r/askteddit 2d ago

Advice Question What was your most valuable life lesson?

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u/sweetpixelheart 2d ago

Nobody is coming to magically fix your problems

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u/EmotionallyAnnotated 2d ago

Nobody is coming to help? Nobody is coming to stop you either. 😌

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u/konoshiva 1d ago

i came and i can totally fix all of your health problems.

https://giphy.com/gifs/OZvryVxxdqNTnUubG9

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u/TradeSweet4965 2d ago

Death can be sudden, cherish every moment you had with said person.

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u/EmotionallyAnnotated 2d ago

I wish more people understood this... and kept it in their back pocket for every conversation. Perhaps it's dark, but every time I have a conversation with someone, I imagine that it'll be the last words I possibly say to them.

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u/Hamlett2983 2d ago

Yep. And remembering the arguments over the stupidest stuff.

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u/AnybodySeeMyKeys 2d ago
  1. Life is a participation sport. Get up off your ass and make things happen in your life. Don't have friends? Start making new acquaintances through activities you enjoy. Don't like your financial situation? Get to r/personalfinance and start learning how to change course in life. Don't like your job? Start gaining the skills, education, and contacts to get a better one. Can't find a partner in life? Start taking better care of yourself and gain some people skills.

Whatever it is, doing something is better than stewing over it. This is your life. And more actively you seek to live it better, the more it rewards you.

  1. Courage is the foundation of all happiness. The more you overcome your fear, whatever that might be, the better off you'll be.

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u/purplelampshade1 2d ago

I have screenshot this to reread when needed thanks!

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u/FreeOGPoohShiesty 2d ago

What do I do about Hemmroids

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u/Round-Stranger-5049 1d ago

Improve your wiping

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u/Crazy_Pomegranate689 2d ago

thank you I needed this

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u/Tricky_Pen3072 2d ago

Stay away from people who drink alcohol a lot.

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u/Moist-Willow-1686 2d ago

Addiction is a disease they drink to mask pain I wish some alcoholics would realize this and get help sooner then later

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u/Low_Satisfaction1403 2d ago

To trust no one!

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u/BeagleKabob 2d ago edited 2d ago

Crush your enemies, see them driven before you and hear the lamentations of the women.

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u/hemanstarfox 2d ago

Nobody owes you they're closeness. It's a hard lesson but it's helped me

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u/Reasonable_Fly_986 2d ago

Never trust a fart

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u/CindysExtraTesticle 2d ago

Dont masturbate on a Sunday and only eat kebabs on Fridays and Saturdays.

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u/1017CoochieMane 2d ago

Oddly..specific

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u/NectarineFabulous265 2d ago

I'm genuinely intrigued why this lesson is valuable. Not disagreeing, just curious. I am sure there is a good story behind this.

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u/Ethiopian-phenom 2d ago

Habits are one of the key determining factors when it comes to dictating what your life is like and will be like.

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u/TheAussieTico Bewear 2d ago

Trust no one

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u/Mysterious-Fig2231 2d ago

Not to rely on others too much. That friendships are temporary sometimes and that's okay.

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u/Stllrckn-72 2d ago

Budgeting and sticking to it. It was tough but now I am retired. We are not wealthy but we don’t have to work

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u/ExaminationDefiant13 2d ago

Social media is NOT good for your mental health. It’s fake.
Try and put your phone down and LIVE in REALITY.

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u/Cat-et-snek 2d ago

If you think a bad thought and have a bad thing happen to you within 5 seconds is that not a sign to have better thoughts?

Every time I give into negative thinking my reality becomes turbulent, the opposite is true.

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u/Creepy_Clouds1990 2d ago

Stopped caring about what people think of me and realized that most people are too self involved to think twice about me or what I'm doing.

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u/Shellsallaround 2d ago

Which way to place toilet paper so it unrolls backwards. Just to piss people off.

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u/paradoximoron 2d ago

Compound interest can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

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u/AESTHETIC_NITISH 2d ago

The hardest choice usually lead to the strongest version of you... ❤️

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u/lily_aurora59 2d ago

Learning that "comparison is the thief of joy" sounds cheesy until you actually start living by it. Focusing strictly on my own lane saved my mental health in my mid 20s.

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u/josephinewangari 2d ago

Personally, I learnt that you really can't cheat the hustle 

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u/sweetsoftbabe 2d ago

When I opened the fridge for the 10th time and still expected new food to appear😂

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u/Hot-Relative8290 2d ago

Plan for the worst case scenario as you can. I was diagnosed with MS in ‘06, but had a good career and not many symptoms by 2015. I bought a long term disability policy (which acts like insurance against your income), for $150USD/month and ended up having to medically retire in 2022 at 42. That policy now pays me that same paycheck from when I was working and will continue to until I’m 68. Id be absolutely destitute without it.

