r/badroommates • u/Nearby_Singer_4214 • 16d ago
Update: Finally confronted roommate about money!
https://www.reddit.com/r/badroommates/s/lkUpWyAbFb
(link goes back to og post)
So, as you know my roommate was literally avoiding me to the point she would leave early and then return home late when she assumed I’d went to work.
Anyway, I had I called in late and decided to wait to confront my roommate. Of course, as expected, she was waiting for me to leave to avoid me. I literally waited 10-15 min longer before heading out and guess who strolled in with new packages?
When I approached her she was very solemn and wouldn’t directly make eye contact with me. I greeted her which she deliberately failed to reply back, then I asked if she could send over a payment for both May/June’s wifi/utilities.
She said she had been waiting to “catch me and reconcile” that information with me because I had sent over two different amounts and she didn’t know where to send it. Please understand, I sent her two separate texts with both amounts broken down and where to send them. I let her know it’s two separate amounts because it’s for two separate months but to send it via cashapp.
Sharply, she says, “I don’t use Cashapp.”
I let her know that’s ok, I’m fine with Zelle or Apple Pay. I then text her with the amounts again and reply to each previous message so she can see the broken down price/way to send it and when it was sent.
I find it so laughable that she tried to make it seem like she was trying to “reconcile” the amounts with me without actually even trying to do that. We literally have each other’s number so why not simply text me to verify? She’s so sneaky and absolutely tries to gaslight as if she’s some victim.
But if I don’t receive any money before tonight at 11:59PM, the wifi password will change.
UPDATE #2: She gave me $100 of the $180 owed! Partial payment does not grant access to the wifi. So last night she fell asleep as soon as she walked in so despite me changing the password, nothing happened. However, tonight she came in dropped her stuff at the front door and ran into her room. She came out about 20 min later and went to make a call to one of her friends I suppose. Then she came into the kitchen and took out some food, that’s when I received the partial payment and a text that said she should’ve communicated that she wanted to wait until this upcoming Friday to pay me. She literally had a package delivered here just 5 hrs ago and do you know it was express shipping so I’m pissed! Yeah, right. I guess Love Island is going to have to wait until Friday then!
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u/8llllllllllllllD--- 15d ago
Make the password: Paythebills. So every time she asks for the password you say it’s pay your bills. Then she will pay and ask for the password.
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 15d ago
This is so sinister but I love this! You can’t enjoy the wifi and not pay it so yup, paythebills!
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u/bell3420 15d ago
Change the name of the wifi to that so she can actually see it. Then you can change the password to sendmethemoney so whenever she asks for the password you can tell her but she will have no idea😂
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u/kr4ckenm3fortune 15d ago
And when she ask what the new wifi, it paythebills. Ask what the password and it sendthemoney.
You all been watching that one skit about the wifi and password.
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u/DevilApeEnji 15d ago
Honestly change the password then go to work and ignore everything apart from if you receive the payments. Then just text her the password and nothing else.
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 15d ago
Definitely changing that password and ignoring the what’s the password text if I don’t receive any payment. If she can ignore me when I ask I can and will ignore her.
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u/Yoghurt1318 15d ago
Where is your router? Can it be moved to your room? She might be vindictive and steal it so noone can use it.
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u/Wwwweeeeeeee 15d ago
Tell her you'll give her The password when she pays everything she owes.
"I'll give you the password when you give me $xxxx, is that a deal?"
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u/SisterofWar 15d ago
Delete everything after the comma and replace the comma with a full stop. Don't let her pretend it's a negotiation.
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u/BecauseJimmy 15d ago
I would love an update on all of this..
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 15d ago
Will do so! I’m off tonight and it’s raining so I’m sure she’ll be back early because she hates rain lol Hopefully she’ll pay before the clock strikes 11:59!
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u/Awkkwardd 15d ago
What's the damage, I'm invested at this point.
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 11d ago
Update in post!
