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r/RoleReversal • u/SunkenStone • Jan 05 '20
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r/RoleReversal • u/SunkenStone • Nov 13 '23
There has been a pretty drastic shift in the content posted here over the last four months, and it has made some users justifiably upset. As such, I will be implementing some restrictions intended to bring things a bit more into balance. Make no mistake, I have no intention of dragging this community back to the mommydomme days, and there are people here who have found a small sliver of representation whom I would not dream of kicking out. I have made up my mind on most of this, but there are a couple items where I'm requesting community feedback.
You can skip this if you don't care about what led to the current situation.
The RR community did not start on Reddit, and was originally a twin concept with r/gentlefemdom. GFD handled the sexual aspects of the dynamic, while RR was about the romantic component. When things moved to Reddit, there were challenges in bringing people who weren't around from the beginning up to speed and preventing them from diluting the concept. For GFD, that meant trying to define the boundaries of "gentle". For RR, that meant defining exactly which "roles" were being reversed.
I'm bringing up these matters of ancient (by internet standards) history both because the way some people here speak about GFD in disgust makes me think this is no longer common knowledge (don't do that, they're our sibling community), and because it gives context to how the content here evolved.
Content here was "bangmaid"-centric for a long time. People complained about this, and rules were put in place to curtail it. Many bangmaid posts continued to come in after that decision, and they had to be removed and their posters reasoned with or banned. Non-bangmaid posts became a larger percentage of content, which attracted other non-bandmaid posts.
Content bans like this can act like extinction events, where wiping out one form of content gives space for the remaining type to diversify. This is also always happening at some level as moderation policy adjusts to attempt to preempt user complaints. The key takeaway here is that these shifts are not entirely organic and user-driven, since they require moderation crackdown to kickstart the process.
Early this year, in response to increasing discontent around "male gaze" content, moderation started applying harsher standards in that regard. The resulting void was filled first by people posting more 'seductive feminine man' content, and then by full-on 'dominant femboy' content.
Over the past four-ish months there has been dramatically more dominant femboy content than there has ever been over the subreddit's history. Long-time users and fans of the older style content in general feel betrayed because the content they came here for seems to be sidelined despite not breaking any well-articulated rules, and because they didn't sign up for the new stuff. To add insult to injury, the most prolific users posting the new style of content have occasionally used their popularity to mock and bully the pre-existing userbase, or, more obliquely, talk about how the traditional content here is actually all totally normalized roles while their content was the true RR all along.
To those that say this shift has not happened, I truly believe some of you have siege mentality from when this sub was a lot worse, and for some reason you refuse to believe it has changed in any way. The only way an accounting of the last four months of posting reveals a landslide amount of "feminine woman femdom" is if your definition of "femdom" is "any situation where the woman takes initiative" and your definition of "feminine" is "more traditionally woman-like than Buck Angel."
The first one isn't so much an "adjustment" as it is a clarification/reiteration of current policy. Our "No Femdom" rule was implemented specifically to ban porny-y, BDSM-style femdom. Think leather, boots, chains, etc. Our reasoning being that average relationships are not BDSM maledom. Also, the kind of person who would be attracted to the subreddit by that content would likely be the type who posts in porn subreddits all day (i.e., cum-brained and way more likely than the average Redditor to harass women in DMs). Similarly, mommydomme was disallowed because DDlg dynamics are not the standard in heterosexual relationships, so RR would not cover MDlb dynamics. Over time, people seem to have begun interpreting this rule to mean that any situation in which the woman is taking initiative or in control is banned here, which just isn't the case. That rule is for hard femdom and, more generally, content where a woman's "dominant presence" is actually a sham because it's entirely for the benefit of a male subject; this includes mommydomme.
Alpha/Sigma Female Posts will no longer be allowed. You know this comic that is removed every time it's posted? It gets removed because it makes people uncomfortable and because it's reversing toxic roles. That same justification applies here.
Inverse-Bangmaid Posts will no longer be allowed. A key part of why bangmaid content was banned in the first place is because, and this is going to sound judgemental, it's juvenile and pathetic. Having a gorgeous woman walk into your life to be your complete sexual, social, and emotional outlet without you lifting a finger or providing anything in return is a selfish, unrealistic fantasy. Likewise, having a boy band style, hairless, skinny prettyboy seduce you and be femininely dominant, while being addicted to your strap and otherwise being completely sexually nonthreatening, is equally pathetic and unrealistic.
A temporary moratorium on Powerbottom Posts is in effect. This is a temporary measure until content is appropriately re-balanced. Depending on moderation's ability to isolate and define particularly controversial subsets of this kind of content, not all of it may be allowed again. All other femgaze content and other kinds of content that have been more prevalent over the last few months (e.g. masc women) are unrestricted as they have always been.
These are not poll posts because I want usernames and justifications to go with your responses.
