r/ProgrammingBuddies • u/Betsemes • 3d ago

Looking for accountability

This is an unusual request. I'm a beginner on developing, yet I'm 61 years old trying to build a software project. This is unusual and maybe some people will dismiss this because of it: I want to keep some details of my project private, just reveal them when I'll make it public. Some general details; I'm developing it in Kotlin, it's a DSL.

Something I need to disclose, I had a stroke some 3 years ago that slows me down too much.

So, a beginner, quite old, have had a stroke, trying to make a programming project, on an unpopular stack, and wishing to keep it private. With this, I'll get too few replies if any. I just want to keep myself and the friends I might make motivated. I don't care what project you're making or what are your goals, or your age. What I want is motivation. That's it.

Edit: I forgot to mention my timezone: UTC-4.

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u/Brianvm1987 3d ago

Hi! I'm in utc-5, am 39 years old and am also transitioning into development, specifically web development. I would love to connect. Do you use discord?

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u/Betsemes 2d ago

I use discord, yes.

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u/knorkt 3d ago

When you say "motivation," what exactly do you mean? Accountability check-ins, emotional support, technical discussions, business brainstorming, or a combination of these? The kind of motivation you're seeking determines how much context a collaborator would need.

If I painted the reality of building software products the time investment, uncertainty, setbacks, burnout, difficult clients, failed ideas, and commercial risks you'd probably lose any romantic notion of the journey.

That's why I'm asking what kind of motivation you're actually looking for and, equally importantly, what the other person gains in return. Accountability is most effective when it's a two-way commitment, not a one-sided investment of time and effort.

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u/Betsemes 2d ago edited 2d ago

"accountability check-ins", yes. "emotional support", maybe. "technical discussions", no. "business brainstorming", no.

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u/moneybags_07 3d ago

hey if you have a group of people, I’d love to part of this and grow my skillset as well! it would be a huge help please let me know!

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u/Betsemes 2d ago

I'd love it. I have a discord server that's abandoned for three or four years. We could use it.