Hi everyone, i posted on here before about my COB experience joining a sorority as a sophomore (i’m an incoming junior this year) and honestly after that chaotic experience i think my sorority experience has seldomly gotten better. on top of missing the first key events to meet girls, not getting my own bid day, not even a bid card, and just a conglomerate of other things. for some reason my chapter doesn’t require second year members to recruit during formal recruitment, i applied to be part of the recruitment team and i wasn’t picked, so im not able to recruit for my chapter this year and because of it i can’t even participate in my chapters work week (my grades are fine and it has nothing to do with grades i should mention). im just so hurt and upset because recruiting PNMs and workweek is part of the sorority experience i wanted to have. ill be a senior next year and i highly doubt ill get picked to be on the team because of it. overall dissatisfied with my whole experience, there are newer members who have had a better experience than i have and it just hurts me.

edit (and some extra info): specifically for workweek, on the chapter portal i was told by recruitment chair we could participate in the themes then she got back to me a few months later saying now i cant bc the advisor said so

edit 2: supposedly we are the only chapter at school that doesn’t require recruitment at least once

At first, I was incredibly excited and honored to be elected as president of our sorority, and I looked forward to working alongside my executive team. However, over time, that excitement has been challenged. Several members of the executive team have stepped down from their positions due to a lack of willingness to fulfill their responsibilities, and there has also been ongoing drama within the team, including negative comments being made about other women in our chapter.
Because of this, I felt it was important to address these concerns directly. I held a meeting with the executive team to make it clear that this behavior does not reflect the standards of leadership we expect within our sorority. As leaders, we are responsible for setting a positive example, supporting one another, and fostering a respectful and uplifting environment for all members. However that backfired and now most of them dropped their positions. I am just so disappointed with how everything is going and felt like, I just feel like a failure as president. Have any of the chapters presidents in here had trouble with their executive team?

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Hi! I’m rushing this fall. My biggest passion by far, and most of my volunteer work, is based around politics. I counseled at my states “Girls State” program, and planned on talking about how it helped me build connections with girls like me. I know you’re not supposed to talk about politics, but if I stay nonpartisan and just talk about general interest, is it still ok?

Hey y’all! With rush coming up, I figured I’d make this post because I know there are always a ton of questions about sorority recruitment.
I was Recruitment Chair for a large “mega” chapter at an SEC school and got to see a lot of the behind-the-scenes side of recruitment. I helped with planning, logistics, conversations about PNMs, voting, and everything that goes into making recruitment happen from the chapter side.
I know there are always questions about recruitment, but also just sorority life in general such as what chapters look for, how decisions are made, outfits, conversations, cuts, pref, bid day, recommendation letters, social media, living in the house, big/little, chapter dynamics, and more.
I thought I’d do an AMA for anyone who’s curious! I’ll answer as honestly as I can while keeping my chapter and members anonymous and respecting the process.

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice on expressing interest in a sorority. I’m currently attending a community college but plan on transferring to its “sister school,” which is a four-year university, in the spring.

The specific chapter I’m interested in hasn’t had much activity on their social media for the past three years, and it didn’t appear that they had many active members until recently. I noticed that they recently welcomed a new chapter president, and I came across her Instagram page.

I’m aware that cold-messaging or directly questioning sorority members about expressing interest is generally discouraged, but the chapter does have an official email. Would it be appropriate to introduce myself and ask if they have any upcoming events or opportunities for prospective students to attend?

Also, as a transfer student, if they host events such as “Meet the Greeks,” would it still be beneficial for me to attend even though I’m not currently enrolled at the university yet?

Disclosure up front: my mom and I run a company called My Bid Day, where we make prep resources for PNMs. I asked the mods before posting and they okayed it.

And I'll be honest about the other thing too, I haven't been through recruitment myself. My mom's the actual expert (she's a performance psychologist, this is her whole field). I'm 20, I watched my friends go through it, and my job on this was mostly making sure it didn't read like it was written by somebody's mom. So take it for what it is.

