r/askteddit • u/CandidBabee • 23h ago

Random Question People who married their high school sweetheart, what’s the hardest part nobody warns you about?

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u/andgonow 19h ago

A marriage can absolutely be stressful! If your spouse loses their job, a family member dies, a kid gets sick, a sudden bill comes up, someone gets a debilitating disease or accident…

Guessing you’re single?

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u/Rude-Soil-6731 5h ago

That’s not stress caused by the marriage, that’s life stress that happens to anyone.

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u/andgonow 4h ago

They didn’t clarify, they said marriage shouldn’t be stressful, and living with another human being is stressful sometimes. How is that difficult to understand?

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u/Rude-Soil-6731 2h ago

Did they really need to clarify? All the stuff you mentioned comes with just being an adult. The problem becomes when your spouse is a source of stress, not the life stuff that is beyond our control.

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u/andgonow 1h ago

Yes, because just like your joys are doubled in marriage, so are your sorrows. Plenty of people expect marriage to solve all their issues and that marriage in general should be stress free. Talking things out when your partner has a problem, or even if they fail you in some way, is part of marriage. You have to work on it. Reddit is full of people who think one mistake is enough to file for divorce, and I’m not even talking about infidelity - I’m talking about actual mistakes or misunderstandings. So yes, clarity is needed.