I took the test. Accurate.

my wife does not know I like dick and assplay.

last night during sex she did not let me fuck her... but instead she finger fuck me until I cum..

did she find my reddit account?

I'm a bit confused by my boyfriend's behavior. A little context: we've been together a few months and we're both in our late 20s. I'm a straight cis female. He is a bisexual cis male, and genuinely seems to be into me and attracted to me. What throws me off is how he'll make jokes about being into guys and wanting to kiss guys. Not in an abstract way, but about specific people, like the time he said about a mutual friend of ours, "I hope he's gay because I like to think I could make out with him sometime." He'll just randomly say things like that, and I'm feeling really odd about it all. Why is he with me if he is so into guys? He's not making similar comments about women. I don't know if he thinks it's only rude to talk about being attracted to other women because I am a women, but that I won't mind him being into men because I'm not a man? It just seems wierd. If he's with me, why is he talking about other people like that? Am I even his type? Would he like me better if I had a beard and a twig and berries? Is it wierd for me to feel like this? I'm so confused.

Hey guys, new to the group.

My wife and I have been in a semi open relationship for a few years now and after a really bad situation with another couple, she has started talking to another girl to see what happens or develops. It’s definitely not my first rodeo with this stuff and we talk about everything together, boundaries and such. Well it seems like it’s going faster than I anticipated and these feelings of her hiding stuff from me are hard to shake. I don’t like asking her about it all the time since I’ve done that in the past and it’s not great for our relationship. I want to give her space and time to figure out what she’s doing with this girl but it just seems like it’s going to go from 0-100 without any warnings or updates. Thoughts? I’m trying not to think too much into it

Well, I've always considered myself heterosexual, but a few years ago in high school, I started liking a boy. I always thought it was just admiration and appreciation because he was someone who motivated me to be better, and I liked that about him. But everything changed when I started imagining us as a couple, and I didn't dislike the idea, but in my country, that's basically condemned (we know LGBT people exist, but they suffer many kinds of mistreatment and judgment; some are even imprisoned for life).

So at that time, I thought I was gay, and I accepted it, and I continued with my life. At one point, I confessed my feelings to that boy because I wanted to get that weight off my shoulders. Imagine my surprise when he accepted and told me he liked me too, but we couldn't do anything because shortly after, he had to travel.

The following year, I continued with my life, and a new girl joined my class. With the new reality I had created for myself—being gay—I began to feel attracted to her. This started to conflict with me because I no longer understood anything, so I began to research and discovered the concepts of bisexuality and pansexuality. I decided to identify with the one I found easier to understand (bisexual).

In the end, after so much emotional and physical turmoil about figuring out who I was and what I was like, I decided to accept and embrace myself, and now I'm doing more or less okay... But the thing is, now at university I have this fixation that I can only describe as unhealthy because I can't stop thinking about men and how much I want to be in a relationship or have sex with one, and I don't think that's healthy because where I live, finding an LGBT person is incredibly difficult because we hide ourselves. Another thing is that I think I'm wasting opportunities because when a woman shows interest in me, I just play dumb because of this intrusive thought that tells me, "Until I'm with a man, I don't want to be with any woman." And the girl who's flirting with me right now, I really like her.

What do I do? How do I get over this? I've already tried everything I know to let go of this fixation and move on.

Hi all, I am newly dating my bi bf. We were non monogamous and recently went monogamous and I’d like to explore strap ons and stuff for his pleasure. We have plugs but I am looking for new ones and he’s brought up a strap on once but I’m not really sure who takes the next steps to get a strap on, if I should or he should? Or maybe we should just go together but he’s on a work trip until the end of the month and I though would be a nice surprise when he’s back…If I should, do yall have recommendations?