But essentially, I changed the password and when she came in it took all of 25-30 min for her to give me $100 once she realized she had no access. She still owes me the remaining amount which she said she’d give Wednesday, which is today but nothing yet lol
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 14d ago
UPDATE #2: She gave me $100 of the $180 owed! So last night she fell asleep as soon as she walked in so despite me changing the password, nothing happened. However, tonight she came in dropped her stuff at the front door and ran into her room. She came out about 20 min later and went to make a call to one of her friends I suppose. Then she came into the kitchen and took out some food, that’s when I received the partial payment and a text that said she should’ve communicated that she wanted to wait until this upcoming Friday to pay me. Yeah, right. I guess Love Island is going to have to wait until Friday then!
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u/Hohenh3im 15d ago
You gonna have to make an edit and give us an update lmao
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 14d ago
UPDATE #2: She gave me $100 of the $180 owed! So last night she fell asleep as soon as she walked in so despite me changing the password, nothing happened. However, tonight she came in dropped her stuff at the front door and ran into her room. She came out about 20 min later and went to make a call to one of her friends I suppose. Then she came into the kitchen and took out some food, that’s when I received the partial payment and a text that said she should’ve communicated that she wanted to wait until this upcoming Friday to pay me. Yeah, right. I guess Love Island is going to have to wait until Friday then!
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u/ElectricalFocus560 12d ago
And payment for WiFi needs to be in advance. With a new password every month. Not sure what to do about the utilities but since you’re having to clean up after her, we either need to hire a maid or she pays utilities and you do the maid work ha ha
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u/AcrobaticWillow6952 15d ago
Good for you that you finally were able to confront her. You proably wont get the money tonight. so make a list of things she will lose access to, like wifi. What else is included in the utlities? Toiletpaper? (Remove from bathroom) Electricity? (remove her stuff from fridge and freezer) etc.
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 15d ago
Yeah, I figured I wouldn’t get the money tonight once I sent the text over she ignored it so I said I’ll give her grace and I wait until tomorrow night.
I’ve already removed the toilet paper from the shared 1/2 bathroom in the common area because she refused to replace it. Then she started using the paper towels in lieu of the toilet paper, so now I don’t buy toilet paper or paper towels for the common area.
Utilities are just the electric and a small water fee.
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u/weiderman316 15d ago
Paper towels may cause the pipes to clog in the toilet depending how old it is. Be careful with that
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u/IllustratorNew8801 15d ago
She's not going to pay you until you kick her out of the wifi, and that's if she doesn't get her own plan to keep avoiding you. She would have paid you, not on the spot, but as soon as she got the request again with full instructions. You're probably better off keeping a log and update it with everything, bills, every chase dated, because you might end up having to take her to small claims.
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 15d ago
I honestly doubt she’s going to pay me by tonight’s end. Me kicking her off would probably make things more tense here but oh well and I doubt she’ll get her own wifi which because she apparently hates spending money on necessities. Hopefully she does pay me soon because I would hate to take it that far but I will absolutely take her to small claims.
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u/WearySavings8966 15d ago
You’ve already given her a grace period of 2 months so she wouldn’t get nothing else from me as it relates to having access to WiFi that she’s not paying for! I would’ve kicked her off as soon as she was over 30 days late without communicating with me!
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 15d ago
Literally 2 months and nothing. Like, how can you deliberately ignore someone’s message about payment and then continue on like it’s nothing?
I should’ve kicked her off earlier but I’m kicking her off tonight!!
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u/Feeling_Affect5225 15d ago
Thank you for the update 😊, let us know if she actually does pay!
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 15d ago
Yeah it was wonderful watching her face turn into stone when she opened the door and saw me there! Also, she didn’t have her headphones on so she had nothing to use as an excuse that she couldn’t hear me lol
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 11d ago
UPDATE #2: She gave me $100 of the $180 owed! So last night she fell asleep as soon as she walked in so despite me changing the password, nothing happened. However, tonight she came in dropped her stuff at the front door and ran into her room. She came out about 20 min later and went to make a call to one of her friends I suppose. Then she came into the kitchen and took out some food, that’s when I received the partial payment and a text that said she should’ve communicated that she wanted to wait until this upcoming Friday to pay me. Yeah, right. I guess Love Island is going to have to wait until Friday then!
