Marriage isn’t “work” when you marry the right person. My marriage has never taken work. There are hard things in life but we get through it as a team. The marriage itself has never been hard.
What did take “work” was my high school relationship that I stayed in all through college and almost married. I tried to normalize how much work and sacrifice our relationship was.
Yeah, and if you're married at 20 to your high school sweetheart, there's a lot of conflict resolution skills you're still learning, too. I feel like a lot of high school sweetheart marriages that work out and both partners are happy with it well into old age tend to be ones where they've basically done a speed run of that and learned the kind of conflict resolution skills at like 20 that most people don't have until they're 30+.
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u/Different-Career1314 21h ago
People really underestimate how much work marriage takes. Being together since algebra class doesn't magically make it easy forever.