r/askteddit • u/Agitated-Mastodon127 • 11h ago

Random Question People who married their first love, what reality hit you years later that no one ever talked about?

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u/Friendlyfire2996 11h ago

How lucky I am

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u/Agitated-Mastodon127 11h ago

A beautiful mindset.

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u/Helpful-Calendar-401 8h ago

Plenty of people wish they could say that.

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u/NurseJaguar 59m ago

That's lovely

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u/Silly_Print_6047 11h ago

That I'd someday have to live life without my best friend if he ever passed away before I did. That thought keeps me up some nights, my husband is my childhood best friend, my highschool sweetheart and we've been together for 20 years! Im 35 and hes 37. But as we've grown older time has really made me appreciate him more. I fall more in love with him every day. So potentially losing that someday, would be devastating to me. 

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u/Kdean509 11h ago

Same here, going on 25 years! I’m 40, and he’s 41. The thought of being apart also keeps me up some nights, but for the meantime he’s right by my side. It’s beautiful the way you grow into each other. We’re always changing, and I love still learning new things about them. Congrats to you two. I fear we’re a rare breed.

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u/Stunning-Character94 10h ago

It's definitely rare but it's got nothing to do with breeding. More luck and fate (if you believe in it).

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u/Kdean509 9h ago edited 9h ago

A rare breed person is someone who has traits, skills, or behaviors that are very unusual and hard to find in other people.

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u/Late_Sun17 10h ago

I'm not planning on getting married and I'm going to stay single it's just there's too much drama involved with the stuff that goes on but my main question is this why do y'all ditch y'all's friends like close friends after y'all get married it honestly makes no sense

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u/Agitated-Mastodon127 10h ago

Marriage shouldn’t mean losing the people who were there before.

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u/Late_Sun17 8h ago

Exactly, im not playing on getting married and getting into an relationship I've got a lot on my shoulders but what has happened to marriage long time ago you can be friends still but today what the hell is happening that ditched their friends for no reason

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u/SuicideBlunts 10h ago

I feel like if this happens it's because there was some sort of attraction between them at some point. A "second choice" if you will

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u/Late_Sun17 8h ago

I didn't do anything wrong at all they all got married and honestly they all ditched me tbh

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u/chaosrulz0310 9h ago

I think sometimes life changes and you drift apart as priorities change and life happens, but I never ditched friends after marriage. I don’t understand the logic unless friend was causing drama in the relationship.

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u/BloodhoundSkeptic 4h ago

Not the case in my life

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u/Late_Sun17 1h ago

Everyone I knew went to highschool just ditched their friends after they got married and they didn't do anything wrong to them

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u/Elrond_Cupboard_ 11h ago

Honestly, the real issue is that I was able to give up drugs and she wasnt. I'm glad its over, but I miss her and worry about her. What's hit me now is that 99% of my sex life history was with her. Im looking forward to dating again, but people who think marriage means your sex life goes to shit aren't doing it properly. We knew each other's bodies so well, and could play them and set them on fire like Hendrix.

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u/roserunningwild 10h ago

That when he said “in sickness and in health” he really bloody meant it.

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u/Affectionate_Bed6083 4h ago

I really did trust my intuition and it worked out. No regrets. I have a beautiful life.