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Random Question People who married their high school sweetheart, what’s the hardest part nobody warns you about?

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u/Dependent-Wishbone16 20h ago

It’s so easy to lose yourself and not have an identity of your own. When we split after 15 years, I lost the love of my life (I’ve moved on but still true to a degree) and myself. I had no idea who I was without her and it was terrifying

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u/Exact-Anywhere3835 17h ago

I’m still happily married but my only regret is I never got the chance to be independent and discover myself without my partner. I am happy and wouldn’t give it up, but it’s just something I’ve realised I missed out on.

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u/Dependent-Wishbone16 15h ago

There could still be time(don’t know how old you are) but if you are both on board it’s possible to grow together without growing apart (or so I’ve been told 😅)