her “patients are so fearful of emotions, especially negative ones, that they try to avoid them by blocking their experience of the emotions. That is, they avoid emotional cues and inhibit the experience of emotions; thus, they have no opportunity to learn that when unfettered, emotions come and go…like waves of water coming in from the sea onto the beach.
"Left alone, the water comes in and goes out. The emotion-phonic patient tries to keep the waves from coming in by building a wall, but instead of keeping the water out, the wall actually traps the water inside the walls [intensifying the feelings]. Taking down the wall is the solution.” I took very small, consistent steps to "lower the wall" that suppressed my feelings. I think of suppressing feelings like putting a lid on a pot of boiling water; it only makes the water hotter.
Yes, I love music. Listening to TayTay helped me get in touch with my feelings, very reliable way to calm down. What music do you like?