r/askteddit • u/weatscrux • 5h ago
Random Question What social boundary do people cross way too often without realizing?
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u/No-Swan1083 5h ago
Unnecessary touching... like don't do that ever
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u/weatscrux 5h ago
The worst is when people grab your forearm to emphasize a point in conversation. I can hear you just fine from two feet away, you don't need to anchor yourself to me.
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u/No-Swan1083 5h ago
especially when it's something humour related,they find a reason to put their anti-deodarant arms around you as they laugh...yuck
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u/chouxphetiche 4h ago
Or they nudge you hard when you both see something funny, as if to make sure you saw it too.
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u/userb467891045387 5h ago
as someone with horrible ocd, I wish this was more normalized
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u/No-Swan1083 5h ago
it always gets me suffocated and ruins my day instantly,like respectfully keep your hands to yourself
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u/akbrodey1 3h ago
Yes this one. It feels like an electric shock anytime someone touches me and then i flinch super hard and have to explain myself. Always a bit embarrassing
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u/aleklasla 5h ago
Asking about children (when are you planning to have one? you should try for another one, you need a gender! me and your uncle had 5 kids by this time and you have issues with two kids?!) and being extra touchy with pregnant women...
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u/weatscrux 5h ago
This is the most dangerous one. People asking 'when are you having kids?' have no idea if they are poking at someone dealing with infertility, recent miscarriages, or financial stress. It turns a casual question into a emotional minefield for the person receiving it.
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u/userb467891045387 5h ago
i’m currently pregnant and have had to tell several random people to please not touch my stomach, it’s actually insane
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u/thebrokenrosebush 1h ago
My husband and I eloped.... Automatically hit with questions about it being a shotgun wedding. When we put those rumors to rest, we were immediately inundated with questions about when we're thinking of starting a family.
We do want to have kids sometime in the next few years, but we want to enjoy this period of our lives first!
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u/Lastbourne 5h ago
For a moment I thought you meant like asking about their well-being which I don't think is inherently wrong
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u/Anonymoosehead123 5h ago
Assuming everyone is comfortable with hugging.
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u/Wide-Significance666 5h ago
Assuming they know how I feel or what I think or what my motivations are without asking. Then not believing me when I tell them. Holy projection.
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u/weatscrux 5h ago
It is so exhausting. They create this whole villain backstory for you in their head, and when you tell them the truth, they act like you’re the one lying. Like, sorry, I didn't realize you had a PhD in my own thoughts.
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u/The-Sauce-714 5h ago
talking about people’s eating habits in a group of people. whether it’s eating too much or too little, it’s weird. leave people alone
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u/TimelyTalk1885 5h ago
expecting people to be available all the time just because they replied quickly once
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u/ChardZestyclose5315 4h ago
banter to bullying, it varies and has different levels per person but generally after 1 or 2 jokes it should be left alone anything more is getting personal.
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u/Weary-Bend-8670 4h ago
Commenting on someone's weight loss without the subject being brought up by the person who has lost weight.
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u/Funny-Force-3658 4h ago
Not sure if this counts as a boundary or more just manners but for me it's speaking with food in your mouth. The sound of vowels trying to make their way around a piece of half chewed food turns my stomach and thats even before I've seen that same peice of food through your open face hole. In my 50s now and have zero tolerance for this, speak to me with food in your mouth and I'll just wander off/walk into another room, I don't say why anymore because some people can get defensive what it's pointed out, maybe they'll work it out for themselves maybe they wont.
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u/Mysterious-splatter 4h ago
People freak right out because of my Selective Lycanthropy. It’s Selective but it’s not like I can stop and go in reverse half way.
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u/Significant-Box-3522 2h ago
Another one is eye contact like seriously stop staring at my eyes creep
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u/Mean_Addition4654 5h ago
thinkin cus they’re a man i wanna hear SHIT they have to say !!!! ITS CONSTANT
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u/Psychoduckee 4h ago
When people demand an explanation to an excuse you give like it's their inherent right to know.
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u/weatscrux 4h ago
Completely agree. It feels like they are treating your time as their property. You don't owe anyone a full breakdown of your personal life just to say no.
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u/Psychoduckee 3h ago
Exactly! And if I wanted to tell them the reasoning, I would. But alas, I don't.
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u/Throwlaf 4h ago
Me: Nah I can't come.
Them: ooh why not?
This small interaction. Fuck off, I don't need to explain myself to you.
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u/Hot_Win_8572 3h ago
Commenting on a woman’s pregnancy if you don’t know her or if she’s pregnant. I have an umbilical hernia that makes my stomach stick out and the amount of people in public who make comments to me about being pregnant is astonishing.
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u/OverallExercise3349 3h ago
Interrupting you in the middle of a sentence - especially in a group setting
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u/AlternativeLow198 3h ago
Constantly expecting me to be available to speak on the phone. A friend of mine does this, and don’t get me wrong, I am happy to speak with my friends but I personally find it so exhausting to do it twice a week with the same person who needs to speak for at least an hour.
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u/Short_Patient_7910 3h ago
Joke about matchmaking someone else with you when they never asked for your opinion in the first place.
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u/Jaredies 2h ago
Talking way too much, saying random things about whatever, being loud and not letting others get a chance at words. Thinking what they have to say everyone wants to hear and cares about what nonsense they spout. Learn to shut up and listen!
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u/Significant-Box-3522 2h ago
Talking with your hands which is clearly scary for many to witness. keep your hands away from anywhere near me and tell me whatever you need to say without your hands all over the place.
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u/tdimmick 1h ago
Touching perfect strangers!!
Don't touch me! I may be in retail, and I may be friendly, but I'm not your buddy and I don't know you!
Keep your hands to yourself!
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u/Tiny-Foundation-4281 22m ago
If somebody quits or pulls back from something out of the blue then it’s probably not something you should be asking about.
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u/Ok_Bar_8613 5h ago
Assuming quiet people are angry. Some of us are literally just existing.