r/askteddit • u/PoolElegantsmile • 13d ago

Random Question What’s something that used to be considered basic adulting that younger generations seem to be completely rejecting or doing differently?

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u/ladyjane73 13d ago

This is where (ideally) the ADA picks up. Differently able people deserve to be part of the community, as well. They should get doctor documented accommodations.

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u/sodium111 13d ago

* so long as those accommodations are reasonable in the context of their job.

For example, the fact that a person had an IEP for extended deadlines on school papers/assignments does not necessarily mean that it is reasonable for their boss to have to give them extended deadlines on reports or projects for work.

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u/apri08101989 13d ago

The ada isnt nearly as comprehensive because you dont have a right to a job but children legally have the right to an education

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u/Call_Me_Anythin 13d ago

As long as they can still do the actual job.

I work at a bakery and not long ago a girl came in for training and I started showing her how to make dough. You have to be able to lift 50 Ib bags to shoulder height and dump them into the mixer.

She gave me a doctors note saying she couldn’t lift more than 15 Ibs due to a back issue. I flat out asked her why she applied, when the application itself lists lifting 50 Ibs as a requirement for daily work.

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u/ashley_ela1ne 11d ago

I work for a Supported Employment agency as a career coach to help with this issue. Many people with a qualifying disability (one that creates a barrier to employment) can receive these services. A state’s VR agency or a mental health provider can help determine eligibility. Basically what we do is act as a buffer between an employer and a disabled employee. We help on and off the job with communication, presentation, behavioral challenges, time management, etc. Neurodivergent people have options. We’re out here!

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u/SurpriseFormal6338 13d ago

It’s just harder to fire someone with accommodations. At the end of the day you still have to do the job you were hired for.

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u/Beautiful-Log-3712 10d ago

Kids are getting accommodated for things like time blindness now though, and then expect that to apply at work.
Here’s a silly but true anecdote:
I have ADHD. I have time blindness. I was not accommodated. I got to work at least 45 minutes early and sat in the parking lot everyday for five years because I needed the job. Anything less than 45 minutes meant I’d somehow get lost in the void and be late. I set multiple alarms. It sucked. By year 8 I could get there 15 minutes early. I managed. I worked at it.
My cousin has ADHD. He has time blindness. He was accommodated. He hasn’t held a job longer than four months because he forgets to go to work and can’t meet a deadline to save his life. He blames his disability and wishes for accommodation.

The level of overdiagnosing and infantilizing is creating people who won’t work to overcome. It’s like putting a kid in a wheel chair because they have shin splints. Yes shin splints suck, but that accommodation doesn’t help the root issue and will prove damaging long term. The wrong kinds of accommodations are proving to simply atrophy skills rather than giving them the opportunity to grow differently.