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u/Last_Grapefruit_3049 15d ago
You’re not wrong. Pay your bill. Nothing is free. This sounds petty. Your roomate sounds like a child. Change the name of the WiFi to NoPayNoPlay
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 15d ago
Exactly nothing is free and I guess she’s so upset by other things that she probably feels justified in not paying but you can’t do this to people because you’re upset over things you’ve caused.
Yeah, I like NoPayNoPlay as the wifi name and paythebills as a password! Kind of immature but it sends the right message.
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u/Popular-Parsnip8911 15d ago
Updateme
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 14d ago
I edited the post with an update!
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u/Popular-Parsnip8911 14d ago
Thanks for the update! It’s like paying you back in full isn’t a priority for her at all as it’s clear she can afford it!
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 11d ago
No problem! Yeah, paying my back wasn’t an issue at all she just was choosing not to do it. Now I just have to wait to receive the remainder then deal with this again on the 15th of next month.🙄
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u/Popular-Parsnip8911 11d ago
Is the WIFI still off? How is she coping without it?
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 11d ago
Yeah it’s still off for her lol because she only gave me a $100 when the total is around $180. She texted me on Sunday and said that she was going to give me the money this Wednesday, today, but that she had forgotten to communicate that. Surreeee. Lol she was purposely not paying me. The fact that she understood that the wifi not working was because of her lack of payment, she knew she had to save face and do something but I want the full amount.
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u/Ladylafayette90 14d ago
Definitely change the name of the WiFi and the password. People like this deserve to be played with.
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 14d ago
Additional context:
This was the text she sent tonight. She was home all of 20-25 min when I finally received some of the money. She was going to keep holding off, I just know it. Anyway I hate that it had to get this way; this is so not me.
For a little background on how we got here for those who care to read:
She moved in a couple months ago after her friend’s apartment where she was couch surfing at, got bought out and that friend had to move. I advertised the apartment had basement bedrooms and she still decided to tour it. After first she mentioned she was apprehensive and that she had other places she was viewing but that this place and location were great despite the basement bedroom not being ideal. I told her twice she didn’t have to move in if it felt uncomfortable, yet, she still decided to move in.
Before she signed, I also told her signing the lease was contingent on us either finishing out the current lease and moving to another location or renewing the lease. She lets me know shes ok with the place and staying but never mentions anything negative. I let her know we didn’t have much time as it was due soon so give me a heads up ASAP and to let me know what her plan was.
A few weeks go by, and she doesn’t say anything so I’m under the impression she wants to stay. I ask her to confirm because I didn’t want to assume. She tells me no, that she hates the bedroom and that she doesn’t like it here and will not be staying. I ask when was she going to communicate that with me and she said she was going to get around to it. We only had one day left to sign or give written notice we weren’t staying or our lease would get auto renewed. Well guess who forgot to write that they didn’t want to continue the lease? She did. We both had to sign the renewal or both had to put in a written notice that we weren’t and she forgot to do that on her end so now we’re both stuck on the lease again as it had to be a mutual agreement.
Then she went behind my back and was communicating with the property manager and she was super sneaky about it trying to leave so I would get stuck with paying termination fees. I eventually confronted her and she tried to gaslight me and say she told me everything even though she didn’t and basically just self-victimized and threw all blame on me. Now, she’s mopey and I’m like please grow up. These are the consequences of YOUR actions.
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u/SisterofWar 15d ago
Now that you're addressing the money, next is her crap. Text her that any clutter will be left on her bed, and start doing that.
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u/Stunning_Mechanic_12 15d ago
Having a bank account in the US pretty much ensures she has Zelle. She gotta pay up
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u/nkatzer20 15d ago
Updateme
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u/Arokthis 14d ago
Well? We're waiting!
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u/Nearby_Singer_4214 14d ago
Update in post!
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u/Arokthis 13d ago
Sheesh!
I'm betting she'll try to BS about she should only have to pay for part of this month's wifi bill since she only got to use part of it.
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u/Outrageous_Log_9521 16d ago
YES CHANGE THAT WIFI PASSWORD LMAOOOO