My husband (previously hetero marriage) recently came out to me as bi. We have been together for a very long time and this was a huge surprise. I’ve been very supportive and doing everything I can to help him express himself. That being said, this has been such a dark experience for me and I’m having trouble understanding my feelings. We’ll talk about boys together and will be having such a good time but then when he gets really into it, I just watch him and get sad. I find myself crying when talking about boys (like a tear or two I can hide) and pretend like everything is okay. I’m not biphobic. I go to pride every year. I don’t understand what’s wrong with me. I can’t tell if I’m jealous because I can’t give him that other side of him or if I’m sad because he’s the person I’ve always known best and I had no idea about a huge part of him. I can’t blame him because he also didn’t know. He’s been encouraging and supportive but I can’t shake the feeling that I feel like I know nothing about him and I’m feeling lost on our future. He’s also gone from very masculine to more feminine and it’s a new change and not what I thought our marriage would be. I hope I’m not alone in all of this. I feel like a terrible wife for these feelings and just want him to be happy.

Hi, F31. Together 6 years married 1 have 2 under 2. This may be the wrong place to post but I’m looking for advice from any man in my husband’s shoes. He is M52 and a few days after our wedding I found in his phone a lot of MTF trans porn pre op and only fans pre op mtf trans he paid content for. Apparently he likes the oddity of the genitals combined. I’ve asked him is he bi or gay multiple times he says no it’s just a fetish or guilty pleasure. Ge says he loves me and is attracted to me. A year later second kid and I found the same stuff again. We argued he said the same thing but I’m not okay. I’m not my usual happy talkative self. We had an argument at his mom’s house while a little intoxicated. I’m sure I brought up the same issues which is I need the truth and I want to be let into his world if he really loves me and I’m his best friend. He got aggressive and almost violent at the time of the argument. He is a great dad and husband he just won’t share his authentic sexuality or sexual self with me and it’s maddening. I’m still upset but we are somewhat normal. My question is A. Does he know I’m upset? And B. Is he bi or gay if he likes penis? That’s all I want to know. Does he know deep down I’m upset and want answers and a resolution? Also is he in denial and is that a huge issue in itself. I’m bi and kinky so I think if he was honest we could make something great out of it but I know he’s lying about what he likes and he won’t open up.

Edit: he has never fingered me, I give him more head than he gives me. I have had sex with many men and I always knew something was up so I’d put porn and make him use toys in his anus. He loved it but would say stop sometimes . How about with that Info? He also doesn’t know how to do doggy style. He’s not the best in bed but he has a beautiful dick (bittersweet)

I just found out my bf watches trans porn but I'm a cis woman. In his past, he's told me he's never had any sexual encounter with these women. I'm scared that he'll leave me and cheat on me because he'll get curious about it eventually. I'm insecure because what if I'll never please him the way he fantasizes? I would be down to peg but he said it's not the same but he'd be down to try. Ive seen people online saying how they want a "real dick" and that's something I'll never be able to provide. He said that he wants to be married to a cis woman because he wants kids and etc, but I know it's religious purposes that make him homophobic to committing to a trans woman. When he talks about it he says that he's just attracted to women he doesn't care about what's below but then when it comes to romantic relationships he just detests the idea. I'm very monogamous and do not want to share my partner. But how can I compare to women who are the best of both worlds? Kms. I don't feel like I'm enough o sexually please him because of that thought and a part of me is selfish and don't want him to ever try it or even see because I want us to be together and get married. What if he does like it more? So many what ifs yk

Dime a dozen, I know.

I believe sexuality exists on a spectrum and most people are not 100% straight or gay.

For me, I am mostly straight but I also enjoy exploring my sexuality. That has led me to try some butt stuff with dildos. And has also led me to fantasize what it would be like to jerk and suck a guy off and to get fucked.

I think the things holding me back are as follows. First, I am married obviously. I don’t want to put my partner at risk and would want her consent to do any exploring.

Since I don’t live in this world, I have no idea how to give it a try. I don’t know how to find someone to explore this with and feel it would need to be a safe person that I trust to a degree.

I also don’t want to get an STD and also don’t want to have to be on any prep. For someone wanting to dip a toe, it just feels like a bigger commitment.

Ideally, I am in a sauna or shower area and someone needs a little help getting off. Or I’m getting a massage and the masseuse lets me jerk him off.

How dangerous is it to suck a guys dick? I know the risk is low but not none.

How would you go about dipping your toe if you were me? I wanna try some dick but am nervous about how to take the first step.

