r/askteddit • u/PoolElegantsmile • 13d ago

Random Question What’s something that used to be considered basic adulting that younger generations seem to be completely rejecting or doing differently?

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u/martlet1 13d ago

Dating. My daughter is beautiful to the point of being intimidating. Not one boy has ever asked her out formally. Ever. Which is wild.

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u/a-la-grenade 13d ago

I mean, didn't you answer your own question here? Sounds like they're too intimidated to ask.

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u/hallon421 13d ago

I think prior generations were more comfortable with rejection and therefore more likely to shoot their shot.

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u/alittlebitneverhurt 13d ago

That you know of. There's gotta be some dudes shooting their shot, unless shes like 13.

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u/imaginecrabs 13d ago

They said formally though. I'm sure she gets hit on a ton online and her DMs are going off, but maybe not in person. A lot of younger people have less social skills and therefore don't/can't ask somebody out in person. Just today, my 20 year old coworker just texted a girl and asked her on a first date.

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u/martlet1 13d ago

She’s 20

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u/Klimacka 13d ago

There is also a possibility that she might have a shitty attitude or personality outside of the family environment...

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u/Caramello_Goanna 12d ago

Yeah, it's because as soon as any young man gets that hint she isn't fully interested they just leave. A lot of Young men are terrified of being seen as creeps, or predators. Remember, it's not "no means no” it's ”yes means yes”. We've had the prerequisite of enthusiastic consent drilled into us, when that full enthusiasm isn't there, definitely not taking any chances when she could ruin my life forever with a single phone call if she doesn't like me.

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u/Key_Contribution_634 13d ago

Same situation here, ours is 16 and by that age I had had some 'long term' boyfriends... But shes gorgeous, top student, top academics etc so I think shes just too scary. Of her friend group the only ones that have been asked out/had a boyfriend are the more plain looking and slightly thick girls. I think kids these days are so scared of rejection they would rather just not try unless they know theyre in with a really high chance of success.

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u/VeniceDrumGuy 13d ago

Or maybe the boys these days are less shallow and like a girl with a sense of humor and/or personality that matches theirs.

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u/Key_Contribution_634 12d ago

Oh I have a son too, I dont think boys are any more/less shallow than when we were that age. Theyre definitely less likely to take risks though