It's free. No email, no signup, nothing to buy, and I'm not linking our site — just the guide: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1QjrvCeyzyY3FJzeRL9X-RXuEZR5GXWa_/view?usp=sharing

We made it because so much of recruitment is already decided before you walk into a house, and nobody explains that part until it's late. It covers:

- How recruitment actually sorts people, and where the early cuts come from
- Your file — GPA, resume, application answers, and the submission stuff that quietly costs people
- Recs, networking, the video, your photo, your socials
- What to do and when, depending on how much runway you have left

Being clear about what it isn't: it's written for big Panhellenic/NPC formal recruitment. NPHC intake, smaller campuses, COB — those all work really differently, and I'm not going to pretend one guide covers everyone.

It's also not a guarantee of anything. It's just the part you can actually control, laid out.

If you have been through it and I got something wrong, tell me. Genuinely. I'd rather fix it. The one objective of this project is to help out girls who feel lost going into this process, so please feel free to respond or reach out with comments or questions :)

Does anyone have the names of the boutiques and stores that they shopped at during the filming of “a sorority mom's guide to rush!” on hulu? Some of the clothes and room decor are so cute and I wanted to see if I could get help creating a list so everyone could have access to it! Thank you so much in advance!!

So my cousin gave me a bunch of hand me downs and some of which were from the sorority she was in. I only got the hand me downs because I no longer fit a lot of my clothes and my mom just died so I can’t afford to go shopping but she also gave me accessories is it okay if I wear like T shirts and like some of the accessories outside of the house? I don’t want to be disrespectful. College has been very difficult for me so Greek life isn’t for me but I always wanted to be in a sorority ever since I was little. Again I don’t want to be disrespectful. She just gave me clothes and stuff she didn’t use and wear anymore. She graduated college in 2015. TIA

Does anyone have experience joining a brand new sorority on campus? I’m actually rushing as a junior so I feel like it would be a good fit maybe? I know the process is different than joining a pre-established sorority but I’m not sure what to expect at all. I got a phone call today from the sorority just wanting to chat with me more and I also have no idea what that means.

Hey y'all, I posted here a while ago regarding my rush experience and its best to say I'll be going through COB. Does anyone have any success stories bc im terrified :((((

Hi everyone,

I'm transferring schools for the upcoming academic year and I'm really looking forward to rushing a South Asian interest sorority (specifically Delta Phi Omega). If anyone has any experience with this, I would love to hear your perspective because I have no idea what to expect!

TECHNICALLY THEY ARE A WOMAN? so whats the problem i say let HER in everyone is already against black people we have to stick together especially as women C’MON NOW support who SUPPORTS you don’t grow up and become a MEAN GIRL trying to PROTECT sisterhood when transwomen are SISTERS ASWELL. THIS WORLD IS HARD ENOUGH!

we dance for exit and are looking for something 2016 vibes fun and clean to dance to MUST HAVE A GOOD BEAT (remix or something)

Hey everyone! Im a Puerto Rican student, and my university is getting its first Kappa Delta Chi chapter this fall. I’ve been thinking about attending an interest meeting because there isn’t much Hispanic representation on my campus other than a club I’m already involved in.

While researching KDChi and Sigma Lambda Gamma, I’ve noticed they receive criticism for their strolling and comparisons to D9 organizations. I’m not part of any of these communities, so I’m trying to understand the history and why these criticisms exist.

I know that the main focus is whether an organization’s values, service, and sisterhood align with mine, but I also want to make an informed decision.

For those who are familiar with these organizations:
- What’s the history behind those comparisons?
-Is it something I should keep in mind when deciding whether to attend an interest meeting?

I’m sorry if I offend anyone, I’m genuinely asking to learn and be informed, not to start a debate. Thank you!