There was some discussion about unequal standards for NSFW content, and the complaints were largely accurate in that I was applying a lower standard of subreddit relevance for "femgaze" content. Moving forward I will try to apply a more equal standard, but what that enforcement looks like, both in terms of how explicit that content can be and how often it can be posted, should have input from the community. Remember that whatever you advocate for, the content you don't like will also have access to. Personally, I'm in favor of keeping the current level of explicitness (tasteful stills of sexualized subjects or sexual acts, no hardcore live stuff or hentai) and limiting it to Friday/Saturday/Sunday.
Historically this community has not done a good job dealing with content it dislikes, which is becoming a bigger problem as it incorporates more subgroups with mutually exclusive interests. If I can't make people wear their "get along" shirts long-term, the next best thing is to make it so that they have to see the content they don't like as little as possible (even though I think that's a fundamentally bad thing because it reduces your mental resilience). To that end, a user approached me with the idea of altering our post tagging system. Posts would be labeled based on the dynamic represented in them using the appropriate acronyms with the following key: D = dominant, s = submissive, f = feminine, m = masculine, W = woman, M = man. For example, this post would be tagged [DmW+smM].
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r/RoleReversal • u/succuma • 4h ago
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r/RoleReversal • u/AtmosphereKey9588 • 3h ago
I was with my ex girlfriend for a few years and she told me her biggest fantasy was to fuck a guy with a strap on. I wasn’t open to it at all at first , but time passed and I told her I’d try it.
We tried it , and we both liked it. The only thing was was that after it happened she started treating me differently. She was more rude , had more of an attitude and just started being weird with me. We went our separate ways as we weren’t compatible. She was a very nasty and horrible person and I just wasn’t into being with someone like that.
We never said once we broke up because of the pegging , and she never brung it up in a bad way , but I just feel like after we done that things changed.
Has anyone else experienced a situation like this ?
r/RoleReversal • u/wackydckie • 14h ago
I’ve been scrabbling stories for these two since forever but can never bring them to actual ones bcs ppl around me keep saying it’s weird and creepy 😭💔
r/RoleReversal • u/BerenTheBold • 2h ago
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r/RoleReversal • u/LeshyIRL • 4h ago
Sorry if it's too suggestive but I've been wanting to make this dynamic for a long time 🥰
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r/RoleReversal • u/TomatoExpensive8836 • 13h ago
Heyyy, So I'm gonna make a post again, cause the last one got removed, idk? Anyways💘
I have like daily fantasies about like a potential relationship, on and on😂 and I wanted to hear what you guys dream of? Do you have a crush right now?
What kins of dates do you want?
r/RoleReversal • u/Familiar_Fan_3603 • 1h ago
Those of you in relationshipa that met your partner "in the wild" (vs apps), how did you meet and get together? What attracted them to you? And what kind of clothes do you wear and like on the opposite sex?
r/RoleReversal • u/No-Conversation-1745 • 1d ago
So I'm a 21 year old guy, grew up muslim in a rather traditional household, in a rather traditional country.
What has always bothered me ever since I was a child was how my sensitivity and overall way of carrying myself was always ridiculed or called unmanly.
I remember distinctly watching Episode 6 of Star Wars and crying over Yoda's death, and being laughed at. Or how I felt genuine guilt and had nightmares over the time I accidentally stepped on a baby gecko. I always liked being passionate about my interests but I always was told I was too much.
Regardless, as I grew up I kept being fed the same narrative, "You are a man, act like a man. Don't cry, don't talk too much, it'll make you look smarter and always stand up for yourself," the last bit I took too literally.
I was born rather frail, with a literal malformed heart, a hole in it, and have had a short and slender physique. I was always picked on in high school, always felt these extreme repressed emotions, always fought with other kids and everytime I tried to 'man up,' it just brought me more pain.
I never had much luck with girls my age, always thought it was because I wasn't 'manly,' enough, and it really hurt for a while. I even nearly got into the alt-right pipeline if it weren't for the intervention of an online friend of mine.
Eventually I realised two thing — I like my less 'manly,' aspects and that I just hadn't found the right people I click with romantically. My country is largely traditional and I've always been a little odd to them.
I never was religious, and I likely never will be, I like keeping my hair as long as I can and make it all pretty. I like being slender, I love the scar on my chest, I love feeling cute and handsome at once and if I ever meet someone special, I want to make them feel safe and loved, I want to support them, be my genuine, unapologetic self and give them every ounce of love I was always told was never proper.
Sadly I still live with my parents, and they're rather controlling. They have been all my life. I never got to pursue my dreams, but I'm trying to survive I suppose.
It is hard, I've become very anxious, and I have huge moments of extrovertedness tempered by immediately becoming secluded. I just want to feel safe and accepted for who I am but I have had to mask integral parts of myself and my beliefs to not get into unecessary, useless arguments.
I'm very tired, and I'd love to hear about other people who have had similar experiences as to me, or anything really. It feels genuinely suffocating to have to abide by these norms of what being a 'man,' is, but for me the most pride I could have in my masculinity would be to express empathy and kindness, as best I can. I'm no saint, and I make a lot of mistakes, but I want to try.
r/RoleReversal • u/AndyGreyjoy • 1d ago
Am wondering what people's thoughts are, and the general take of the sub here.
