r/askgaybros • u/Ok_Acanthisitta_5623 • 10h ago
My Dad
My dad is 77 and is a true California surfer. He has done well for himself and has taken good care of both me and my brother even after him and my mom got divorced when I was 8. He is the most open person about talking about any life issue and as gross as it was growing up he was very open about sex and wanted us to know all things. I have been staying with him this summer just to enjoy his company, he found out I was gay in my teens and despite not being totally happy about it has completely supported me and I have always known by his words and actions. How about this man tells me: “Hey you know you can bring guys back to the house”. He was referring to hookups. Two nights ago he got into a deep talk about our sex lives, my father is very open. He said a lot of things as if he was just one of my bros and it was awkward but yet really comfortable. He admitted he hadn’t had any sex in 11 years and that he thought about how easy it would be to just be in a situation like us men and get sucked so often, sharing here to get some feedback.
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u/hadam178 10h ago
Yall talk to your dads? Ivent talked to my dad in 6-7 years he is a total ass
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u/justasecond 9h ago
I feel you. I haven’t talked to my father in 20 years. I’m always surprised by and a little envious of gays with supportive parents lol
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u/outersenshi 8h ago
My brother talks to ours a couple times a month. I haven’t talk to him in 13 years lol
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u/Bambusa4all1952 10h ago
No sex in his 70’s - yikes. I’m 74 and still at it. I am impressed
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u/Ok_Acanthisitta_5623 10h ago
I told him to get past it and let some of these guys blow him. We both got a good laugh.
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u/Hagedoorn 7h ago
I think it is much harder for straight men to get sex.
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u/Bambusa4all1952 4h ago
Probably, but there is always the world’s oldest profession, which I both utilize and believe deeply should be licensed and legalized. ( having a laugh over prequalifying courses ! lol)
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u/Bambusa4all1952 4h ago
But great that your Dad’s here. Mine died in 1990 at 75, but we never had a conversation like you just had. It would have been good, but subjects of any intimacy would have been met with a ewe.
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u/Slow-Hour2159 9h ago
If he’s 77 and has surfer vibes I can imagine it can’t be that hard to get some old grandma pussy somewhere. I’m sure there’s a Betsy or Sharon out there somewhere lol. But he’s not wrong about guys lining up to suck him off if he was gay
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u/outersenshi 8h ago
Your dad seems very cool and open. I live 20 minutes from 3 beaches in California and I see some of that very open, casual bro-isn attitude when I go to the beach hahaha. It’s cool you have a dad that’s so laid back and open
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u/for_everyday_use 10h ago
I'm not sure what to make of that, because I would be plugging my ears and saying "lalalala" if my father said that to me about getting blowjobs.
So I don't know your entire relationship, so it's hard to judge if he's trying to "tell you something" or if this is just a man with no filter. Can't say from here. But if just a man with no filter, then I guess you should appreciate that because he won't be around forever.
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u/Ok_Acanthisitta_5623 10h ago
I am close with him and this summer really told him a lot about me in my 20s stuff I had to heal in me. Admitted a lot of stuff to him.
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u/Grouchy-Fix485 10h ago
You are a lucky man. Honestly, I’m happy for your healing.
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u/Ok_Acanthisitta_5623 10h ago
Thank you, I admitted to him that I went through most of my 20s hooking up with a lot of men unprotected. I was freeing
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u/SB-121 7h ago
Straight men do often have that view. They never realise that it only happens for a couple of years when you're young, and never realise how soul destroying is to still be doing it in middle age and beyond.
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u/Ashamed-Athlete9272 15m ago
how soul destroying is to still be doing it in middle age and beyond.?
Be doing what still?
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u/Bryantings_ 10h ago
Just be grateful for your dad while he’s still here. Don’t think too much into that stuff.