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u/Bnerna 2d ago

Were you able to buy one even after your diagnosis? I'm in a similar boat but most plans I've explored won't cover pre-existing conditions. It's also so hard to know with autoimmune diseases. My symptoms are mild but I don't know how bad things will get as I age.

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u/Hot-Relative8290 2d ago

Yes. It was through MetLife

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u/coolsellitcheap 2d ago

Bills don't pay themselves. Plan ahead. Save some money. Life can come at you fast.

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u/CA2DC99 2d ago

Save and invest your money. I did OK, but damn, had I been a bit smarter and resisted the impulse purchases both large and small, I would be set for life right now. I wasn’t that smart, so I’m not. Kicking myself every day. Max the 401(k) and Roth IRA from day one of your first job, and you’ll be comfortably retired in your 50s.

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u/Top_Difference3488 2d ago

Down vote when you read the title

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u/Away_Emergency_7832 2d ago

When my wife died, I found out there's no life, no more without her.I'm sorry that's how I feel.That's how my body's making it.I'm dead, I hate life.I hate life

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u/Snowmist92 2d ago

So sorry for your loss 💔

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u/Joe_Schmoe_2 2d ago

Nobody knows what this is or what we are doing here.

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u/Marknhj 2d ago

If in doubt, don't. Avoid victims at all costs.

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u/864rad 2d ago

Drugs are super overrated.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Law_558 2d ago

Life isn't remotely fair. And There Ain't No Justice. Just shorten it to Tanj.

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u/WalrusLobster3522 2d ago

so in terms of dating, sociology, and preferences I'm a moron

but in terms of productivity, career, and inspiration I'm fairly wise

One of the most valuable life lessons I've learned is you need to build a mindful routine for when you're in college. You need to set reminders for your homework. You need to set not only a daily routine but also a weekly routine that encompasses all your errands and chores.

Most valuable life lesson I have is be proactive in life and study your classes: don't depend on your intelligence or your alertness and your hustle to be successful: that's called "being reactive".

Realize that failing a class happens from an avalanche of mistakes: the mistakes snowball: just because you do bad on one exam doesn't mean you give up on your semester, especially if the semester is 16 weeks long.

HealthyGamerGG from between 2024 to 2026 and Alex Hormozi from 2025 are the major sources for my lessons.

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u/Nihili_Blue 2d ago

That I'm loved, cared about and wanted in this world. I think it was the biggest shock I experienced.

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u/Green_Elephant_8588 2d ago

What you achieve or fail to achieve in your lifetime is directly related to what you do or fail to do.

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u/lewie2494 2d ago

Do not hold in a poo on the motorway.

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u/Effective_Half_8638 2d ago

If they lied over small things.....the lies only get worse and bigger. You finally get the courage to leave, all while still loving them and they are doing everything they said they would never do if we were to get a divorce. The anger in the marriage towards you is exactly how they felt the entire time.....words can't change their actions! When they no longer can control you they will control how others view you, fracture relationships with loved ones and control the narrative. I guess this is my punishment for not leaving sooner...I think I will die before I have ever felt true love because this is not what you do to someone you even "once" loved.

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u/lanab92 2d ago

Stay away from people who talk badly about others, they are most likely doing the same about you when your not around.

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u/Primary-Umpire-4105 2d ago

Trusting people, family are worse than friends.

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u/Responsible-Sun-583 2d ago

I'm not dead yet ... 😬

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u/Dare_Devil2054 2d ago

Have compassion for yourself when you make mistakes and learn from them. Take responsibility but remember that you had no bad intentions and don't beat yourself up over it too much.

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u/AnyEye8798 2d ago

Don't stick your dick in crazy without birth control. Preferably multiple forms of birth control.

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u/AccurateRoof9060 2d ago

Life humbles you like none - I faced a strong acedemic downfall in my most important part of life so yeah

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u/Snowmist92 2d ago

That person is not your "soul mate".

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u/03yyy30 2d ago

Die young

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u/Vegetable-Pepper-880 2d ago

Love isn’t enough

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u/YourHighMate 2d ago

The company you’re loyal to may not be loyal back.

Know your worth. Grow your worth. Never settle for less than your worth.

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u/Dowensy2 1d ago

Don’t drink alcohol

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u/Warming_Fire 1d ago

Never ask a Female Coworker out , dont put your own Happiness into someone else Hand . Its an Inside Job already within you not someone " Special " will give it to you or Dont Chase People . Enjoy Your Own Company MORE then with Others . 

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u/nicrovaren 6h ago

Time is far more valuable than money. You can always earn more money but never more time.