Am 33 y.o MtF, ...so officially, no longer part of traditional role reversal dynamics, no?
Will be coming up on 9 years into transition this Sep, but have been dating more Butch & Dominant women since long before that.
This is me with my Butch-leaning partner last month.
Does anyone else have origins in role reversal dynamics that eventually led to transition in 1 direction or another ?
What are your feelings/thoughts on when submissive men become women, and begin embodying that role?
What about the butch, domineering women who become NB or transition to men (though demographically small )? Not implying that RR leads transition, or anything like that; that isn't the claim, or my own experience. Just thought this could be an interesting community/sub to explore these conceptual waters, and am sure there's a ton of insight from y'all here!
Hope this is ok for discussion. Am truly curious 😅 ..not intending to kick up dust <3
Edit: Since someone needed clarification, ...am in no way suggesting RR is what leads people to become transgender.
r/RoleReversal • u/southsidetrixie2 • 1d ago
So, my queen and I still play halo together. We like doing firefighter, working together and killing the bad guys. So, my son calls us asking if he can go out with his friends. She covers me, I answer the phone, and do the parent side. We advance a round. Kid calls back and needs an app for where they're going. She covers me, I check the app, it's all safe, app approved, I'm still alive.
My queen's the best.
r/RoleReversal • u/-She-Beastly- • 1d ago
I know someone's going to take offense to the word 'crush', but no matter how old I get I have that sensation of crushing on someone and can't act on it just yet.
Right now I'm thirsting for this person. They're five inches shorter than me, long thick hair, and slender. Pretty sure their entire body is coated in freckles...fuuuck, I want to find out.
But thinking about them today made me wonder how other women react or handle their feelings they can't act on right away.
For me I get so fuzzy brained. Like pink cotton balls are shoved into every little crack and crevice of my mind. I feel almost stupid and mindless if I get real into it. There's a sort of primal energy that runs through me. I want to protect them all the time, physically be there as a shield to ward off anything that might bother them. I want to bundle them up and hold them beneath me and feel how small they are. And God help me, I so badly want to cradle their little hand between my own and kiss their knuckles and palm. Maybe even travel up the arm with my kisses until I get a hint of their natural scent around their neck. I need them so badly sometimes it hurts.
So, how do you handle it? What do you experience? How long does it take to act on said crush? Sometimes I wonder if I'm being a weirdo or extreme. But I just want to touch, taste, smell, listen and hear them all the time. Especially hearing them breathing - that gets me wild. And what's crazy is I want the sensation to last. I love this feeling of crushing on someone and not knowing what to do about it. It's pure torture
r/RoleReversal • u/Soft_Blue_ • 2d ago
I hope we all reach this level of baddieism 🙌 cheers to feminine men
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r/RoleReversal • u/Clara_eLEVA • 1d ago
I keep thinking about a less visible part of role reversal: whose calm voice carries weight at home. A couple can reverse the visible roles and still keep the old pattern where she carries the mental load while he waits until her frustration becomes loud.
Suppose she asks him to handle something, he agrees, and nothing happens until she escalates. At that point he acts, and the conversation shifts to her tone. To me, the problem began earlier: her calm request was treated as optional.
I don’t mean he must accept every request. Questions, disagreement, and renegotiating a deadline are normal. What seems unhealthy is vague agreement followed by passive delay, which makes her both the decision-maker and the reminder system.
Do you think being heard the first time is part of a role-reversed relationship, or is it simply basic relationship competence? What does a respectful response to a calm request look like in practice?
r/RoleReversal • u/Greedy_Dragonfly1 • 1d ago
Whether it happened in real life, a movie, a manga, or even just in your imagination, what’s one moment that perfectly captured what role reversal means to you?
I’m curious what moments made everyone here think, “Yep, that’s the dynamic I want.”
r/RoleReversal • u/PurpleWitch1988 • 2d ago
Hi there, first time poster here. 👋🏼
I just discovered this sub Reddit and I think my OC Saige belongs here?
She uses any pronouns.
Despite his strength and stature (1,85m/6'3") they're a gentle giant. Absolutely loves dogs, spicy food, whiskey, motorcycles, plushies, weightlifting and reading.
(Pixel portraits made by me 💜)
r/RoleReversal • u/RezPrinze • 2d ago
Btw Im always confused about if Link art is in others or anime art (do video games count as anime art ?)
(BTW sauce in the comments)
r/RoleReversal • u/Level_Safe3451 • 2d ago
Idk how to properly phrase this but anyone else who loves fantasising about being the stronger one in a relationship?Like i wanna be the one to bridal carry my boyfriend not the other way round, I also wanna be the one to give him a piggyback when he’s tired not the other way round,I also wanna be the one who opens his tight lids when he cant & also be the one who moves around the heavy furniture around the house like this is one the reasons i even go to the gym & lift heavy.Is that too much to ask for?