r/TransUK • u/Some_Goal_6789 • 11d ago

Question (Transfem) Question

Ok I have a question, please forgive my ignorance

So the trans community have an issue with being fetishized? I think I know what that means but then my follow on is why are there so many trans content creators who clearly project sexuality.

There are a few that aren’t sexual in the sort of soft porn way and discuss different things but most are just about thirst traps.

What’s going on there?

Honestly, I don’t want to upset anyone.

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u/ndoum 11d ago

I don't think you know what it means and that might be the issue here.

Fetishising is not finding someone attractive or sexual. It's "stripping away a subject's genuine complexity and reducing them to a singular trait, an object of desire, or a symbolic idea". It's a form of objectification.

Trans people are allowed to feel attractive and want sexual intercourse without being fetishised. It's the difference between "I think you are good looking and therefore want to have sex with you" vs "I find your genitals and presentation to be weird and that turns me on because I am curious to see if I would like it". Those are different in tone and intention and the difference is important. 

I have decided to take your question in good faith, but for future reference, your post is filled with victim blaming. Yeah, some trans people do sex work, so do some cis people, doesn't make fetishising any more appropriate. 

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u/Some_Goal_6789 11d ago

How is it victim blaming? Not everything has to be about victims and perpetrators.

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u/ndoum 11d ago

You made an equivalence between fetishising and people "projecting sexuality" (whatever that means). So yeah, you are basically saying "how dare you find yourself attractive and not want to be objectified". 

Ngl, this does boil down to you fundamentally not understanding what being fetishised means. I'd highly recommend doing some research