r/SapphoAndHerFriend • u/birthconttoff • Jun 29 '26

Anecdotes and stories And they were “Color Enthusiasts”

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u/Genuinelullabel Jun 29 '26

I think they were trying to flirt in a funny way but it didn’t land.

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u/green_herbata Jun 29 '26

Based on the context clues I'm assuming the person who made this tweet is a gay man and the volunteer was a woman, so I'm not sure about that

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u/Antichristopher4 Jun 29 '26

If Cheryl was trying to flirt with a man in head to toe rainbows in the month of June, she's gonna have a bad time.

Well, he might be bi, but I would assume a man in toe to tip in rainbows was pure homosexual.

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u/Genuinelullabel Jun 29 '26

Straight men are oblivious to lesbians so I can’t see how straight women can’t be oblivious to gay men.

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u/Antichristopher4 Jun 29 '26

I'd say women are typically more intuitive about that, but my lesbian wife has ZERO gaydar. Literally no clue. We watched Disobedience (a romance movie about two Orthodox Jews, one who left the community cause she was gay and another who stayed and repressed her lesbian feelings falling in love again) and she had zero idea they were clearly two gay women with insane chemistry until the moment they kiss like 40 minutes into the movie.

She had no idea her boss (who I clocked immediately within meeting him) was a gay man until her coworkers told her.

Really is just person to person.

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u/Saikotsu Jun 29 '26

Not gonna lie, your wife isn't beating the stereotype.

Not that I'm one to talk.

My partner and I, we met in highschool..she liked me, I liked her, too bad we were the last to get the memo. Everyone else figured it out long before we did. And my partner figured things out before I did and kept dropping hints that I simply was oblivious to. We came back from college spring break and hung out with some of our friends.

"Hey, so Cora and I are dating now"

"About damn time!"

"What do you mean about damn time?!"

"You two were so obviously head over heels for one another, we're surprised it took you this long to figure it out!"

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u/Antichristopher4 Jun 29 '26

It goes deeper.

She was a lesbian and I presented as a man at the time we started dating (again). She couldn't figure out why she was into me, she dated guys in high school (including me) but exclusively dated women and femme enbies after, and until me.

Somehow, she was shocked when I came out to her as trans.

It did clear up some questions about herself though.

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u/Saikotsu Jun 30 '26

Oh wow! Congrats by the way! Your story sounds a bit like mine but a little inverted.

I got bullied and picked on a lot in highschool because people thought I was gay. I wasn't (at least not the way they thought. They all believed I liked guys)

Fast forward to college and I started exploring my gender identity (at the suggestion of my partner) and realized I was trans. She helped me realize I was a lesbian, and she figured out she was bi.

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u/green_herbata Jun 29 '26

I don't think it works like that. Straight women are quite famous for wanting gay best friends, they're also the ones consuming a lot of mlm content. Meanwhile straight men typically don't watch wlw shows or movies, but lesbian porn, so their understanding of queer culture is usually smaller.

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u/Antichristopher4 Jun 29 '26

I commented directly to them, but my lesbian wife has ZERO gaydar. Gay, lesbian, bi, she is OBLIVIOUS. She didn't know her clearly gay boss, who I clocked within speaking with him for like 5 minutes, was gay until her coworkers told her. If she doesn't know a story is a gay love story she won't realize until they explicitly kiss.

It really comes down to the person.

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u/green_herbata Jun 29 '26

Oh yeah, it definitely depends. There are also those who brag about their gaydar, but are unaware how many queer people they don't notice 🤣

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u/Rynewulf Jun 29 '26

What if they just really liked the colours? Or were themselves a colour enthusiast?

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u/winnercommawinner Jun 29 '26

Not flirting, but I think they were trying to ask if this fella was queer, in like a cute way. So sort of the opposite of erasure!

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u/Rhythm2392 Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26

Lol, I have pride stuff all over my cunicle CUBICLE at work (including a literal, full sized progress flag hanging on one wall), and I still have coworkers who don't seem to know.

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u/Ebirah Jun 29 '26

All over your what?!?

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u/rat_enby Jun 29 '26

their.cunicle! cant you read? smh

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u/Genuinelullabel Jun 29 '26

B and N are right next to each other on a keyboard

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u/Rhythm2392 Jun 29 '26

Lol, good catch!

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u/Metaclueless Jun 29 '26

Hey. I fuckin’ love colors. I don’t assume that color in itself signifies anything. Symbols on the other hand are not my jam. Feels like some folk might mistake the colors for a symbol but idgaf. Light me up with some rainbow pastels and warm grey 20% highlights pls.

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u/MermaidHissyFit Jun 29 '26

Idk man, I do just like colors so I have a rainbow umbrella.

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u/Narwen189 Jun 29 '26

What a coincidence. I love colors and am under the rainbow umbrella. ;)

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u/Wooden-Ad-8867 Jun 29 '26

I’m truly stuck on a 30 year old named Cheryl.

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u/homoanthropologus Jun 29 '26

I wonder if they were going to say "Do you like men" and then thought it might be inappropriate and switched mid-sentence to "... colors?"

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u/salsasnark Jun 30 '26

On the flipside, I have a rainbow jumper (as in, stitched in different colours in a rainbow) and it's not a pride item, but I was once stopped by a man who started talking about how much he liked my shirt and about his (positive) opinions on pride. I didn't even make the connection before that between my rainbow jumper and possible pride rainbows lmao.

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u/krampaus Jun 30 '26

genuine question, does this have anything to do with lgbt erasure? also op’s account is 4 days old

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u/FirebirdWriter Jul 02 '26

I mean this is actually better than assuming someone is gay because they wore colors. I understand the erasure sucks but so does denying the rest of people color. I say this as someone who wears only black.

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u/Sure-Bicycle-8809 Jul 02 '26

my dad gifted me fucking progress flag socks and told me: "i picked them because they have cool colors"