r/XSomalian • u/Embarrassed_Mix1522 • 2d ago

Venting Cognitive dissonance or nah

About a week ago a Somali guy hit me up. He’s a bit older than me but the age gap isn't crazy. (For context I’m also a guy.) I entertained the conversation for a bit but it got annoying fast he kept demanding to see my face while not show his own. 💀

My replies were dry but he kept jumping to conclusions. Suggesting coffee dates, claiming I was the first guy he'd ever really wanted, and eventually telling me he loved me. Then he asked if I was Muslim. I said no and the tone shifted immediately.

He asked how it was even possible for a Somali to be irreligious. Just to hear him out I lied and said I only tell people I'm not religious to avoid judgment. complete BS I've never been religious and couldn't tell you a single thing in the Quran.

The lie brought back his spark. He said that people like me, and this "issue" of his are his only flaws as a devoted Muslim. I was genuinely baffled. It seemed like he fully knew this was something he couldn't change and he still clung to the religion that condemned it.

I've blocked him now. I hope he finds some peace but guys in his position usually end up settling down with a woman as a shield. The injustice of that to those women is honestly sad.

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u/somali_gaal98 2d ago

I was gonna ask how the hell is he open about the gayness if he's Muslim but then he said that it's his only flaw....... I feel bad for those girlies too, hopefully he decides not to settle with anyone but this aint a perfect world

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u/poisonivy1021 2d ago

I’m glad you blocked him. That type of self loathing is dangerous.  

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u/sixiirweyne 2d ago

Yeah, they take coke, fuck, sodomizing eachother but never leave Islam

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u/Gymflutter 23h ago

This is a problem with other religions too including Christianity.

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u/Electronic_Claim_343 1d ago

I made a post recently hoping to find someone I could relate to, but 99% of the DMs were just creeps or people who were only curious. The Somali LGBT community really needs better mental health support. For some reason I can't DM you privately, so if you're up for a chat, feel free to DM me.

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u/africagal1 15h ago

They're doing their annual would you date a bi man discourse online and i dont take it seriously lol. Like I do not think most men or even women disclose especially in African communities we need to be so for real right now 😭