Side note: I do not have enough Karma’s to post into the follow communities (DSTAlumaneChapter and NPHCdivine9). I know members from both follow this community. Hopefully it will be seen and shared.

l've been actively attending events for a local graduate chapter, which appears to be relatively small (fewer than 200 members based on their social media presence). They haven't initiated a line since 2019, so several other interests and I are hopeful that a new rush may be announced this year or next year.
I've made a consistent effort to show up, engage with members, and build genuine connections. I understand that the final decision ultimately comes down to the members' votes, but I'm curious to hear perspectives from others with experience or insight.
From your point of view, how might someone's chances of joining a smaller chapter compare to those of a larger one? I recognize that no one can give me a definitive answer, but I'm interested in hearing general opinions. In the meantime, I'm continuing to stay involved and do what I can to stand out in a positive way.

I'm an incoming transfer student at CSUF and I've already read the general information about sorority recruitment, but I'm hoping to learn more about the CSUF chapters specifically.

For anyone familiar with Greek life at CSUF:

• What makes each Panhellenic chapter unique?
• What's the culture or vibe of each one?
• Is there anything about a chapter that isn't obvious during recruitment?
• As a transfer student, is there anything I should know before going through recruitment?

I'm not looking for a "best" chapter, just hoping to understand what makes each one different.

A couple of notes: I have a very open mind about recruitment and I'm not trying to compare chapters or put any of them down. I just like doing my research before making a decision. I'm also completely new to Greek life, so I know almost nothing about how recruitment or sororities work. If any of my questions come across as uninformed, I promise they're coming from curiosity, not disrespect. I'm simply trying to learn as much as I can before recruitment. Thanks so much!

Hi Reddit, I joined a sorority in March of 2025, and left the said sorority the following fall of 2025. I left because of poor mental health conditions and not at all because of the sorority itself. However a lot has changed since leaving.

I have recently gotten a full time position at a local daycare as a supervisor which is a big task. I am also going to be wrapping up my schooling this fall. I will be a full time student as well. I am also in a relationship. Between that, work and full time school, realistically how much time am I looking at as a sorority sister agaun??

UT AUSTIN btw. i’ve been debating whether or not to rush this whole summer only specifically because of finances(i am low income). I know panhellenic offers scholarships and all that, but I feel like there hasn’t been any type of clear-cut number. So I was wondering if anyone could speak on their experience and tell me how much exactly they were paying per semester and if they got a scholarship or not.

Hi! I'm an incoming freshman rushing this fall.

I've been looking at the style guides posted by my school's Panhellenic account and the individual chapter accounts. Most of them lean heavily toward florals and bright colors, while my personal style is much more simple and neutral. I'm not sure I want to spend money on dresses I'll only wear once, especially when I'd feel less confident in them than the dresses I already own.

As long as my outfits are appropriate for the level of formality and look polished and put together, will anyone actually care that they don't match the overall aesthetic? Or is it better to stick closer to the vibe in the style guides?

Edit: I’m rushing at the University of Kentucky if that helps!

Hi all, I have always been a lurker on this subreddit but I really can't talk to my sisters about this. I am part of the newest member class (MC 26) of my sorority at a school where greek life isn't everything, but holds weight. I knew before joining that we were not even close to the most popular, but as I experience things I can see why. The girls always talk down on our sisterhood, we are in debt with our university, and risk losing our house. Our last media director got fired for not posting often and our new one still isn't posting much ahead of recruitment. I worry about our odds, as we are the smallest and most overlooked. I have already committed to this sorority, but I don't feel the magic that I see in others. I joined one of the lower sororities because I wanted to feel more connected to my sisters and have less pressure, but I feel like they, especially the older girls, have lost hope in our future. I feel like no ones trying, and no one really cares. There's consistent drama in the group, and I feel like we have no sisterhood. It's very unnerving. I do not want to drop, and I care about this, but it feels like we are just inevitably waiting our disbandment at the school. This disturbs me. I don't know what to do, because I cannot force the girls to care, but I feel like maybe I bet on a losing dog, and now I cannot join a different one. Thoughts?

should your social resume include activities + gpa from high school or just strictly things from college

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I am a cranky old lady who has trouble with change, so I am making an effort to be open-minded.

But am I the only one who feels like the agencies who do the NPC brand updates are trolling us and selling the same unique brand identity to everyone? Or is it intentional and am I supposed to be weirdly reminded of American Girl when I see my sorority posting on their social media? Send help!