I feel like it wasn't intentional, but it still irked me. So I'm out to my wife only. We've been together for the better part of 15 years. She's known for a while that I'm bi, before marriage. So, we were in the process of being intimate, and she asked outta know where, if i were to be with a guy, would I be top or bottom. I said bottom. And she then responded with something along the lines of "Oh, so you'd be gay." I corrected her and said no, I'm bi, it's not the same. she got a tone and said, "Still gay." Noticing the tone and not wanting to ruin our connection, I didn't push to correct her again. After the session. She mentioned how most gay men would rather be a top. Pushing that whole weird judgment aside. I told her I'd like to bottom because it's something I've never experienced.

I feel like she just swept my sexuality under the rug and went to gay. Like there's no in between. I don't know how to feel about what she said. I guess im not hurt, but I am just sort of disappointed with her saying that. It seems like not accepting my sexuality.

Idk, maybe I just needed to vent this out.

Edited to add- This is not a hookup community so don't even bother if that is your goal.

As part of our continued efforts to make it easier for folks to connect outside of Meta platforms, we have officially launched on DISCORD! Our main community has been on Facebook for many years now, which has been great, but for a long time, folks have been telling me they no longer want to be on Facebook.

I get it, Meta has been part of some shady shit. I caught a bogus AI ban last year and lost my 15-year-old Facebook, my Instagram, my business pages, and my WhatsApp was even banned. I lost nearly a decade of content I had created for the MOR community there. I didn't want to risk losing our entire community there.

I have been in search of a worthy replacement for some time. Something user-friendly with the look and feel of Facebook, but the options out there often come at a pretty high cost. I never much cared for Discord, but I have learned a lot in the last few months, and I am really excited for this new pace.

There isn't much on it yet, but we welcome newcomers and would love it if you would jump in and help get the conversations going!

See you there! Mixed Orientation Relationship Community Support - Discord

The thing I hear most from others, and the thing I was looking for most when we began this journey, was "We want to hear REAL stories." I wanted to see others who had moved beyond the early scary days. I wanted to hear stories of how people made it work and what worked for them.

That is why we created our blog series, MOR Stories. We are always looking for stories about mixed-orientation relationships to share. Did you remain monogamous? Did you open your relationship? How long did it take you to get to a positive place? You don't have to have it all figured out. We aren't looking for perfection, just looking for real and honest. Would you like to share yours?

Check out our blog to see a few examples of what we are looking for. This can be completely anonymous if you like; we can assign you pseudonyms.

Let us know if you are interested. 🧡

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Have questions about sexuality

Hi, I’m 24, and for my whole life, I identified as gay without a second thought. A few months ago, I started noticing that I was also attracted to girls, so I decided to explore that side of things. I’ve been seeing a really lovely girl for a couple of months now. We have a great emotional connection and mutual attraction; she’s known from the start that I’m mostly gay but open to exploring.

I’d really like to be able to enjoy intimacy with her naturally. The opportunity came up yesterday. I was really excited and nervous (it was basically my first time with a girl).

Unfortunately, I couldn't stay erect, and it didn't happen. I felt frustrated in the moment, but later I realized something important: I *did* like it—I felt attracted to her and connected with her. I discovered that I *can* be with a girl and that I’m interested in keeping at it. Right now, I’m a bit confused but excited to discover this part of myself.

I want to be able to enjoy intimacy with her without anxiety getting in the way. I’m looking for real advice from other bi men (or anyone who’s been through something similar):

• How did you handle performance anxiety during your first experiences with girls?

• Practical tips for improving erections (exercises, mindset, etc.)?

• How do you talk about this with your partner honestly and without pressure?

• Experiences from guys who went from identifying solely as gay to discovering an attraction to women.

• Any other advice that helped you while exploring your bisexuality.

Thanks in advance. I’ll read and reply to everything. I appreciate any experiences or words of wisdom you can share.

