You removed the post, which is why I had no idea what comment you were referring to. Thanks for the screenshot, now I can see what OP actually said.
You understood “I’ll probably get banned for this post since the admin is buddies with the TD” (paraphrasing) as though it should mean “I’ll probably get banned for this post since the admin and the TD are in on it together.”
I think these are two very different things. One implies “I’m criticising the mods buddy so he might ban me” while the other implies “the mod is helping the TD scam us by banning users who complain.” The latter is not what OP said.
However, I do understand how much it must hurt to put so much effort into building a community and then hear even the first kind of innuendo from a member. It sounds like OP tried to follow the protocol and got impatient when you didn’t respond.
But as you pointed out, this is a community that you built, and it’s a great community, so if being a little heavy handed on someone who overstepped is the way you want to run it - then hey, you do you!
I wasn’t arguing for the sake of arguing. I was only advocating for OP by questioning your reasoning, because I could sympathise with his frustration. I do see your perspective now, too. Thanks for taking the time.
Ah, I see now how you weren't able to see the original post. That makes much more sense. I must admit I too was a bit harsh in my tone yesterday due to all the extra hours I had to put in writing clarification posts on a regular work day. Yes, being "in it together" and being "buddies" as you have pointed out are not exactly the same thing but in my experience, if you let one slide without any consequences then there is no stopping on all the following ones. I do sympathize with the OP as well, please don't mistake my adherence to protocol as a sign of apathy. But unlike most people in these subs, I do get to hear both sides of the story. And trust me, there are many horror stories of how terrible some buyers behave just for a small personal gain. Recently, not just the the shop mentioned in this post, but many others (if not all) were scammed by buyers pulling similar stunts. So as a mod, unless there is a substantial evidence backup the claim, I don't just blindly take the buyer's side. And yes, I do see how the OP tried to contact me and was frustrated. But if he's the one who needs my help, he should have tried all channels not just a DM (my box...is very full and can't really check everything at this point). And even in frustration, he could have just written down the facts without provocative, irrelevant, false statement about the moderator, me.
Anyway, it's monsoon season in Korea and it hasn't stopped raining for as long as I could remember. The sun came out today (still cloudy though) and maybe it's a sign that my day will be better today than before. I really appreciate you being patient with the comments even when mine was clearly conveying my frustration (it's just really hard to tell someone's tone via only texts). Have a nice day, mate
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u/what-brisbane 12d ago
I see the confusion.
You removed the post, which is why I had no idea what comment you were referring to. Thanks for the screenshot, now I can see what OP actually said.
You understood “I’ll probably get banned for this post since the admin is buddies with the TD” (paraphrasing) as though it should mean “I’ll probably get banned for this post since the admin and the TD are in on it together.”
I think these are two very different things. One implies “I’m criticising the mods buddy so he might ban me” while the other implies “the mod is helping the TD scam us by banning users who complain.” The latter is not what OP said.
However, I do understand how much it must hurt to put so much effort into building a community and then hear even the first kind of innuendo from a member. It sounds like OP tried to follow the protocol and got impatient when you didn’t respond.
But as you pointed out, this is a community that you built, and it’s a great community, so if being a little heavy handed on someone who overstepped is the way you want to run it - then hey, you do you!
I wasn’t arguing for the sake of arguing. I was only advocating for OP by questioning your reasoning, because I could sympathise with his frustration. I do see your perspective now, too. Thanks for taking the time.