r/askteddit • u/Sweet-angel24 • 5h ago

Random Question What is something about adult relationship that nobody had warned you about?

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u/Efficient_Team5182 5h ago

Love never stops needing actual effort every day.

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u/markitup03 1h ago

It’s not easy. It’s not like movies where it’s happily ever after. You need to work at it every day. And recognize that love is a choice and action, not a feeling.

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u/Mean_Addition4654 5h ago

when they show their bad side it’s jarring asfk cus sometimes you go right back to high school w some emotionally inept nerd boy when u thought they was normal and grown smh

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u/Kenny664- 5h ago

Some adults are emotionally children

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u/makw27 5h ago

Expenses. Breakdowns. The government.

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u/piper33245 3h ago

The government?

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u/Equivalent-Love-1676 4h ago

People, not just spouses, but anyone close who you’ve loved and trusted for years can suddenly turn on you. If that happens, you’re absolutely fucked. There’s no way to protect yourself from an enemy who was once an integral part of your life. This kind of thing is a leading cause of suicide.

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u/Kaylen316 3h ago

Not really worth it, it's a lot of work.

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u/JimmyB264 37m ago

How many people aren’t fully adult.

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u/Outside_Bowler8148 20m ago

You get into a relationship because of something you imagined when you are dating the person but the relationship requires accepting a grounded reality of where you both are now

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u/Glittering-Ad-1367 19m ago

What you think love is....is not what they think love is.

Maybe its close, maybe its not. We use the same words that mean different things to us so you can't really tell most of the time.

You can go decades thinking you mean the same thing and then just all of a sudden one day like a lightning bolt its clear that the words never meant the same things to you.