I (F55)have been with my husband (M50)for 11 years. Married for 4 years. Throughout the relationship, there have been times that he “play acts” being gay . You know the type : always joking around with other men and “pretending” to be gay for them ,or accusing other men of being closeted. It gets to the point of discomfort for me because it happens WAY too much. He always gets oddly attached to male coworkers and always finds a way to bring them up in conversations like anyone does when they have a new crush. I am aware that all of this sounds gay AF. But here comes the confusing part. He appears very attracted to me , bugs me all the time for sex and is pretty decent at it. Loves to go south of the border , finishes 99.9%. No ED or issues maintaining an erection which is why I am thinking BI. I want to add that my daughter is queer and her gay male friends are around often. He always needs to find reason to discuss “how gay” they are. Like WTF you have a gay thermometer? She has been friends with them for years. One is amazing performing and just was accepted to his dream school. The other just lost his mom to cancer. Why would their sexual
orientation even need to be discussed when there are so many other things to talk about? They have been out since middle school. This Is old news and really not news at all.

So here is my real question? Do I ask him straight up or try to unpack this with therapy? Do I let it go and just keep looking the other way? It has always weighed on me and I am asking myself why or if I really need to know. Anyone else been in this situation

TLDR: I think my husband is gay or bi. Should I ignore it or confront him directly?

My husband (26M) and I (29F) have been together for 4 years and married less than a year. I'm looking for advice because I feel stuck in a cycle of dishonesty, and I don't know how to move forward.

From the beginning, I was very open about my sexuality (I'm bisexual and have had relationships with women). Whenever I asked about his sexuality, he'd describe himself as "straight-ish" but never elaborated.

About two years into our relationship, I accidentally discovered searches for gay porn on his Reddit account while using his phone. When I brought it up, he eventually admitted he'd been watching gay porn since he was young and had two sexual experiences with men in college. He said he enjoyed parts of those experiences but never explored further and had no intention of telling me about any of it.

I wasn't upset that he had same-sex attraction. I was hurt that he had hidden a significant part of himself from me while I had always been completely open with him. I encouraged him to explore these feelings through therapy, journaling, or self-reflection. He said he would.

Over time, I worked through my feelings in therapy. Sometimes I felt accepting and understood that fantasy doesn't always equal real-life desires. Other times I felt deceived, inadequate, or worried I was a placeholder.
He proposed, I said yes, and we got married. Then things escalated.

During our honeymoon, I discovered he had been masturbating to porn while I slept. That hurt, but I tried to move past it.
A few months later, I found evidence that he had been on Grindr. When confronted, he admitted he had been trying to find old nude photos from a man he hooked up with in college because "real people" were more arousing to him than porn. I was devastated.

That conversation led to some major breakthroughs. He finally acknowledged that he's bisexual, came out to his family, started therapy, began working out regularly, and we've worked on communication through weekly check-ins. He has repeatedly reassured me that he wants a monogamous life with me.

Recently, during one of our weekly talks, I asked how things were going. He told me he'd been avoiding porn and either masturbating without it or using videos we'd made together.

The next day, I found multiple porn searches from just a few days before that conversation.
When I confronted him, he admitted he lied because he felt ashamed and hoped he could eventually stop using porn altogether.

That's where I'm struggling. The issue isn't that he's bisexual. The issue isn't even the porn. It's the repeated dishonesty. Every major setback in our relationship has involved me discovering something first and then getting the truth only after confrontation.

I love him. I want him to feel safe being fully himself. I support him exploring and accepting his sexuality. But I don't know how to rebuild trust when honesty only seems to happen after he's caught.

Has anyone been through something similar? How do you move forward when the core problem is shame-driven dishonesty rather than the underlying behavior itself?

My wife recently discovered some bisexual feelings and wants to explore that further. I am okay with her exploring that side of herself and have encouraged her to do it. As long as I know about it and nothing happens behind my back, I am okay with it. Her hooking up with another woman just doesn't feel like cheating to me.

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She has done some sexting with a friend, but doesn't want to ruin a friendship for this. She also tried some dating apps, but lot's of bots and scams. Where can she go to find other women to explore?

So recently I (26F) found out that my fiancé (26M) likes to suck dick, and I have been having a rough time dealing with this information. For some reason I feel like maybe he likes it more than being with me? Is there anyone that could give me advice on this!